hi, ive been a relationship with my girlfriend almost 4 years. i was always in denial of the real person i was and only after meeting her i was more comfortable with who i really am and what i want in life! i have 2 lesian friends who have been together almost 18 years and a long time ago when they asked if i was gay, i said no,lol. i want to tell them and come out to them but im scared that they might dislike and reject me and think that i lied and decieved them. when the truth is that i didnt even know myself then,,,,,or what i wanted in life. im happy with my woman,,she is good to me, i just wish i knew how to break it to my friends so they dont freak out,,, thank you :)
2006-12-22 10:09:06 · 6 answers · asked by hopeless_romantic_chick 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Sometimes, I'm really nice to the people who ask questions, and give them gentle, kind answers.
Not so with you.
If you are afraid to admit who you are, then you should continue to lie to your "friends". As a matter of fact, if you think so little of your friends that you think they'd freak out if you were honest with them, you don't deserve them.
Grow up. Speak frankly with your friends, and apologize for keeping secrets from them.
2006-12-22 10:14:34 · answer #1 · answered by Stuart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the way your phrased it here seems pretty reasonable. I had a friend who denied he was gay for years and years, and when he did come out, I was just relieved that he was finally happy with who he was. I wasn't upset that he'd lied to me, because I knew he'd lied to himself more.
Just be sure to apologize but let them know how happy you are right now.
Good luck!
2006-12-22 18:12:51 · answer #2 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Simple, confront your friends about it. Just tell them how you feel. Maybe you were embaressed about the subject and you answered 'no' or say that you didn't know what you wanted at the time. I went thro the same thing. If they are your friends, they should accept your decisions. good luck!
2006-12-22 18:13:28 · answer #3 · answered by HolyFuck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be *completely* honest with them. Tell them. Tell them why you told them. Tell them why you answered like you did years ago. Hopefully they're decent people and will be ok with you hiding that from them. If not, find more sane friends...
2006-12-23 04:43:24 · answer #4 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be able to just sit down and tell them. Explain it to them just as you wrote it down. If they're really your friends then they will understand realize that it wasn't about you not trusting them and that you just didn't know who you were.
2006-12-22 19:26:16 · answer #5 · answered by Broken hearted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi! If your friends are truly good friends, they will understand and remain your friends. No matter what!
:o)
2006-12-22 18:12:46 · answer #6 · answered by Wendy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋