Does unconditional passionate love exist?

Question

I am a 36yr old divorced father of two who is wondering, after a 14 year marriage, does unconditional passionate love really exist? After living together for several years before marriage, I just assumed things would only get better between my wife and I. 3 degrees, 2 children, 3 houses, and many nice assets and vehicles later, I realized the quest to obtain nice "stuff" had sidlined, and even hindered, the growth of what should have been a healthy relationship. Now that I have left everything behind, and only get to see my children 4 days a month, there is nothing I desire more out of life than to be as close to someone as humanly possible. To the point where that signficant other knows so much about me, they can almost predict my behavior and thinking. Am I just dreaming or has anyone experienced such a thing? Any and all quality imput is appreciated-please restrain from sending sarcastic and demeaning statements.

Answer 1

Yes unconditional passionate love does exist. You just have to find that special someone and she's out there. Your ex isn't the one for you or else you would of been able to stay together. I'm sorry to see that your marriage failed but she wasn't the one. The one for you is out there. Just don't give up and maybe you'll find her. Your still young it's possible but the answer to your question is yes unconditional passionate love does still exisit. Stop looking and it'll find you.

Answer 2

How sweet is happiness without any sorrow?

I seemed to read a lot of stuff about "truth love", "perfect mate", "soul mate" etc etc....

Every relationship requires time and effort. What happens is we stop appreciating and start expecting. We see patterns in the behavior of our spouse and start making decisions on what we ASSUME instead of what is actually happening.

If I leave a cup unwashed in the sink the next day its gone. I assumed my wife washed it and didn't mind doing so. So do I go out of my way to NEVER do it again or do I see how far I can push it. Human beings are funny creatures. If left on their own the will do what they know is bad/wrong unless given either positive or negative reinforcement to do so. Now I dirty every dish in the house when I make a sandwich and EXPECT my wife to clean up the mess AND for it not to bother her.

Married people often forget that being married MERELY an agreement to be with each other AND is NOT made permanent with a marriage certificate or ceremony or anything else. Either party can walk away at any time for any reason or no reason at all. If married people would realize that they are together because they both chose to be together and its be each others good graces that they are still together.

Answer 3

Yes it does exist.It is just very hard to find.My husband and I have such a relationship and have had for 17 years now.We have the kind of relationship that is so close we don't even have to say anything.One just knows what the other is thinking.People have told me that we are weird.Just because we have this sixth sense about each other to the point that we know when one of us needs the other.I fully understand the comment you made about the need for stuff.I know a lot of couples that all they do is spend all their time working to get more crap they don't need instead of spending the time and effort on the relationships they have.My husband and I fell into that trap for about a minute until we had a reality check.Our son almost died and we realized that we spent most of our time worrying about what we could buy him not how much would could love him.We put a stop to the 70 to 80 hour work weeks and I quit all together to we have a lot less money now but are a lot happier.Because we know no amount of money is more important the our family.And all we really need to be happy is each other.

Answer 4

Hi. After a long relationship and a maybe very unpleasant divorce, love exist? Well, it's difficult, it depends on you and on the other person. Certainly it exists, but it really depends on how you plan to project yourself towards the new couple. Please, dont behave as many people do: meet a young woman, have fun... coz you will find out later, it's all empty. You have to find yourself and love yourself first. After you do that, then you will be able to love and therefore, be loved in return. Your divorcee possition is a little difficult if you are starting over with a single woman, but there is always hope and once again, all depends on the person you will be with.

Answer 5

I've all but given up on my marriage and only staying for the committment to my wife and children. There is no passion anymore as far as I'm concerned, although my wife doesn't feel the same way. She does not understand how I feel, nor does she ever show any concern for MY feelings on passion, attraction and intimancy. To her, love should be enough and nothing else matters. I'd be overjoyed if I were to go home tonight and she tells me she's leaving me. But somehow, I don't think that is going to happen.

Anyway, short answer: to women, maybe. To me, undconditional, passionate love definitely does not exist!

Answer 6

Yes it does; yet in my case too many things and to many people got in the way. My wife and I seemed to just grow apart through our 16 yr. marriage; after that I left and it was about a year later I finally met someone and it was everything you described and much more. Everything I had ever dreamed of was there. She was there I needed nothing more. I guess you really just need to hang in there the woman for you will come along sooner than you think. You probally won't be prepaired for it I wasn't. Good Luck for me it was like a whirlwind and took my breath away..

Answer 7

That sucks, dude.

Personally, I am not sure that there is any such thing as total unconditional love. I do believe, however, that true love is itself an overall giving of oneself unconditionally, but not necessarily 100% of the time.

In my estimation, unconditional love is when you put the ultimate well-being of another person above your own. Within that context, we can act out our love in an unconditional sense. However, it is not possible (or even good, for that matter) to live in this state 24/7.

Answer 8

Yes, it does exist. I was married for 20 yrs. before my husband died. It was not always easy....VERY difficult actually. But, I think it was worth it and so did he. There is something that happens each time you go through something together, each obstacle brings you closer. There is no such thing as a blissful perfect marriage. But I think the closeness and deep love you develop from going through the hard times is priceless.

Answer 9

It exists for a short time.

The situation you find yourself in is quite sad but I feel that it is time for you to find someone new to love. Find that passion and love again even if it is for a while and this time, don't expect it to last forever then you wont be dissapointed.

Answer 10

Probably...but for how long? Learn to love yourself, to honor yourself, to recognize that you are your own best friend. If ou can truly accept yourself as you are then you can learn to accept anyone else. You can't really have expectations for others, they will do as they will. All you can do is make your wants known to another and learn to accept whatever you get in return. If it's not enough (return), then consider either changing your wants or looking elsewhere to have your wants answered. I sympathize with your experience, having gone through a similar one myself. I've had to learn what's really important to me.