My boyfriend hasn't been calling me lately like he usually does. There's been alot of tension between us. We've had some really nasty arguments lately & hurt each other but I hurt him alot more with my words. He hasn't been calling me & hasn't been in the mood to deal with any of this. Because things have NOT been so great with us I felt "tired" of it yesterday & broke up with him but I still have strong feelings for him & I'm sad & heartbroken when I don't hear from him. I splurged on him for Xmas, I bought his baby a generous gift certificate & I bought his Mom some flowers & I'm still giving it all to him regardless. Am I stupid for that? To top it off, out of nowhere, today he lost his job. NOW he's calling me. I'm being as supportive as I can, not holding grudges & I'm STILL sending my Xmas gifts to him. Am I playing a sucker's role? Or should I not send anything since he hasn't been calling me & things have not been so great with us lately?
2006-12-22 08:00:01 · 5 answers · asked by Lala 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are being a sucker. HOLD the gifts, and back off. NO WAY you should take him back anytime soon. Now, he just NEEDS some help......but he'd just be using you. Stay clear.
2006-12-22 08:12:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put the flowers in a vase on your own table. Cash in the gift certificate or go spend it on an anonymous gift for a poor child from a holiday tree in some mall. Use your caller ID and ignore his calls. The guy is a loser. Why are you even dating someone who has a baby? If the child is a baby his relationship is not over with the "baby's mama" no matter what he is saying. You're not stupid, just gullible. Quit while you're ahead before he has you paying his rent.
2006-12-22 16:09:51 · answer #2 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give the gifts if you want to, but I would hold off until after Christmas to patch things up. This isn't really the time to be going over all this. Be with your own family for Christmas , relax and try not to worry about all this. Let him stew for a while over this and in the meantime concentrate on enjoying the holiday without him.
2006-12-22 16:05:33 · answer #3 · answered by helly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny how he calls you after he loses his job, but not before. He's looking for a shoulder to cry/lean on. If things weren't good - nothing has changed. As for the gifts - well, give them - it's the giving season. You are not a sucker - you dumped him when he treated you poorly - stick to your guns!! Women have a problem of feeling guilty when their man is blue - harden your heart!!!
2006-12-22 16:18:28 · answer #4 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
problems between couples aroudn this time of season is as common as the cold and flu, get use to it.
He is wanting support from you because he is now in deep. Let him get himself out, and after that he still calls then it is a good thing.
2006-12-22 16:07:25 · answer #5 · answered by David G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋