IMy husband has a x sister in law( she was married to his brother but they divorced many years ago) and she;s remained close to the family which isnt unusual but i think she takes advantage of them as if they owe her because she was wronged by my husband;s brother. We just moved in a house owned y my husband since before we met 2 years ago because we lived abroad.which has 3 rooms,one is occupied by husband elderly mother,one by us of course and the other room this woman's son,my husband's nephew wh is 20 years old and has been living in the house the past 2 years rent free and annoys me we have a 8 month old baby grl who is cramped in with us in our room beccause my husband wont ask him to move yet this woman has remarried and now owns a large house but wont let her son move back with her becuase her new husband doesnt get along with her son.It annoys me that my baby girl doesnt have her own room cause someone elses selsfishness and my husband wants me 2 spend xmas at her house
2006-12-22 08:02:09 · 18 answers · asked by First L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To the one person who commented that its the brother's house,read more carefully before you comment,the house belongs to my husband becuase hes the one who bought it
2006-12-22 08:09:19 · update #1
Maybe once you meet her you will like her. Or you could find that your feelings are completely justified. Anyway, your issues are with your husband, not her.
2006-12-22 08:06:07 · answer #1 · answered by babydoll 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I would be wishing for a man with a backbone right about now, other than that the only suggestion is to start mentioning that he might want to start looking for another place because you had planned to give the baby it's own room when turned 1 year!! Let him know that you like him though (if you do) & that he's always welcomed in the house.
2006-12-22 16:09:30 · answer #2 · answered by North of Heaven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This b i t c h needs to get on with her life and stay out of yours.
Parts of this sound like my ex wife. She thinks she is supposed to be included in my families things, like Xmas parties, etc. even she remarried 7 months after our divorce and I remarried 2 years after. She has told my family a lot of stories about me that are either fabricated or totally untrue, except in her mind. So, my family has a soft spot for her and my grandparents, uncles and cousins invite her to my families activities. She brings her new husband and claims she is just going because of our kids. For the most part she only goes when I can't make the trip, but it is just inappropriate. It is disrespectful to me and to my wife. My family is the type they try to go out of there way to make everyone happy, but it has become to much.
I finally this year told her that it is no longer acceptable in an email. She forwarded it to the entire family and added that she got this email from me and that she was sorry if she had offended anyone by going to our family gatherings.
Your husbands ex sister in law needs to be set straight. This isn't healthy for the family in the slightest.
2006-12-22 16:14:42 · answer #3 · answered by PDH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is.. But if the man is 20 years old, he needs to be on his own. Maybe the woman's new husband feels this way also. You and your husband need to talk to this young man and let him know that you all need more privacy and it is time that he gets a place of his own and pay his own way. I would not want to spend Christmas with her, but talk to your husband and tell him that you think it is time for the young man to move because it is unfair to your child to let a 20 yr old man take her room. Good luck. Merry Christmas.
2006-12-22 16:09:44 · answer #4 · answered by Junkyard DOG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to really have a serious impact on a situation that really isn't in your control. Mainly because even though you are the wife, the house doesn't belong to you....so technically, your husband can have whoever he wants in the house. *Sucks, I know* You can try explaining the situation to him and how it makes you feel and the severity of the selfishness on his part. Just don't irritate him with it because men are funny. They only really understand and choose to hear the first 25 seconds of what your point after that, its nagging to them. lolz. So just make it short, sweet and to the point.
2006-12-22 16:12:32 · answer #5 · answered by Sh3zTyp3BaDd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! Tell him how it is and how it's going to BE. Make the lazy freeloading kid move out and give your daughter her own room. Rediculous. Give him some kind of ultimadum to light the fire under his @ss. Tell him that if he ever wants to feel the feeling he felt the night he MADE your baby again, he'll ditch the little creep and send him packing to his ungrateful mother.
2006-12-22 16:07:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your husband owns the house, why does he let this boy live there rent free?
either kick him out, or start charging him rent.
2006-12-22 16:11:22 · answer #7 · answered by Kutekymmee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, Shug.....It was YOU who married the guy!
You need to talk to your husband and work out HOW you are going to get the little bum out of your house.....and WHEN! Not IF!
The sooner the better, but it has to be your husband who does it. Good luck.
2006-12-22 16:04:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I read it all wrong... I first thought it said your brother in laws house.... well.... your baby is young so giving the kid sometime to get things sorted out wotn hurt. You mustve known the deal before you got married.
2006-12-22 16:05:17 · answer #9 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
absolutely! Her actions of choosing a man over her son, and dumping her son in someone else's care tells you she's a bad mother and a selfish woman!
2006-12-22 16:08:24 · answer #10 · answered by January Flower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋