Married people only please! About my husb. & his job?

Question

My husband is a wonderful man & an excellent father. He worked in an industry that unless you own your own business or take a desk job requires changing locations every few years.

A yr. ago he left the industry to take a factory job that is 40 hrs/wk & only 5 days/wk as opposed to 6 like before. There are benefits we get now like health ins, 401K, & bonuses that his previous jobs never had. Plus his weekends home. Which is why he took the job in the 1st place. He wanted to be home more.

Now he's been offered an exucitive position in his old industry. they guarantee no more than 50 hrs/wk at a salary he'd most likely hit next year if he stayed put at the factory. He's leaning towards taking it but wants my opinion.

Honestly I don't like it. He's home more now, he's happy & no longer stressed out when he gets home. I don't want to keep him from his dream but I'm tired of always starting over from scratch & the constant uncertainity.

What do I tell him?

Answer 1

Listen...honesty especially in this case is the best policy. However, you and hubby should sit down and write out the pros and the cons of both jobs before making your final decision. This way a true compromise is met and happiness in the long run is achieved. It is better than having either one of you feeling that you sacrificed your personal dreams....why not share your dreams. No sense in making a decision that will later cause resentment.

Answer 2

1st of all I have been married 38 years. We went through this more than once. We always sat down in the early evening and discussed why I took this position and now I am offered this position. There were times when I disagreed but went along with her because of the young kids. I did finally took a position that took me away from home at times, but the kids were out of school. She agreed. This is a mutual decision. Discuss the pros and cons. You will come up with a decision. Both of you may not be thrilled either way but marriage is based on compromises. By the way, she was right because I got to spend time with my kids when they needed dad the most.