I found out my cousin/was my best friend has a REALLY big thing for my husband. She knows I know and avoids me. She had a baby but wouldnt tell anyone who the dad is. Now shes trying to find her baby a good dad who she apparently decided should be my husband. Weve been married 1 yr and 2 months and are still doing great so i have nothing to worry about with him. I did the best I could to help her in a lot of ways and feel totally backstabbed. Do I leave it alone or... need advice.
2006-12-22 10:36:30 · 7 answers · asked by southerngirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you should confront her. Not violently, but you need to be SURE that she knows you are aware of the situation, and that you won't tolerate any communication with him from her because of it. You should also tell her that you considered her to be your best friend, and that you feel betrayed and you can't trust her-and that's the biggest disappointment. There are too many other men in the world for her to be worried about taking yours. No good will come out of fighting with her. Either she will feel guilty or she won't. Either he'll cheat (with her or anyone else) or he won't. All the fighting in the world won't change the outcome.
Your husband does need to be aware of it too, just so that he doesn't act friendly out of the fact that she's your cousin, and have her misinterpret it or encourage her to keep it up-maybe even talk to her together, and let him tell her that he will never be interested, even if the two of you were not together.
2006-12-22 11:55:13 · answer #1 · answered by dragonlady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your husband know about this situation? I think your cousin needs the Lord. I think prayer would be the best answer for this. However, prayer does no good if you don't believe God has the power to help you through. Have faith in God. He knows what he's doing. He has a reason behind everything he puts us through in life. Hope this was some help to you. Merry Christmas and best wishes for you and your hubby in 2007!!!
2006-12-22 18:53:02 · answer #2 · answered by Erickah Lhynn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sure about your husband and you trust him 100% you have NOTHING to worry about because regardlesss of what slut is throwing herself at him, his heart is yours and he will not risk losing you over some skanky pussy. With that said, you can't be stupid either, if your husband doesn't know about this you need to tell him and explain to him that you trust him but you don't want him socializing with her because it still bothers you that she feels that way about your man. I suggest you put on the best husband/wife show everytime you are around that ***** cousin of yours or anyone who will tell her about it so that she gets the point.... he's a happily married man, and he's not an option.
2006-12-22 18:52:20 · answer #3 · answered by gita76 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband should tell her, with you present, that he is not interested in her. That way it shows her that you and your husband are united, he's not talking to her behind your back, and she knows he will not keep anything from you. She'll go away. She probably is jealous of the relationship you have with your husband, and unfortunately is trying to ruin it. Let her know that you value her friendship (you did say she was your best friend), but you will not continue a friendship with her if she tries to ruin your marriage. It doesn't show a lot of respect for you.
2006-12-22 18:46:53 · answer #4 · answered by LMP25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knock her eyes out black and blue! Same thing if another guy wants to steal your guy away from you. Good enough, yes?
2006-12-22 19:40:18 · answer #5 · answered by FILO 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to grab that lil skank cousin for yours by the hair and tell her to go find her real baby~daddy and tell her to stop being a home~wreker!!
2006-12-22 18:40:00 · answer #6 · answered by mija~chula 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her alone if she was really your friend she would not be after your husband like that she has to be a b*tch
2006-12-22 18:44:02 · answer #7 · answered by tina 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋