Well my problem is the fact that I care alot about what people think of me especailly women in particular.The reason for this is because in the past I've had some woman that just don't like me for no reason.For instance, at work, I'll speak to some of my woman co workers and they'll just look right past me,(I be like damn) but then on the otehr hand,I have some woman co-workers that will tell me I'm one of the nicest people they've met,so I just dont get it,sometimes at school too I have some women who won't speak , i even had one girl bump into me and didn't say sorry, so I think she did that on purpose.And even some of my current woman friendships that I have, one of my friends, came over to my house for a get together, and then when she left called me a hoe and after that when I call she doesn't return my calls.I'm like damn why do i have bad relationships with woman? is it something that I'm doing? And how can I stop trying to make people like me.,...I might need a therapist
2006-12-22 09:01:24 · 9 answers · asked by Misguided Woman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
For one I'm definetly not a hoe, actaully I 'm pretty damn conservative.
2006-12-22 09:11:40 · update #1
My name is Dawud AbdulWali' Abbas
I am a man but I can relate to your problems.in this life time we as human beings are trying so desperately to gain something that we already have, self acknowlegement. Do you know who you are? if so, you do not have to validate your true essence to anyone."period!!!! let others do as they do, something about you makes them feel less than, so first and foremost, they are going to do anything in there power to making you feel small as though you did something wrong, you did nothing wrong and no you do not need a therapist, THEY DO!!!!!
2006-12-22 09:27:48 · answer #1 · answered by DJenks64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry so much about other people's personalities and shortcomings. It's not what they call you, it's what you answer to.
Have respect and love for yourself and surround yourself with positive, intelligent people. Sometimes there are people who won't speak and show you bad manners. That's their shortcoming and their weakness.
Do what your mama taught you. Have manners. Say hello, please and thank you. Don't respond to the negativity with the same thing. Some women are insecure. Some people just love to see you sweat. They get worse when the know it bothers you. Those are weak people with small minds. Be a professional in the workplace. If there is a real problem, take it to a supervisor.
On the other hand, if people are treating you badly, examine your behavior to make sure that you aren't doing or saying things that may offend them. Examine yourself and your behavior. There is a huge difference between confidence and arrogance. If there is no reason, you have the right to defend yourself against rudeness. Speak calmly with the offending individual and ask them to tell you what they perceive the problem to be.
Communication is the key to all interpersonal relationships.
BTW friends don't call friends hoes. To the curb with that one.
2006-12-22 09:11:18 · answer #2 · answered by Tellin' U Da Truth! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not a victim so there is something either you're not realizing or expressing over the net. No one goes around just not liking anyone without reason particularly in a work environment and especially someone you considered to be a friend.
Unless your friend has mental issues she wouldn't randomly call you a hoe unless your behavior reflected such or at least her perception of your behavior. Think about what you've been doing to possibly elicit these reactions in just about everyone around you.
Think about how you can be nicer at work, communicate better with your friends etc.
I doubt seriously you need a therapist but maybe you do if you're in complete denial about how you add to the way people treat you.
2006-12-22 09:07:02 · answer #3 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women don't like other women just because they are jealous of them... that's the main reason why women can't get along with each other.
2006-12-22 09:05:19 · answer #4 · answered by Miss E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u seek validation and want to have friends. and want the friends to treat u as u do them. did u ever think that they might be jelous of u. i would not base my self worth on what a few women think of me, just go find new friends.
2006-12-22 09:53:52 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE NOT DOING ANYTHING WRONG!!! Dont change who you are just to please some other trifling person who does not appreciate. You will never be able to please everyone and someone will always not like you. You should not care. That is one less headache in your life. Focus your attention, love, and care on those who do appreciate you and leave the naysayers and haters to their drama.
2006-12-22 09:04:03 · answer #6 · answered by â¤??? ?å???? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are having the same issues as me. I bet these women are just intimidated by you. Just hold your head high and smile!
2006-12-22 09:03:56 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only female friends i have like girls, other than that other females dont like me. thats why i have more male friends.
2006-12-22 09:07:57 · answer #8 · answered by death_of_faries 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i used to have that problem but i learned to control our attitude you feel me
2006-12-22 09:08:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋