We have been married for 2 years and dated for 3 before that, we have a 1 year old daughter and a nice life. My husband has a great job that doesn't pay well and because of our daughter I work retail...it seems though, that even though we have enough to pay the bills and eat and buy things we want...we don't have enough to save for much. We end up fighting all the time about money. We've tried a budget but his idea of a budget is saving everything thats left after bills and we don't get to buy food or anything. He doesn't understand that you can save a still eat and buy things you want, just in moderation. Any suggestions on how to stop the money fights?
2006-12-22 10:29:53 · 13 answers · asked by Mommy to One 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it doesn't pay well but is great because of where it will take him...and we have AMAZING benefits...401k...vacation time...bereavement...and they paid for my father-in-laws funeral...I'd say thats a great job!
2006-12-22 11:32:34 · update #1
Maybe a sit down with him and show all the aspects of paying bills and what you have left for food, entertainment, etc. He may change his mind.
2006-12-22 10:33:20 · answer #1 · answered by Andrea D. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been married 13 years and the money fights never end. Why not try opening a savings account, they can be opened with as little as $50, then after once you've paid your bills and gotten food then put what's left in the savings account. Another way to cut down on food costs is shop at Aldi or Save A Lot, they do not carry brand name stuff but you can get a good deal of food for a small amount of money..good luck!
2006-12-22 10:35:36 · answer #2 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's all about compromise. If you pay the bills then once all the bills are done take out a certain about for groceries and spilt what is left. Some weeks you will have more to spend and others not as much. This way you can still spend a little money which every woman needs to do but he is getting the satisfaction of also saving towards something bigger and better. The bickering about money won't stop but they should slow down because you are both getting your way!
2006-12-22 10:57:50 · answer #3 · answered by Angee D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Regard your savings plan as a bill -- pay it first. The money you save now is the most powerful money you will make. Contribute to your 401k, and hon, spend less on dining out. Marriage is full of agreements and compromises, and learning to resolve differences without rage appears to be a problem in your marriage. You seem to want to spend more than he does, and your income is nice, it is not elegant. You don't want to end of like these women in Costco -- demonstrating food to the shoppers.... they are all over 65, and still working because they saved too little. Open up an IRA, and start socking
2006-12-22 14:45:51 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time you get paid, open up a savings account in your name only. Then go along with his idea of how to budget. Put into that account what you would of spend for groceries. Then when he gripes there's no food, tell him it was his idea to do this and he can figure out a way to buy food.
If he doesn't you know you have the take money to feed you and your daughter only. Hubby can fend for himself.
2006-12-22 11:20:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother and father bicker about all of it the time. that's kinda pathetic... besides the indisputable fact that, my fellow and that i do not talk of it too a lot. basically when we try to get the faculty 3 hundred and sixty 5 days payed for or at the same time as i'm disillusioned at some ridiculous fee the faculty or the GRE try human beings are charging... money isn't the muse of all evil. the choose for that is. money is basically paper.
2016-12-01 02:30:10 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say save before you "buy the things we want". That's where your extra cash is going. Just get a direct deposit into a savings account where the $ is deducted from your paycheck automatically every pay period. You just have to learn to tighten your belts in the meantime. Other people do it, so you can too.
2006-12-22 10:34:20 · answer #7 · answered by supernaturaldj2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cut back on your unnecessary spending till you have some money saved in the bank. This could take a few month but you will survive.
2006-12-22 10:37:27 · answer #8 · answered by Grandpa Shark 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IVE BEEN MARRIED 29 YRS TO A GREAT GUY HE S MY HUSBAND MY LOVER AND MY BEST FRIEND BUT WHEN IT COMES TO MONEY WE WILL NEVER SEE EYE TO EYE I HAVE ACCEPTED THAT I WRITE DOWN THE THINGS I NEED AND THE NEXT WEEK HE GETS PD HE GIVE THE MONEY TO ME I PAD IT A LIL IN CAUSE I NEED SOMETHING ELES THATWAY WE DONT HAVE TO HEAR HIM SAY DO YOU KNOW WHAT THAT COST BE FOR YOU PUT IT IN THE BUGGY! SOME MEN ARE JUST LIKE THAT GOOD LUCK I AND REMEMBER THIS 2 SHALL PASS
2006-12-22 18:36:47 · answer #9 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like immaturity to me. You have to be on a budget, you also need to find the best deals on things you want, and the best possible prices on food that you like to eat. This means no take out food.
2006-12-22 12:01:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋