If you're a wimp spouse, how much have you taken?

Question

Trying to decide where the line is between "oh well, I'll just shrug off this casual disrespect" and "this is really too much, I've got to make a stand...soon." What experiences with swallowing your pride have you had?

Answer 1

The line is where it is hard to determine being compromising and BS. BS meaning avoiding confrontation, taking verbal abuse and overlooking unacceptable behaviour.

I think you have to give and take just so much, at the same time be understanding and forgiving. But when they are being disrespectful and pulling a bunch of crap on you etc; you have to put your foot down. And of course they will blame it all on you, but you know better. Got to take a stand somewhere.

Answer 2

Truthfully you would have mutual respect and thus love that this would not be a problem. As it is a problem and does not belong in a marriage or 'long term committed relationship' of any kind. I suspect if a survey was done with all troubled marriages and thus divorces, their problems began when they or one party was not being respectful and thus actively loving their partner.
For myself, I wish it was something my parents had practised with me or at the very least talked to me about being in committed relationships whereby this character trait is of great importance. Both my husband and I do not and we have serious problems that were built on the smaller problems.
Be honest with your spouse and talk about this issue in a caring loving way ... from the very place in your heart that you had decided from to love and marry each other. Make a committment to RESPECT and ACTIVELY LOVE each other EVERY, EVERY DAY....... I really wish I had done that 20 years ago.

Answer 3

my spouse and i have mutual respect for each other. I don't disrespect him he don't disrespect me. YES! we have disagreements we don't make them personal attacks. He has never bluntly tried to hurt my feelings.