pretended to be?
2006-12-22 07:21:27 · 14 answers · asked by Marble Magic 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
A friend of mine did this and reached an unbelievable level as far as being perceived as his target personality (he changed a lot, from his look and attitude to his way of talking, friends, personality and lifestyle), so I was wondering whether the change takes place also on the inside and the new way of being gets automatic and easy, or it stays just an act that takes a lot of energy to maintain. A big thanks to all those that answered by now and to those that will share their views later on!
2006-12-22 08:14:42 · update #1
Pretending is just that, it is a facade, a persona. If you do it long enough, you may "feel" you've become that pretended person, but the "real" you will always be you. I can't help wondering the reasons for "pretending." If there are certain things a person wants to modify, or change, about themselves--it could become an effective discipline. BUT. I know a woman whose nature was to get involved in everyone's troubles, emotionally drained with little time for herself. She put a lot of effort into not involving herself with an awesome modification! But she STILL regresses from time to time, & has to keep reminding herself. I don't mean if you mean pretending to be a TOTALLY different person, that would be relevant, & could be destructive.
EDIT: Lots of "yes!" However, I agree w/fantacia to a point--"positive thinking" certainly works when there's a focus. Also agree w/the Optimist except for "probably yes"--the rest was good. As for staying that way for people to LIKE YOU, then they aren't really liking the real "you." It's always fun to get into "another skin" now & then, but the basic foundation of your NATURE will be the same.
One more edit, & then I promise to shut up! Re ribenacre..a habit can become automatic, but do you think this would really change YOU? I've been digging deeper, because I think it's a good question, something to motivate people to THINK. Cheers!
2006-12-22 07:38:00 · answer #1 · answered by Psychic Cat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At least in part. I've added phrases to my vocabulary that I end up using a lot more than I mean to; often they start out as jokes mocking people who use said phrases. Really small scale, but I think it's safe to say you'd be changed. I don't think most people will end up being completely the person they project, unless they find that said person is more in tune with who they are. But, then, there's a direction-of-causality problem there. Probably depends on the specific circumstances, and it definitely depends on the traits. (I played heterosexual for 18 years, but...)
2006-12-22 18:38:46 · answer #2 · answered by Atropis 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
"When you think, you become".
There is another saying, "Mind over Body".
So example, if you think you are very healthy or want to be, sub-conciously, you eat healthier and you choose healthier options like climbing the stairs instead of the elevator.
From personal experience, my studies were very bad. I stayed back. And one day, i told myself, i had had enough.
I started to tell myself "I LOVE MY BOOKS". And over some time, i took care of them very well. And i started studying. Like really study... Then i topped my class. The year after, the entire level.
It takes some time and practise. But ultimately, it really becomes you. Some people say that its deceiving oneslef but hey, if it's for the better, why not?
It's really a personal choice. But only do it if you really want it very badly. If not, it doesn't work.
2006-12-22 07:35:35 · answer #3 · answered by fantacia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes. just look at undercover cops that go into the drug world, they pretend to be criminals for so long that they all need help to come back to normal. they end up leaving the force and go on health welfare. leading a double life will blur the edges, and one must win. the one that has the most to lose will win, so is it the real you or the pretend you?
2006-12-22 07:40:03 · answer #4 · answered by SAINT G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably a 'yes' to that question. However, deep down inside there will always be at least a speck of the real you... Ignite that spark again! Let it live freely and be happy!! Smile!
P.S. Merry Christmas!
2006-12-22 07:30:46 · answer #5 · answered by the Optimist 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
probably, if you pretend even when youre alone. you would always be thinking "what would the person im pretending to be do?" and this will become automatic eventually
2006-12-22 07:25:21 · answer #6 · answered by ribenacreep1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes. it is like...for example...i used to be shy but i started acting like i wasn't shy and now i'm not...also...for example...there have been times were i haven't really liked a song or tv series, but i wanted to so i would try to like it and pretend i liked it and actually grow to like it. XD
2006-12-22 07:27:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you appear to be the person you pretended to be and it is more difficult for you to be the person you are.
2006-12-22 07:56:46 · answer #8 · answered by David M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you will beleive that you are that person but you never will be..If you pretend you are Gwyneth Paltro and mimic her gestures and so on you will still be you and she will always be her.
2006-12-22 07:44:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh yes!!!!!!!!!!! yes, yes, yes! i alwayz do pranks on enemies....or even friendz 4 fun..and trust me u end up being da person u just acted!!!!!!!!!!
i just wish i can get out ov dat habbit sum day! but it's still fun!!!
2006-12-22 07:30:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋