we've been together for 3 months,today!
2006-12-22 08:20:56 · 47 answers · asked by U make me smile! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
10-20 is a good range for anyone.
2006-12-22 08:21:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are quite a few factors to consider here, not the least being what you can afford.
I will assume that Money, or the lack of it is not an issue in my reply below. That you could spend $100 or more without causing a financial pinch.
Even though you could easily spend $100, my feeling is that for a 3 month relationship where no commitments have been made that $20 is ok.
You are still at the stage of a relationship where you are feeling things out. Giving a large gift at this point may actually have a negative effect. This other individual may all of a sudden feel like you are trying to force a commitment and could feel very uneasy about getting such a large gift.
This is a particularly appropriate line of thinking if you yourself would feel uncomfortable if you received a large gift, say a new car, or a large diamond necklace from this other individual. Only you know what your first thought would be. Would it be, "oh my God, he/she wants to get married, I'm not ready" or would it be "Oh, I have never been so in love with him/her."
A $20 gift says "I care" without sending perhaps the unwanted message "I want to get married right now."
If you were engaged, and again, if you could afford it, a pricier gift would be acceptable.
2006-12-22 08:45:53 · answer #2 · answered by Coach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as a good range when you buy a gift for the one you love, it should simply be something that He would love, no matter the price. In this situation, "it's the thought that counts" says it all. If he bought you something like a CD, and you hate the Artist, and he put no thought into it, wouldn't you feel a little "unimportant". So if he likes sports, get him something from his favorite team, or player. If he likes cars, then something like a model of his dream car, or even a book on a favorite subject.
Whatever, focus on getting him something he will appreciate. You will end feeling great when he likes what you got him, and you will be appreciated most.
Now the trick here is to find that special gift to show him how special he is, (and still keep it under 20 bucks!!...lol) Good luck and Merry Christmas.
2006-12-22 08:31:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is enough for 3 months!! Make sure you take that $20 and spread it out on a bunch of little thoughtful gifts he would absolutely love. It will show him how much effort you are willing to put into the relationship if you give him things that show you listen to who he is. It isn't about the gifts anyway really.
ENJOY YOUR FIRST CHRISTMAS TOGETHER!! how exciting!
2006-12-22 08:23:39 · answer #4 · answered by msapplebottomculo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how much value he places on monetary gifts. Either way, I think $20 is a fair amount for anyone. For $20 and some effort, you can find some really cool stuff or you could get something that looks like you spent exactly $19.95 on it. If the feeling behind the $20 is genuine, then I'm sure he'll love it. Unless he's a snooty bastard, in which case, dump his butt ;)
2006-12-22 08:29:50 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends how long you've been together and how much you can afford... ideally, it should be "the thought that counts" and not how much you spent... so $20 is fine if you don't have much money and it's something that your bf would take as a personal gesture from you... but if you've been together a long time and you can afford more than $20,then I'd say spend more.
2006-12-22 08:23:52 · answer #6 · answered by S L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just enough, don't listen to those who say that it's not enough if you really like him. But on the other hand, saying that it's the thought that counts isn't all too helpful either 'cause you don't want it to look like you don't think that much of him. So, I reccomend giving him some type of gift set to make him feel like he's getting alot. Or give him a home-made sweet treat, like a bag of carmel corn home made and decorated or a box of chocolate covered strawberries. On www.tollhouse.com they have great recipies or on www.foodnetwork.com those types of things are very cheap but seem expensive.
hope it helps!
2006-12-22 08:31:14 · answer #7 · answered by Pooge 2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what matters most is what you CAN afford, don't spend what you don't have. It's always the thought that should matter. Since he is your boyfriend, he knows what kind of job you have and what you can and can't afford. Let's say you're a doctor, $20 is stingy, but if you are a student (high school or college) $20 is very appropriate.
2006-12-22 08:23:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what it is if its something he likes then its just right but if its something he doesn't care much about then it could be around $10 but $20 or $25 would be good unless something really expensive like a wedding ring...
2006-12-22 08:23:56 · answer #9 · answered by storri64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds about right. But more important than the dollar amount, focus on the gift itself. When something pops out at you and you know "that's it!" don't dismiss the thought when you see the price tag reads $13 or $27. I never look at the price first.
2006-12-22 08:24:37 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you expect more of him the you should show him that you are willing to do the same. I think that it should be enough as long as he likes the gift. I would not mind a 20 dollar gift from anyone.
2006-12-22 08:23:49 · answer #11 · answered by Heffree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋