advice on moving out?

Question

Im 20 years old and I've never lived out of my parents house..my boyfriend of three years and I recently decided that we will be moving out together in a couple months, does anyone have any advice on how to balence money, keeping the relationship heathly, cleaning house, that sort of thing? Any input helps Thanks!! =]

Answer 1

you better start watching your parents and other married or people living with one another and make it a routine to share and do chores. relationships have to be equal. once one of you start thinking the other isn't pulling their weight around the house or with money and bills it gets ugly and most do not survive. go on your gut feelings most of the time and learn to read your partner that helps a lot. good luck and happy holidays to you.

Answer 2

My wife and I moved out to California before we got married. Here's some advice we usually give acquaintances that are planning on something similar:

Get a dry-erase board and write down the tasks that need to be done (dishes, garbage, bathrooms, mopping, watering plants, walking dogs, beds, laundry). Assign an equal amount of tasks to each person, and check the tasks off as they are done on a dialy basis.

Reccommendation: Get an apartment with a washer/dryer, or the hookups. This will make your lives ten million times easier.

Go grocery shopping together. That way you can both get what you want. Make sure that expenses are shared on an income basis. So if you earn 100 and he earns 150, he should pitch in a little more for bills. After all, you both want to have spending money at the end of the day.

Pay your bills as early as possible. This will boost your credit. Try to put at least $5 a week away in a separate account for a rainy day, vacation, new car, big-screen TV, whatever. You just never know when something will happen and you will need that extra cash in hand.

Never go to bed angry. It will make your life hell.

Make sure you keep your place neat. I know this sounds like mommy talking but you will feel better coming home after work when you don't have a mountain of dishes from the last five days waiting to be washed.

Take out your garbage daily. Nothing worse than coming home to a stinky place.

Buy plants. They will make your place look happy, and it will be an "interactive" decoration item.

Don't be surprised if after the honeymoon period wears off you have days in which you just want to strangle the guy. Everyone goes through that. Just talk everything out and kiss and make nice before stepping into the bedroom.

Answer 3

Talk about it before you move into together. Find out what his spending habbits are vs. yours. Split each bill down the middle: Rent, Electric,Water,Sewer and Garbage,home phone if you choose to get one. Make sure your name is on the lease of your new home also. Do not join your checking or savings acc, together, as in the end it will cause problems-or at least wait until you've lived together long enough to know the others spending habbits. Don't co sign any loans for the other either until you know how the others spending habbits are. Do not get roomates right away -if ever, 2 a company 3 is a crowd no matter how well each others intentions are, someone always ends up bitter. Don;t forget to set aside date night at least once a month for the two of you, so you don't forget how much the other means to you. Be upfront with each other as to what your housekeeping expectations are....Don't forget to tell each other you love them ea and every day:)...Good Luck! Best Wishes:)

Answer 4

draw up a contract that you both agree to and sign. Each one gets a copy. Our daughter did this with her boyfriend (he is now her hubby) and it worked!!!!! They drew up one spelling everything out.

Answer 5

Talk about everything when it happens and don't keep secrets.
Work things out as you go along, don't store it up.

Answer 6

everything 50-50