Myself with my aunty ,mother,bhabhi had seen a girl and said O.K. and my relatives(in which no any male person was there) gave her some Rs as a SHAGUN. Her mother and bhabhi also gave us some money as a shagun,but now we our mind have changed,and dont wanna marry her due to a long journey distance from my district to her district.we are hindu. we have refused them . i wanna know that whether they can force us legally or not to marry. in this case no other ceremony was performed and we dint ever go to her place,they once came my home but we didnt go her place? i would like to know that can any complaint be lodged against us if they want to make a dowry seeking case?i belong from INDIA.
2006-12-22 08:01:58 · 8 answers · asked by vijai t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Many intelligent people are giving legal advices in this forum about which they no nothing but its up to the person concerned who has to judge what is the correct legal advice for his querry. You are concerned with your getting implemented in a wrong Dowry case by refusing the girl to marry. Lets check if any such refusal by you amounts to seeking dowry for the said marriagee or not. According to The Dowry Prohibition Act,1961 Dowry means any property or valuable security given or agreed to be given either directly or indirectly at or before or after the marriage as consideration for the marriag of the parties. Putting this definition in your case first of all there was no settlement of marriage as such not even we can call it Rooka as we call in North India where we keep the bride or groom in waiting till the actual engagement what really happened in your case was only SHAGUN given as a mark of respect to this lady by your ladies from your side & to you by ladies of their side. Even if you call this Rooka ceremony it is of no significance as in such ceremony nothing is settled between the parties as both bride & groom are kept in waiting for further decision. Secondly the question of giving or taking properties or valuables usually come during the time of actual engagement when two families finalise the bride & groom for the marriage. Any dowry talk comes into picture only at that time but this never happened in your case. So the question of asking dowry by you in consideration for the marriage does not arise. Such cases get registered only where some marriage activities have already started such as engagement i.e. Shagun ceremony or chunni ceremony or even the actual marriage ceremony where such ceremonies get blocked for the demand of Dowry or Dowry is demanded at the time of vidai/dolli or after all such activities when bride is already in her in laws house. So dont worry no harm will occure to you on this account & you can always give all these facts even if any wrong case is made out against you which I doubt will take place as no one is prepared to bring his/her unmarried girl in a wrong case keping in mind her future.
2006-12-23 17:48:10 · answer #1 · answered by bisexualmale s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to tell you on this except I feel sorry for you. Here in the good ole USA we choose who, when, where and why we want to marry someone. We don't buy a wife or a husband. We marry because we meet someone, fall in love and then mutually decide to get married. I have always wondered how people in countries like yours are ever happy with life if they can't even choose their mate. Well I wish you luck.
2006-12-22 08:10:31 · answer #2 · answered by Lucinda M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer understand what to assist you recognize in this different than i've got self assurance sorry for you. right here interior the stable ole usa we choose for who, whilst, the place and why we'd opt to marry somebody. we don't purchase a spouse or a husband. We marry by using fact we meet somebody, fall in love and then jointly choose for to get married. I even have constantly questioned how human beings in worldwide places like yours are ever happy with existence in the event that they'd't even choose for their mate. properly I choose you success.
2016-10-18 21:16:01 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you want to marry her? 'Coz of the money factor??
If you don't love her, and you're families don't think it would be a good match. They don't marry.... Are you from South or North? Maybe it would be easier finding someone closer to you, so you wouldn't have to travel the distances.
Hope this Helps!
2006-12-22 08:09:16 · answer #4 · answered by ~ Ruchira~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh lord. I thought all that stuff was technically illegal now in India.
You're a man, right? A legal adult? If so, then you have to choose between your own happiness and the comfort of making your family happy (at the expense of your own unhappiness).
2006-12-22 08:05:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg i don't know .. do you have lawyers over in idina. if so contact one of them and ask .. or maybe a elder may know..your asking here when most of us or nearly all of us have the right to choose who we marry.. we will have sympathy for you and your plight but we will never know what your going through or the laws of your land in which you live buy ...good luck
2006-12-22 09:18:18 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THERE IS NO LEGAL WAY TO FORCE THE MARRIAGE.
2006-12-23 01:24:12 · answer #7 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry her.
2006-12-22 08:03:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋