I've dated/lived with their son for 2 years. They don't act like they dislike me, but they show no interest in me. His father tells him he is supporting me, which in reality it's the other way around. We're both college students and I have to make sure the bills are paid in time. My bf has told me things his dad has said about me and I've overhead him saying that I'm-destitute, impoverished and so on. I also overheard my bf tell his dad what my parents do for a living-and he said "you sure picked a winner".
I'm attractive, out-going and can have anyone I want. Why do I have to go through this? What would you do?
2006-12-22 10:03:31 · 21 answers · asked by PlasticTrees 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
At one point their son hadn't paid me his share of the bills for 4 months-but my parents are impoverished??
2006-12-22 10:04:47 · update #1
You don't have to live with them, you have to live with their son. He is evidently happy with your arrangement.
You might want to discuss this with your bf rather than the 'rents. It might put your bf in a bad position if this escalates from one-way sorta-hostility to a straight up disagreement.
2006-12-22 10:07:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You would not want to confront them per say. However, discuss it with your boyfriend first. And then the two of you go over there and in a calm voice. You should ask them what is is about you that they do not care for. And why? However, be prepared for the answers which may hurt your feelings. They don't seem as if they are the nicest of people. I personally would not allow it to bother me and I would suggest to tell your boyfriend not to tell you things that are only going to hurt your feelings. They probably don't appreciate the fact that the two of you are living together and are not married. Or they are just really shallow uppity individuals and it would not matter who you were, they wont like anyone he is with until the relationship is over and she is no longer in the picture. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-22 10:16:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, why are YOU considering confronting HIS parents? You aren't the problem and neither are the parents. It seems like the real problem is your boyfriend.
Where does his father get the idea that your boyfriend is supporting you? Somehow his parents got the idea that their son is supporting you and it doesn't sound like your boyfriend is really doing anything to disabuse them of that. Is he telling them that you are supporting him? Or are his parents just mental cases that no matter what anyone including their own son tells them they will always believe he's perfect?
Why isn't your boyfriend defending you with his parents? Don't you matter enough to him that he wouldn't put up with them obviously saying very rude and degrading things about you? And why is your boyfriend telling you all these nasty things??
Your boyfriend is probably bad mouthing you to his parents behind your back so that he can look like the golden one. And he's not doing NOTHING to defend your honor and he's just insulting you more by needlessly telling you the untrue mean things his father says? Dump him and kick him to the curb so that his parents can see him for the loser he really is.
2006-12-22 10:17:58 · answer #3 · answered by hw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would find a new boyfriend. It is like this, why in the world is he repeating this stuff to you and is your boyfriend defending you when this stuff is said? How many of his Dad's attitudes does he share? Does he have an "you are lucky to have me attitude." It doesn't seem like the dream relationship. You are too young to muck up your life with someone that is willing to hurt your feelings and for what reason? Dump him and his dad! Get a new lease and a new lease on life. Close your ears when he crys out for you to return. He has a good deal and he knows it. You pay the bills anyway, so pay for them in your own place where you can have peace of mind and find someone else who wont say things to damage your spirit.
2006-12-22 10:18:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they sound too far off the "we'll never get it" end and probably just dont have a clue. sounds like your boyfriend is a loser and is probably the spitting duplicate of the parents as to why he does not stick up for you is beyond me.
i am glad you have some common sense and self esteem so that when you dump this guy you find a guy who will treat you like a woman and not a sister who he is sleeping with.
I can hear your bf crying now that you are even talking bad about his parents.
2006-12-22 10:08:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you really need to speak to them directly about this and tell them off. And where is your boyfriend while this is going on, cowering in some corner? HE should be saying something, also, and you should be demanding this from him. What sort of husband is he going to be for you, and what is his name, Clark Kent?
When I was young (this happened about 35 years ago) I went out on a first date with a girl, and she wouldn't have anything to do with me after I failed to stand up to her mother, who was being rather pushy and obnoxious.
2006-12-22 10:06:16 · answer #6 · answered by Joe C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i would confront them about it because they need to get it right how you had to pay the bills and he didnt give you his share of it for 4 months!!! But i wouldnt leave if you realy like him and its just his parents then i wouldnt worry about it too much!!! well i hope i was at least some help to you!!!!!!!!
2006-12-22 10:08:39 · answer #7 · answered by boy_crzy39403126 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once you bypass over continuously say hi and ask how are their day going or how became artwork. try small communicate previously going into their sons mattress room. i'm mom and that i'd opt for to attraction to close or communicate somewhat with my sons female friend. reason someone who's provided in to seem for my son and under no circumstances say hi in my domicile is impolite. even if it really is a warm day attempt to come back over with some ice cream or if its chilly come over with warm cocoa. attempt to get to attraction to close them ask about them. and don't be afraid to inform your boyfriend if his father and mom don't like you his father and mom are major and so are you so do somewhat small communicate and in the journey that they rigidity a grin at you smile decrease back in addition they opt for to attraction to close in case you'll keep there son out of hassle
2016-10-16 21:13:41 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to marry this guy, win over the parents. If this guy isn't your future man to be, ignore them, who cares what the parents think. If they want to be jerks, thats their problem, you are the one having fun with their son and they can't take that away from you.
2006-12-22 10:07:48 · answer #9 · answered by bluechick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok the sex must be hot....because you are tolerating things you don't sound as though you want to tolerate it so why are you tolerating it? 1st question. 2ndly---I sure in the hell would ask....but not point blank- indicate what you over heard , that you really like their son a lot and what the hell is up with them?!?!?!
2006-12-22 10:39:18 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋