How do I tell my wife that she needs to stay home and cook, clean, and pamper me if she wants to stick around? I want my food cooked, my house cleaned, and her giving me attention. Isn't that what women are for!?
2006-12-22 06:37:29 · 48 answers · asked by mister roy jones 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The girl is good for nothin... at least act useful in this world !
2006-12-22 06:45:15 · update #1
I know of man as soon as they said their vows turned around and told his wife in front of everyone, "now that we are married all I want from you is sex and obedience." She was fine with the sex part; according to her he was the greatest she ever had in bed, but the obedience part, well she wasn't too keen on that.
"Obedience, you're joking aren't you?"
"Nope I'm dead serious. You are going to do just exactly what I tell you to do."
She goes on to tell him that he's nuts cause she won't even obey her own father.
"Don't worry I'll teach you."
She fought him like a wild abanshee and each and every time she opened her mouth she got the crap kicked out of her, until finally he beat her so bad even her best friend didn't recognize her.
In the end she ended up telling him with the most submissive voice she could muster that she would obey him.
"That's better!" He snarled. "Now do this!" He handed her something, she took it to another room and didn't return until she was done, handed it to him, and he didn't even thank her, put it in his briefcase and walked out the door.
That was one man's way. Did she really become obedient? I don't think so; you be the judge:
After he beat the crap out of her, in order for him to get her to do anything he had to make deals with her.
Sad to say she is the first to say that he treats her like crap, but she loves him.
Nowadays when he calls her she literally drops everything and she runs! In order to get that result he literally frightened the living daylights right out of her.
Now, I see where you are coming from. I look at it this way while she does those things for you she is also doing those things for herself. She would have to be a very strong woman, I'm strong enough but unfortunately I'm already taken and yes I do believe women should be obedient, the majority do not, and no I did not ever need the crap kicked out of me.
There are other women like me out there, all you have to do is find her. After you find her don't abuse her, or it won't be the truth.
Isn't that what woman are for? Yes, still you are going to have a fight on your hands with most women. To me it doesn't mean you think I'm dirt, see, I already know I'm not dirt, so that won't work on me, you do your thing I do mine. Could I think this way and hold an outside job? I've already been there and yes I handled it quite well. I am not the only one either, I don't know them personally.
What I am saying is most women would fight you. Would you be willing to do what that man did?
Don't despair we all have some one if it is meant to be who is the ideal one. I for example married a foreigner because there's not one single American who would understand me, which is true. They would and have thought I was seeking attention by being the way I was when I was only being me.
Well the best of luck to you.
2006-12-22 07:12:33 · answer #1 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Mr. Roy, you're absolutely right...if you're living in the 19th century. Today women have careers, want freedom and options and full partnership. What attracted you to her in the first place? Was it her domesticity traits or was it her independence, her education, her ability to meet challenges and compete in society? Another question. Why shouldn't you stay home and keep house while she competes in the workplace? Is it a question of who can earn more? What about the advantage of double incomes? Sounds to me like you've both got a lot of negotiating to do before you tie the knot...or if you have already gotten married, you have some talking to do. It might be helpful to see a marriage counselor.
2006-12-22 06:42:37 · answer #2 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does she do, instead? Work? If so, back off. Why don't you pitch in around the house, pamper her some and maybe cook her a dinner and do the dishes on occasion.
She's your wife, not your slave. Treat her the way you'd want to be treated.
2006-12-22 07:08:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And what CENTURY do you live in??? Marriage is a two way street. Sometimes you will give 500% and end up getting a negative 500, then all of a sudden it will go the way you want it to. Why dont you try ASKING her if she would consider staying home and taking care of the house and all involved. Next--can you afford to live off of the money you bing home? Think about it
2006-12-22 06:46:28 · answer #4 · answered by nickle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? If you make enough money to provide a nice house to clean, good food to cook and nice things for her then I think that is fine, as long as she is the nurturing type who wants to do that. If she isn't happy with that you will either have to change your expectations or find another partner. Just be honest and up-front about your expectations.
2006-12-22 06:43:07 · answer #5 · answered by arockhoundsgal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order for you to imply that to her, I would hope that you have a good job. One that would be able to support your needs along with hers (and they can get expensive) and maybe some children down the line. Because first you have to make her feel financially secure to not wanna go out and get a job to help you pay for bills or whatever you need to pay......But if she feels pretty secure as a housewife then she might stay home and do all that for you...
2006-12-22 06:41:08 · answer #6 · answered by big.daddy83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you tell your foot to get out of your mouth...It may be what you want but you may not have the right woman. Some men are pompous and archiac, you seem to be one of them. So go find yourself an airhead that will respond to these stupid requests...obviously if you're asking this one isn't one of them.
urgh...Jerk need food....hit you with boom boom stick...food not in belly
2006-12-22 06:42:38 · answer #7 · answered by Jamie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hay Dude you better off marrying your mom women now in the days are very...... independent we work hard its take two to work in the relationship if you keep on think like the old fashion way you will not find any one out there for you
2006-12-22 06:43:41 · answer #8 · answered by asia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm first of all it is almost the year 2007, women are more independent these days and wont want to wait hand and foot on u. ur just showing urself to be a lazy old fart. good luck finding a girl that will do that
2006-12-22 06:42:09 · answer #9 · answered by Kaitlyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is working its going to be pretty hard to stop her now. Unless she hates her job then she might agree to the proposition as long as you treat her with respect and kindness she might even go along with it.
But to be honest you don't sound like you love her very much.
Consider calling off the wedding and hiring someone.
2006-12-22 06:41:15 · answer #10 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋