i hung two stockings up this year..one for my husband..one for myself..i know its supposed to give better than recieve...but last year he got me nothing..i always buy for him and his family...no one gets me anything...i put lots of gifts in his stocking already...mines still empty..i checked.there was only a dead spider in there...did he put it in there on purpose? i dont mind if he only got me a small gift..i just feel like im the only one with any though...is he selfish or just plain mean?
2006-12-22 06:54:33 · 13 answers · asked by free-spirit 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It sound like this has been something going on probably most of his life because you say his family never gets you anything. Now if he buys for his family and his family buys for him and others, I would be greatly pissed. The selfishness could be a bad family tradition.
2006-12-22 06:59:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is not thoughtless, he just doesn't think the way you want him to. Is he an otherwise generous man. Does he work hard and contribute to the family. Is he loving and supportive. Does he try? Does he pick you up in the rain? Make sure the bills get paid on-time. Help out around the house, keep the cars running, and the lawn cut. Don't get caught up in all the Christmas crap. He may have got jacked when he was a kid. Don't be so judgmental. If you really believe in Christmas then you know it is all about giving - and so is life. Just be glad that you have something to give - don't get caught up in keeping score or who does what. If you do, you lose the true meaning of Christmas. Just be glad you got a half-way good man. He may not be doing his best according to you, but that doesn't mean he is not doing the best he can. When your man gets home give him a hug and a rub and a beer and ask him what he wants - make him comfortable tell him you are glad to have him. In your heart rejoice, be glad you have a man, keep giving and give some-more, that is what we are here for- and be thankful for what you have and someone to give to. PEACE
2006-12-22 07:09:40 · answer #2 · answered by ARM 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 21:11:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take most of all things you put in his stocking and go out in by ten stupid things couples do to mess up their relationships by Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger put that in his stocking. After he reads that you should see a different. And don't think Oh I can't do that. That's mean. Why not, he don't buy you nothing. Besides really you are, your buying him some knowledge. And at the same time your helping your relationship, Because it's not right that he Carry's on like that. Something has to give. You feel me
2006-12-22 07:11:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
girl they must be seperated at birth!!!! I have two kids, a neighbor kids that always comes over, a dog and him and all of the stocking are full! I made a comment the other night that mine was the "sad little stocking with nothing in it." Well it's still empty! Stop trying just fill it yourself!
2006-12-22 06:57:38 · answer #5 · answered by Jamie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Men are just men. He is being thoughtless. And it would be hard for you to not continue to get him and his family stuff. If it was easy--then stop buying crap for them. I am still waiting for my ex to figure out that even though we aren't married any longer it is the decent and respectful thing to do to have our children think of someone other than themselves...meaning--I make sure they get him gifts but he could care less if they got me something...
2006-12-22 06:58:23 · answer #6 · answered by intewonfan 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some men are like that. They don't really get to emotional about things like we women do. If he keeps doing it and it is a problem for you then why should you keep buying for him and his family. You say you buy for his side and no one buys for you... well there you go it runs in the family. Stop buying for them and buy for yourself.
2006-12-22 07:00:45 · answer #7 · answered by Clara 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
some husbands are stupid when it comes to gift giving. i believe that these guys do not have a clue. i do not believe they do it on purpose, they are just clueless. maybe it comes from being raised like this. my best advice is to try to let it pass, do not dwell on it. or perhaps just come out and ask him about it. its not just your husband, its all around.
2006-12-22 07:00:27 · answer #8 · answered by wisdom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
did he ever get you christmas presents??
maybe they are too cheap...go and yell at him about it and say honey i would appreciate a christmas gift from you.
2006-12-22 06:57:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably just doesn't think about anything but himself, you should let him know how you feel.
2006-12-22 06:56:51 · answer #10 · answered by L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋