My mum has been with her boyfriend for quite some time. Lately me and him and an argument (about 2 weeks ago) and since then hes been insulting, trying to hit me and other things. My mum is a good person and keeps giving him another chance to behave but now its just gone over the top. When its only me and him in the house he would purposely annoy me, shout at me and throw things. The when someone like my mum of any friends come in the house he starts acting all friendly and stuff. Yesterday I was thinking of leaving the house, this shows that its really getting to me now.
I really need advice, someone help please
2006-12-22 08:49:54 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Im 17. Its the things hes doing. Hes getting along with my family (possibly even better than me) and I know for a fact they are taking his bait, hes doing it to get my family on his side. its like as if its better if I wasnt even here, Ive told everything to my step mother and she agrees that hes an asshole. But the thing is that christmas is comming up and with my mums parents here and everything I dont want to look like im messing everything up, if I just suddenly move away then its going to effect my mum. Couple days ago he was annoying me and I was prepared to leave then my mum came through the door and I told her I was leaving and she started crying and I really do hate to see my mum crying. But anyway back to him, hes like hiding his true self that he is an asshole but hiding it when other people are around. I want to show everyone what he is like.
2006-12-22 09:09:38 · update #1
How old r u, Damien? It's not unusual that there is a lot of competition for mom's attention when she has got a new bf in her life. Not only from your side but I am sure her bf is trying to gain territory in her life and that conflicts between the both of you. The chemistry doesn't seem to be good between the two of you and, if I were you mom, I would think twice and dump him. All I can say is that you have to talk with your mom and make her aware of what he is doing and that you two do not get on, which I think she already knows. If you have somewhere to go to, do it. Maybe your dad, a friend, an aunt, grandmother, whatever.
2006-12-22 08:58:00 · answer #1 · answered by ladysorrow 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wont be able to show him in his true colours...he is too good at it....trouble is one day he may turn on your mum the same way...you say you are 17....maybe its time to leave the nest...you could do it for work or college so as not to upset your mum....there isnt much you can do over christmas except make sure there is always someone else there with YOU...Good Luck..
2006-12-22 10:17:48 · answer #2 · answered by Bluefurball 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you ask your mother for a meeting, with him? Can you sit down and discuss it? He obviously loves your mother - you've got up his nose - are you cheeky (sorry, but most teenagers are mouthy which us adults can't cope with)?
Maybe you need some ground rules that you can all work out together, for your mother's sake. It's very hard being a parent, but as I read this, his behaviour is abysmal. Unfortunately my daughter if 14 and often sees things only from her point of view. You might need some mediation help - your mother would be able to get this.
2006-12-23 01:36:54 · answer #3 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your mum how you are feeling. Talk to her when its possible for you to have time alone and when he's not around. Try not to exaggerate, just be honest and tell her how it upsets you. Moving out isn't going to sort it and I'm sure your mum will miss you. If you can't talk to her, is their one of her friends you could talk to?
2006-12-22 09:02:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you got a nan or someone else your close to TELL THEM they will probably be a bit more understanding than your mom as she is in the middle of it and he could make out that hes doing nothing wrong and your mom could end up taking his side please tell someone dont leave it till its too late or pick me as best answer so i can get your details and i will try to help you sort this out
have a happy christmas
2006-12-22 09:01:33 · answer #5 · answered by anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it your real dad is not on the scene. If not, then that's a pity cos i'm sure he would sort this guy out. Have you not got a grandfather or an uncle that you could speak to?
2006-12-22 09:06:37 · answer #6 · answered by chelsea19622000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you, childline can help.
older, have you got a job. get a mate or 2 that work and rent a house.
try talking to your mum, or try talking to him. find out why he is being a wanker.
2006-12-22 08:56:15 · answer #7 · answered by deltagremlin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
record his nasty behaviour on your mobile phone you can show your mom what he is really like then if you don't have a phone lend one from a Friend
2006-12-22 09:18:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom about this she needs to know
2006-12-22 08:53:53 · answer #9 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TALK TO YOUR MOM ABOUT THIS!!!
2006-12-22 08:55:03 · answer #10 · answered by princess1001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋