The mother of his child? When he was the reason they divorced? He was the one who claimed he was not happy and had an affair? He says she is a great mother but he was just "not happy". He moved on so quickly that I sometimes wonder if he has dealt with the divorce at all. A divorce that she filed for. She rarely contacts him - only when there is an issue with their son. She recently told him she has decided to move away and he was very upset. He says it is because she wants to take their son but I don't know. Is it possible for him to still be in love with her??
2006-12-22 08:33:42 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Still in love? Possible...or perhaps not in love but still feel awkward about her moving on because of their past relationship.
Will he forget? No, not unless he gets amnesia...we don't typically forget marriages or long term relationships, even when we get closure and move on from them. We will always remember them. We should remember them.
2006-12-22 08:37:40 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i don't think we ever forget a marriage partner or a relationship that meant something. but everyone has a past and another life they lived before they met who they are now with. perhaps he is upset that the child will be moving away. if he was the reason for the divorce, and said he was unhappy justifying having an affair, the same could happen to u. happiness is created within the person, not by others. we can always lay blame on others that we aren't happy for one reason or another, but in reality the falt lies within us. yes he could still love her, maybe he feels guilty for cheating on her, and sees how unfair he was to her, and knows there won't ever be a chance to see her anymore.
2006-12-22 16:45:43 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's possible....anything is. But I truly believe it's because he doesn't want to lose touch with his child.
Have you ever been married, and if so, have you forgotten your ex-husband? :) I know that I forgot my first husband the moment I packed his stuff and put it on the front porch!
What concerns me more though, is his affair. I wonder if he's ready for real commitment. Are you already married to this man? If not, I'd give him some time and space, because he may well not be ready to commit again so quickly and that would just be a disaster waiting to happen---for YOU.
2006-12-22 16:43:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be. But also could be a number of other things, like for 1 being concerned he won't be able to see his child as often or as easily.
X-Wives can be decent mothers but not great in terms of compatibility with the man in the relationship. Some people just aren't meant to be together even though they have children together.
I wouldn't worry about it too much, losing the ability to see yor child would cause me a lot of distress. Maybe you should talk with him about it and just offer him some support, he's probably just having a rough time thinking about not seeing his child!
Good Luck!
2006-12-22 16:40:19 · answer #4 · answered by ilgi2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's not so much that he is still in love her but that he feels guilty for not loving her and he thinks he owes her something for his guilt. He is truthful when he says he is upset of her moving because she is taking his son. He loves his son and knows that he won't get much time to see him like he can now. If there was no love in him for her then there isn't any there now. Trust him and make him feel that you believe him. He is with you now and that was also his choice. He needs you to be understanding about her moving and taking his son. Think of it as his son is moving and don't include her in your thinking.
2006-12-22 16:45:02 · answer #5 · answered by Karen A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will always love my ex wife...but not with the kind of love that a relationship is built or grows on.
I don't know about others, but I was there for the delivery of our children and saying that it is a miracle is not saying enough for the experience.
You need to move on with your own life and find someone with the same moral values that you have.
2006-12-22 16:38:07 · answer #6 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Possibly. They married for a reason. He may be regretting the end of his marriage. If he had an affair he put aside his feelings for her. Now that he is realising that she is ok without him he has finally figured out that he may have made a mistake. Reality can suck sometimes.
2006-12-22 16:40:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question made me cry...I couldve written it myself for the same thing happened to me and I still ask the same questions...He still contacts me almost everyday...I contact him when I need to...I'm just trying to get over the hurt and move on and find happiness...34 yrs we have been together..Thats a lifetime...I know he still loves me and I do him but I now need to take care of me.
2006-12-22 16:44:00 · answer #8 · answered by mary2148 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has any ability of love there is no way he dosn't think about her. Mine tried to murder me and I still think about her sometimes, before I even realize I'm doing it. The marriage may be over but the care, even if not shown will always exsist.
2006-12-22 16:42:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
anything is possible That is part of the price you pay being involved with a man that has an ex and baby mamma to deal with Good Luck you will need it. If he cheated on her he will cheat on you
2006-12-22 16:39:07 · answer #10 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋