What are the best ways in raising teenagers or what parenting style do teenagers respect ?

Answer 1

Being a 17 year old, I can give you some possible styles that will work and some that won't.

GIVE THEM EVERYTHING!! No, just kidding. =) However, joke around with your teen, don't just lay down the law, and enforce it. Get involved, but not too involved. Here are my parents' ways...

Father: Laid back, reliable, makes so many jokes, when we disagree we TALK about it. He lets me talk, I let him talk. He does not immediately jump down my throat. He never says "I'm the parent, I'm right, you're wrong...." BS. He lets me have freedoms, but watches over me. He is very careful, but is not always careful. Basically he knows when to step back and let me make my mistakes.

Mother: She is always needing to know the immediately second where I'm at, and what I'm doing. I understand it is needed, but not so strictly. I always call no matter what, I don't understand why she won't give me space. She yells at me over the smallest things, and doesn't let me get my opinion in. If a mistake is made, it is the end of the world. She doesn't laugh and joke with me. If we disagree, all hell has broken loose. She is right, I'm wrong.

Now, which one do you think works better? I'm a really laid back person, willing to tell my parents what they need to know, what they would like to know, if they're nice about it. I am mature, and can hold decent conversations with people twice my age, but my mother treats me like I cannot grasp those things.

I respect my parents when they respect me.

I know that parents do no want to be a friend, because they are not a friend. I'm thankful for that, however, I do need friendship at some degree. Be a parent, and be a friend. Talk to them as if they are on your level don't downsize them.

I don't know if I helped, but that is all I have to say right now.

Answer 2

Wow, I don't have a teenager yet but one day my daughter will be there and I hope that I can be just a great as my mom was.
Just be open and honest about everything! I mean everything. Communication is the key. Even if you are the one doing all the talking. Something will get through. Be understanding, remember what life was like when you were a teen, and take into consderation that times are changing. Use ice breakers when dealing with tough situations and conversations. If it's a male, watch a movie, play a video game, go out to eat. If it's a female, SHOPPING, salon. Something to where they are cofortable, you're comfortable, and everybody is relaxed. In the heat of an arguement, just wait til everyone calms down. Because nothing will get solved then. Hope this helped a lil if not a lot.

GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 3

Alright, so when I was that age, a teenager...

I didn't really respect my parents because they didn't respect me.
You as a parent have to set the limits, your kids will try to push them, if you let them succeed then you've become a pushover. So basically, let them get involved in their upbringing. Let them help you make the rules and any penalties that will result from the rules being broken.

The years between 12 and 18 will go quickly. this is the time that you as a parent have to prepare them for life. You can't protect them from everything. You have to let them experiance life but give them something to fall back on when it hits them too hard.

One last thing, let them voice their views on subjects. my mother was dead set in her ways and everything we disagreed on she always loved to say "this is right, your wrong, change your attitude" so I would shut up and not talk to her to avoid conflict. We ended up never having a really good relationship. voice your concerns and if its a major issue put your foot down but always let them voice their views and concerns....

Good luck with parenting!

Answer 4

Kids need the security of knowing exactly what is expected of them. They NEED boundaries and to know that something nasty will happen if they overstep those boundaries....maybe TV is banned, or there is no going out for a couple of days. Whatever, parents must never make threats they are not prepared to carry out and they MUST try to parent with humour and remember what they were like as teenagers. We all go through it and most of us survive. Kids need discipline and to know, without doubt, that they are loved....come what may. You may not always LIKE your child, but you must always love it. Be honest and fair and remember, that everything is a phase and most kids turn out wonderful.

Answer 5

i have a 13 year old son, and i raise him the way i always have and the same way i do with the other boys which is no nonsense parenting.

with teens you have to remember its a difficult time, so what i do is even though i am a no nonsense parenting i cut him alot more slack then his younger brothers, i let him get away with more stuff then i would my other kids, i dont come down so harsh if he loses his temper, but their is a line which if he is crossed will get him punished but even then the punishment is age approprate, what you dont want to do is just not punish them because they are kids at heart and need it, but dont treat them like a little kid or they rebel

Answer 6

My parents were really strict with me but i'd suggest you have an open relationship where your children feel they can come to you and talk to you about everything no matter how embarassing don't be so quick to yell and let them know you love them and they can always talk to you now don't misunderstand what i am saying i am not telling you to give your child everything he wants but you can be the one who they feel always have their back they don't do well constantly being yelled at and put down and always remember a child is a product of their environment so treat them accordingly

Answer 7

If you want respect, you have to give respect.
No shouting, name calling, NO hitting.
Be prepared to give sensible reasons for the things you require......none of this BECAUSE I SAID SO business.
Make it clear that if rules are broken there will be consequences and then stick to your plan.
Also make it clear that you will do WHATEVER you need to do to keep your teen safe......if that means searching their room when they give you reason to think they might have bad stuff going on, or forbidding them to go certain places or hang with certain kinds of people.
And tell them OFTEN and sincerely that you love them, no matter what their response is.

Answer 8

when my daughter is older i want to be the type of mother who can also be her friend. i want her to be able to confide in me even if it is something that she thinks i will be mad at her for. i.e boys,drinking and drugs etc as me and my mother never had a relationship like that and i would of loved to have. i could never confide in her about anything as she was very strict and would of come down on me so many times.

i wanna be easy going but not so much so that my daughter can wrap me around her finger. i will put my foot down on some things or compromise but i wont let her get what she wants when she wants it.

also i want to be a fun mum i.e girly shopping trips, trips to the hairdressers and beauticians etc.

do lots of fun things with her be her mum but be her best friend too. i just hope thats what she will want.

Answer 9

I speak kindly, listen and respect them. I have one of my own. Plus I take out the time to show him he's appreciated. I say what I mean and mean what I say. I have certain rules and I explain those rules and also let him know it is part of life for him to fight me, it is also a part of life that I hammer down when needed. As my job is to guide him into the future not make his future for him.

Answer 10

teens are generally disrepectful and tend not to show when they do respect something, esp when it comes to parents. i beleive taht teens respond better to parents who are casually involved in thier life, know the basics of what's going on in thier lives and who are HONEST with them. if your snooping through ther room and treating them like thier 5 and spying on them and all that stuff, they wont respect you because you wouldnt want them do that to you.basically you could almost asnsweryour own w