A few weeks ago my sister brought home her new boyfriend for Thanksgiving. For some reason the guy have me a creepy feeling. When I found out she planned to bring him back for Christmas I decided to go online and see if I could find any info about him. Well, I entered his name into http://background-records.net/ and it turns out that he is a criminal!
He has been convicted of sexual assault and felony drug possession. If my dad finds out he will be very angry. I don't know if my sister knows about this guys past but I do not want him in our home. What is the best way to get her to leave her boyfriend behind when she comes home this weekend? I would appreciate any advice because I don't know how to handle the situation. Thanks.
2006-12-22 09:29:30 · 23 answers · asked by Kelly 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
If you live with your parents then it is really none of your business if he is there or not. NOR is it your business to tell your parents what you found.
and so... let your sister know the snooping you did. Maybe play it off as you were looking up your friends and typed in his name for fun. At that point if she wants to tell them she can, if not leave her alone you warned her and it is her life.
2006-12-22 09:40:18 · answer #1 · answered by msapplebottomculo 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you live with your parents so it is not up to you as to whether she gets to bring him or not, that is your parents' call; go ahead and tell you parents and show them the link and let them take it from there. I hope that your father especially will keep in mind that your sister has no knowledge of this guys criminal background. She may say that you are doing it to break them up if you just try to do it yourself. Your mother and father will have a better idea how to deal with this problem because they have more experience with dealing with life in general.
I hope that everything works out for you and your family. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.
2006-12-22 11:16:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show your sister the evidence and talk to her about it. Tell her you are really worried and don't want this stranger in your house. I mean, it's your house too. Or talk to your parents. Or even get your parents, your sister, and your sister's boyfriend, and try to work this whole thing out. Maybe he changed and is really nice at heart now. Maybe not.
You never know for sure unless you really know him and his point of view of his past. Good luck. I hope your sister believes you instead of her boyfriend. You are her sister. :)
2006-12-22 09:34:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You could show her the link. I am certainly concerned that he will assault her. Let her decide what to do. She may be mad at you for awhile, but she may eventually come around.
Some people are headstrong and may decide to hold onto the person even longer. I hope your sister is not like that. Good luck.
2006-12-22 09:45:44 · answer #4 · answered by salsera 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
huh... well, i guess you could tell her that her boyfriends that kinda guy, but then again. She might now, dont hold too much faith in humanity, thats the only tip i can give you. If you gon't want him to go, you have to make sure everyone openly knows, including him that he isn't welcomed by you. :-/ sry can't be more help. but i think that's the best way.
2006-12-22 09:33:22 · answer #5 · answered by CaptainTruthful 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
there is absolutely no way to do it gently or easily. send her the report u found out about and sign ur name
she may never speak to u again but if she dumps the guy it will b worth it and i'm sure she will eventually forgive you.
b sure to put in a note about ur feelings about the guy and why u looked him up
good luck and make sure u tell her u love her and that is why u did it.
2006-12-22 09:35:11 · answer #6 · answered by Nora G 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is your father's home. You must still live with him. You have no right to do or say a thing. Your sister will find out about him, if this is true. Stay out of it.
2006-12-22 09:33:55 · answer #7 · answered by Shossi 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Are you positive it's the same man as on the website? If so, you need to tell her about it. Protect your sister.
If you can't convince her, go ahead and tell your dad. Maybe he'll know what to do.
2006-12-22 09:34:01 · answer #8 · answered by Iris 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell her he makes you uncomfortable, and you would rather she not bring him. Or you can tell her you were planning Christmas for family only...not additional guests. I wouldn't want him in my home either, especially not with his past. Personally, I would tell her flat out he is not welcome in my home, I should be able to feel comfortable and safe in my own house.
2006-12-22 09:34:15 · answer #9 · answered by missyhardt 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Trust your instincts. The vibes you're getting are from your subconscious.
Protect your family. Shoot straight with sis. Contact her before she comes down and tell her not to bring him, even if he has paid his debt.. Stick to your guns even if it causes friction.
2006-12-22 09:41:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋