A fellow officer in my unit is going through a nasty divorce. i just checked into this unit. earlier this year, his wife slept around with another officer while he was in iraq. i recently found that the other guy was a friend of mine. we went to college together, ocs together and infantry school together. the other guy let me stay with him while i was getting divorced due to some reasons i can't get into. he was a good friend to me, but at the same time a little ticked with him. he knows what i had experienced and seems to not have learned anything. now he is in iraq. and the husband officer is wanting to slam him big time when he gets back. i'm friends of both of them and need some advice on how to resolve this. any advice?
2006-12-22 08:18:01 · 12 answers · asked by Thomas K 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Contact your base chaplain first, you may be able to explain the situation without having to give names. He may be able to offer some good advice and direction.
2006-12-22 08:21:06 · answer #1 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the advice here from quite a few people: Stay out of it because it's none of your business.
I am sure you are wanting to be a good friend, but honestly even with the best intentions it is what it is: MEDDLING in other people's business and people don't usually take too kindly to that.
In situation like this everybody loses and is pissed off, and often it's the one with the "good" intentions that ends up being the bad guy and picks up the rep for being a busy body.
These people are all adults let them work out their situation because it has nothing to do with you. See the situation for what it is: Two people (the wife & cheater) selfishly decided to be stupid and dishonest. The husband while has every reason to be pissed is acting just as stupidly. Why bring their drama that was by their choice into your own life?
Be a good friend by being a good listener and be a better friend and stay out of it.
2006-12-22 08:40:39 · answer #2 · answered by hw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Volunteer for explosives disposal?
Seriously though. Don't take sides, don't talk about it. If neither side can talk to about it then they won't be able to pull you back and forth like a rubberband. It's ok to feel bad and the hurt friend will get a little pissed off. Just explain to him that you are friends with both of them and do not want to get mixed up in this situation.
2006-12-22 08:38:15 · answer #3 · answered by Julie Hartford 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have to agree with pretty much all here. Stay out of it. You'll end up as a punching bag. They are adults let them deal with their issues themselves.
2006-12-22 08:57:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get into the middle. Even if on friendship out wirhgs the other somehow, it's not your place to really pick sides. If you want to stress to the friend who did the cheating how wrong they were, that's one things but don't take sides. It's really not your place.
2006-12-22 08:21:51 · answer #5 · answered by Dazed and Confused?? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they're both adults - keep your nose out of it! Don'd discuss it with either of them - stay neutral. Everyone made their own beds - let them lie in it.
2006-12-22 08:29:04 · answer #6 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
please stay out of it, it can't be resolved, just can't. nothing u can do to make anyone feel better when they get betrayed. that's just what he gets for sleeping with another man's wife. just stay nutral and don't take sides. your friend has no morals or character.
2006-12-22 08:27:12 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to keep you out of it, they both need to solve their own problems.
2006-12-22 08:22:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it, Its not worth your time...Let them go at it...
2006-12-22 08:26:09 · answer #9 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get involved, let them work it out for themselves.
2006-12-22 08:31:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋