I CAN NOT STOP THINKING ABOUT HOW MY FUTURE WOULD BE WITH OUT HIM. I THINK ABOUT IF THEIR IS A MAN OUT THERE THAT I WILL ALWAYS THINK NOTHING BUT THE BEST OF AND THAT WILL TREAT ME THE WAY I ALWAYS DREAMED. MY HUSBAND IS A GOOD MAN HE DOES NOT HIT ME OR ANYTHING HE LOVES ME, ITS JUST I DONT FEEL SATISFIED. I KNOW THIS SOUNDS SELFISH, I JUST NEED TO FIGURE OUT THAT IS ALL IT IS, OR AM I HAVING THESE FEELINGS FOR A REASON?
2006-12-22 08:19:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Jennifer, anybody who has been married six weeks probably has a basis for divorce. I've never heard of a marriage without conflict, strife, unhappiness and occasional feelings of loss of love. Join the club. What makes any relationship work is how the partners feel about themselves. If you can learn to accept yourself without judgment, to acknowledge your own greatness and celebrate your life, then you can learn to live with anyone. Is there someone else "out there" who might make you happier? Probably. But that can be said about every couple. The "secret" is to learn to accept yourself and consider accepting your relationship. If you feel the relationship might be worth saving, consider therapy. There are trained therapists who specialize in marriages and relationships. Find one. If you don't want to make the effort and truly feel you have nothing to learn from the relationship, then be honest with yourself and your partner and get divorced.
2006-12-22 08:26:30 · answer #1 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all turn off the all capital letters...its hard on the eyes and it seems like your yelling.
You don't feel satisfied, well welcome to reality. Satisfaction, happiness, and validation are not things anyone else can give you.
All of those things come from within, nobody but you can fix this. Not another man or friend can "make" you satisfied. What I am going to say next may upset you and others, but you sound like a spoiled child that can't have everything she wants.
Relationships are work, both of you have to work towards the same goal or YOU are doomed to fail.
2006-12-22 16:26:02 · answer #2 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contemplating divorce is a normal feeling ........when something is wrong. It is the old fight or flight syndrome. You need to anylize the problem with counciling. If comprimise weighs less than the separation, then try it. Remember that the grass really isn't greener on the other side. You two need a vacation, a night out on the town, .......something (simple) done together.
2006-12-22 16:29:38 · answer #3 · answered by mojonah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There may be a reason to why you are feeling the way you are feeling. Asking us here at Yahoo Answers, will not help you.
I am not being sarcastic, I am just giving you some sound advice. I went through the same thing when I was engaged. Come to find out, I truly did not love him.
2006-12-22 16:22:55 · answer #4 · answered by babygirl31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have shared the same thoughts myself. I have been married for 6 years and we've been together a total of 10. I think as time goes on you become more independant and are just not willing to put up with the same "crap" as you do when you're still lovey dovey with each other. I think it's pretty normal to feel this way sometimes. However, I have verbalized it to my husband before and he is just appauled that I would think of the "D" word. But, he doesnt fulfill certain parts of my being either. I think sometimes we have to do that ourselves. Keep trying....
2006-12-22 16:31:29 · answer #5 · answered by Hear2Help 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you feel that you got married too early in life? Maybe you feel that you need to accomplish something on your own? Maybe the communication between you two isn't what it should be? Maybe you are afraid of committment? There could be many reasons for contemplating divorce but not knowing your situation, it can't be said. Have you thought about seeing a thearpist?
2006-12-22 16:23:01 · answer #6 · answered by Child_of_Loki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no man will treat you always the way you always dreamed.
that is unrealistic. you can improve your marriage.
get the book "getting the love you want" buy it or from the library.
you can make it more what you want with the techniques in the book. try it. you could gain happiness, what do you have to lose?
2006-12-22 16:23:06 · answer #7 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm sounds to me that marriage wasn't what you thought it would be and your bored. Marriage isn't a every night party. I guess you weren't ready for it so I say yes it is normal for you to be thinking about divorce.
2006-12-22 16:24:06 · answer #8 · answered by Lucinda M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship goes through stages. After the initial infatuation, comes reality, how you both compromise with reality is how the next stage is set.
2006-12-22 16:23:31 · answer #9 · answered by mykl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All people are different. And you are not strange. I truly don't believe that anyone will fulfill your fantasy of the perfect relationship. You find someone who is compatible and do the best you can.
2006-12-22 16:23:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋