I am getting ready to get married, but my boyfriend is super jealous of my ex-husband for no reason. In the beginning of the relationship we had issues with him and his ex-wife. He continued to contact her anc vice versa for months and some of their conversations were very entising. I on the other hand, cut my ties with my ex and when I decided to move on, I found this man and am focusing on our future. I have to meet my ex to exchange children with him and my boyfriend accuses me of everything under the sun with my ex and I just don't understand. I have NEVER given him any reason to doubt my word or my love for him, although he has. Is this just his paranoia coming through because of his lies?
2006-12-22 09:39:12 · 6 answers · asked by Cali Girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
His paranoia, his problem.
He is reflecting his inner nature onto your ex assuming that as a man all men are alike.
Sounds like a recipee for much future conflict and I would strongly advise that you take this issue out of its present festering state and take the bull by the horns and dont let go until you have fully thrashed it out.
It may take outside help, but until he is able to see the picture of insecurity he paints, it will not go away.
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2006-12-22 10:20:53 · answer #1 · answered by tillermantony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it's ok for him to do things but not you. If he had lied to you before, he may do it again. With my experience, the person accusing is actually the person cheating. There should be red flags all over the place for you. You don't want to marry someone, then be miserable, especially because he's so jealous. I've seen friends of mine that are so jealous, they don't let their wives see their own families, or friends. There is absolutely no excuse for that type of behavior. Don't put yourself in a position that you'll eventually regret. So at least postpone your wedding for now, until he chills out. Again, you don't want to be miserable. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-22 09:57:17 · answer #2 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend is like this now then he will be like that when your married.I know. I use to be married to a man like that. I thought that getting married would solve eveything but it didn't. It only got worse.He started controlling me real bad. I couldn't do anything right and nothing was good enough for him.We are now divorced.
2006-12-22 09:54:59 · answer #3 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever he is accusing u of he is mostlikely doing. if he is jelous for no reason than he has problems, either with control issues, or he is cheating with his ex. would definitly think twice about marrying him under the circumstances.
2006-12-22 09:47:48 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Need advice? am I wrong in going to Fla where my daughter and granddaughter are living with my ex husband? My 2nd daughter and I are going down for a few days to help out my daughter who is struggling with bipolar/depression. My ex is trying but its hard on him. He takes care of our 1 year old granddaughter and tries to work from home. My daughter needs help but no health insurance. She moved to Fla in Sept due to a domestic assault her boyfriend initiated. My boyfriend of 8 yrs is beside himself with anger and jealousy, My ex and I have been divorced for 18 years and have been friends for 10 of those years. Is my boyfriend right in telling me I should cut off all ties with my ex. is it weird to stay in the same house with him and my 2 daughter and granddaughter for a few days.
2015-11-27 06:54:01 · answer #5 · answered by mary 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he feels that becoz he was dishonest then u are trying to get back at him.
2006-12-22 10:00:44 · answer #6 · answered by kute_regina_gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋