You work for a living, support yourself and decide to take a trip. One of your male friend's tell you that you are acting rebellious and selfish by doing things you want. Then they call you a hooker and bash everything about you. Would you say something and if so, what?
2006-12-22 08:37:07 · 44 answers · asked by scared_heart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I would take the higher road and say "im sorry you feel that way" and walk away.
2006-12-22 08:42:06 · answer #1 · answered by msapplebottomculo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a feeling you're not telling us the whole story. You know, there are two sides to every medal. What's his reason to have told you all this, and reacted the way he did? I would have to say that he's probably partially right.
On the other hand, I can't imagine someone naming you all these names and you still being friends with them... Why do you allow this, do you lack self-esteem??
Yes, you have to think of yourself too, but think about what will happen to the people you leave behind? Are there maybe gonna be some not-to-be-missed events back home while you're away?? You can't just give up on all your obligations. People count on you. When you fulfill all your "duties", then you take a vacation. Otherwise, it does seem selfish.
Or maybe, your "friend" would like to visit this specific destination, too, but he can't afford it, so he's a bit jealous.
2006-12-22 08:53:30 · answer #2 · answered by Petra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for answering this as I am a bloke - but I would need to hear his side of the story.
At the end of the day, life is too short and sometimes you need to go out there and do what you like. Selfish is not murder! More people should be selfish if it means that they are going to be happy. Look after number one makes sense! I would rather share the world with happy selfish people than miserable stressed ones!
Sorry, but I'm not selfish in real life! I am fantasising on the perfect life!
2006-12-22 08:42:05 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I would say depends on how close this "male friend" is. If the relationship is casual, I'd tell him my decisions are none of his gol-durn business. If it's romantic, I'd tell him my decisions are none of his gol-durn business, and he can shove it. In either case, the guy sounds crazy. Red flag time. If he doesn't back off, it may be time to break out the old Emergency Protective Order, because any guy who acted this way toward me is obviously taking way more control over me than he is entitiled to, I don't care if we're *married.*
2006-12-22 08:44:49 · answer #4 · answered by cruztacean1964 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just discovered the value of that friendship. take the trip and forget about the jerk "friend".
If he comes back later remenber another word for hooker is wh*re(* for o). Do want to be around someone that thinks your a wh*re?
Don't get too catty though or you'll just give him more ammunition for name calling. The best way to reply though is to smile, turn and walk away. It will drive him nuts.
2006-12-22 08:45:40 · answer #5 · answered by Julie Hartford 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this "friend" is jealous because you have the opportunities to do things because you pay the cost to be the boss in your home. But a "friend" wouldnt hate, but instead be happy for you that you can do those nice things for yourself. Might want to rethink this person being in your life.
2006-12-22 08:39:42 · answer #6 · answered by â¤??? ?å???? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Furst of all i would cuss the shyt out of them i dont like people calling me things liek that and how the hell is telling me not to follow my dreams and stuff liek that im an independent women and i dont need a man to complete me i complete myself people who thnk that women cant do anything are selfish jerks.
2006-12-22 08:39:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just blow it off. He's just venting out his anger and frustration because he doesn't know how to save money in order to take himself on a trip. If he still acts like an idiot, then I would ask him what his problem is and why he feels it necessary to degrade you so badly.
2006-12-22 08:42:17 · answer #8 · answered by Jenny T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT?! They're calling you a hooker because you're taking a trip? I would definitely say something..."Don't ever talk to me again!" They're insane!!
2006-12-22 08:38:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell them they should stop being jealous,get a life and stop looking at mine and that they need help cause their self esteem sucks and if it does not stop i will beat the **** out of them and call the friendship quits
2006-12-22 08:41:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋