I have been married 2 times and a new lady that wants to marry but i want true love to marry again.
2006-12-22 08:37:49 · 14 answers · asked by darrell14835929 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
True love to marry should have been your first goal. Don't remarry until your sure otherwise you'll hurt her and others. There's nothing wrong with you because you can't fall inlove. You might just be insecure and won't allow yourself you or maybe you havent met her. There's nothing wrong with being unmarried so long as your happy. Once the perfect gal comes around, lower your guard and enjoy the taste of each moment that we've all come to call ' inlove'
2006-12-22 08:42:12 · answer #1 · answered by Vasha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people think of love as this feeling you have just come over you. Love is not some magical thing. Loving someone is an action. To love a woman, you need to have respect for her and the decisions she makes, trust her, admire her, share common interests, goals and morals, its not all about being attracted to each other or liking the same music. Being divorced twice already tells me maybe you weren't looking for the right things in a woman, and also that you aren't ready for the long haul with someone. Maybe you shouldn't rush anything and take the time to get to know this woman on all levels and see how she runs her life and if she is the woman that you want to be the mother of your 84 children. :-)
2006-12-22 08:42:10 · answer #2 · answered by Princess~C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then do not marry until you find true love. It is well worth waiting for because it is the only true magic in this world. I know because I married the love of my life and he died last year but I would do it all again even if I knew what was going to happen. It is that good, nothing better so do not settle, hold out for true love, it does exist.
2006-12-22 08:39:51 · answer #3 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have not discovered what true love is. It does not happen like the movies with violins playing in the background while the rest of the world fades out. Love is more deliberate than falling which is accidental. Think of qualities you want in a lifetime partner. What human imperfections can you live with and which ones would be impossible for you to bear. Look for those qualities in your current lady. If they are not there kindly move on so that she can get on with the business of finding someone appropriate.
2006-12-22 08:47:35 · answer #4 · answered by babydoll 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been married twice but have never been in love? Sounds like you're doing it backwards! A marriage without love is doomed to fail, it's that simple. Just work at BEING the right person first, and the right one for you will come along. You can't rush it though, it's a process.
Good luck!
2006-12-22 08:44:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id be perplexed by someone who was so involved with me that would want to marry me and I had not reciprocated any of their emotions. I think you'd had to have let her on so you need to set her straight before her heart is broken.
Let her know you didn't make the best choices in the past, it resulted in two divorces and right now you need to take your time to make the best decision. Explain to her you care for her deeply but you want to build a solid foundation to the relationship before you marry her just because it seems right. Let her know what you've learned from your experience and why it's important to you to take your time in matter's of love at your age.
2006-12-22 08:43:30 · answer #6 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
New lady? How new? Remember, marry in haste repent at leisure.
Seriously though if the feelings aren't there don't just because she wants to. Third time isn't always the charm. Besides, twice divorced - do you really want to get married again?
2006-12-22 08:43:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is true love?
If you continue to search for it you will never get married. AND, how 'new' is this "new lady"?
If you aren't sure about her then don't marry her, but bear in mind, if the only uncertainty is that it isn't true love, think carefully, it may not exist!!
2006-12-22 08:41:59 · answer #8 · answered by Just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with you, everyone just falls in love at different times. I dont think you should marry anyone until you are sure she is the right one. Love isnt supposed to be something that you expect or wait for, it just happens.
2006-12-22 08:40:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't settle. If you are questioning now, you know it isn't right. True love is worth the wait. You will find the right one and you will know it when you do. Good Luck!
2006-12-22 08:45:59 · answer #10 · answered by Peepers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋