At what age in life did you "find yourself"......for the first time actually found out who you truly were?

Question

....as a person?

Answer 1

I thought i did two years ago...but i think im lost again....

Answer 2

Somewhere between 28 and 31 I stopped worrying about what was happening in my head and started focusing outward. Not that I'm not still growing and learning, I'm just kinda over me. I do have to admit I question myself much less now than i did in my twenties. Things that used to make me pause I just float right through, I don't have to wonder why i'm thinking something I just accept it as the proper response based on previous stimuli. Basically i'm saying that i make sense to me now. Which is a very good thing indeed.
I think there is a psychological term for it, something about an open learning system and a closed one. A closed one is where people figure out the world according to a simple moral framework and then every bit of information that they recieve from then on is compared to that. If it fits it's accepted, if it doesn't it's rejected. These people are basically selfish infants (i.e. republicans).
An open learning system is obviously more flexible, based on a more complex moral framework, and allows for new ideas, that, even if they don't immediately make sense, aren't as quickly rejected.
I am definitely open.

Answer 3

someplace between 28 and 31 i finished aggravating about what replaced into occurring in my head and began focusing outward. not that i'm not though starting to be and getting to carry close, i'm basically kinda over me. I do would favor to admit I question myself a lot less now than i did in my Nineteen Twenties. topics that used to make me pause I basically waft precise with the help of, i do not would favor to ask your self why i'm wondering some element I basically settle for it by way of very truth the right reaction in line with previous stimuli. truly i'm declaring that i make experience to me now. that is a good element actual. i imagine of there's a psychological time period for it, some element about an open getting to carry close kit and a closed one. A closed one is the position human beings make certain the global in accordance to an immediately ahead moral framework and then each and each little bit of information that they recieve from then on is at the same time as in evaluation with that. If it suits that is elementary, if it does not it truly is rejected. those human beings are truly egocentric little ones (i.e. republicans). An open getting to carry close kit is of course more beneficial versatile, in line with a significantly better complicated moral framework, and helps new options, that, no matter if or not they don't as we talk make experience, at the on the spot are not as interior the fashionable rejected. i'm actual open.

Answer 4

I thought I knew who I was in my mid 20s before I had kids but after having them, "my" world turned upside down, I'm a totally different person and now it's all about them. I suppose once I get past the world revolving around them I'll get back to figuring out who I truly am - probably sometime around retirement age!

Answer 5

There are certain things I discover about myself and I realize that they've always been true. those come out little at a time, over several years, and I don't imagine I'm anywhere near done (nor will I ever be). But, most of who I truly am as a person is very very fluid, and fragile. People aren't static.

Answer 6

Let's see.....that would be March 31, 2005 and I was 50 at the time. That was the day the judge signed the final divorce papers, and I was on my own for the first time in my life (I got married at 18, and went from living with my parents to living with my husband).

Answer 7

Eight grade, 13, 14? Kids made fun of me in school because I had glasses & clothes that were not the most expensive & latest style. In eight grade I had an epiphany that what they thought didn't matter. I'm a good person. By the way, I'm over 50 now & don't take any more crap.

Answer 8

I'm 38 and still continuing to discover myself, but I think there were a couple of defining points in my life that really stand out in my process of self discovery.

For most of my childhood and early adulthood, I felt very "lost". In my mid to late 20's I began noticing aspects of my personality that I'd repressed for so long, I had no clue they even existed. As such, I went through a bit of an "identity crisis", where I felt more lost than ever before. I really didn't feel like I knew myself at all. But once I made it through that, I was left with a self-understanding to such degree where I no longer feltl completely "lost".

Not long after, in my early 30's, as I was growing comfortable in the new me I had "found", my mother was diagnosed with cancer, and died 9 months later. Once again, certain aspects of my personality that I didn't know were there began to emerge, though not as drastically as before. And this time the experience was more peaceful than devistating.

Sometimes, in our struggles for individuality, we deny aspects of ourselves merely to separate us from our parents. Once we lose a parent, we no longer need to deny them... in fact, we may choose to tightly cling onto them.

And now, I look forward to the continued process of "finding myself". I am no long afraid of what I may face when I do.

Answer 9

I can say I truely found myself about 3 months ago... I basically just realized, wow this is me and theres really nothing I can do about it and amazingly i love who i am... There are some aspects about myself that I wish to improve upon and some i wish to stop improving upon but I am me and I would never ever want to be any one other than the random crazy interesting person I am! Then about 3 weeks after my "enlightenment" you could call it, I met the most amazing man who loves me fully and completly for the person I am and loves me even more for my many flaws that turned me into who I am today... Just as i love him even more for everything he has endured and experieced... I love you with all my heart David! ^_^

Answer 10

I don't think I've found myself... I'm in my mid-20's. I've changed so much in the last 6 years or so with all the things that I've been through. I'm still trying to figure out exactly who I am and learning to let others in, to show others who I really am, not just the shy girl they see every day. It's hard...

Answer 11

When i was in the 7th grade and im a senoir now. Something happend to me that made want to be better than who i was, based on the fact that i was to soft spoken and my kindness was taking for weakness...but based on that i have became a better person and after that day i have been the person that i am today... Im cool, calm, respectful, athletic, generious, gentlemen-like, and mindfull of the thoughts of others....