I've been having this ongoing fantasy about my wife being with another man. Sometimes I feel that I can't satisfy her completely because of my "size", if you know what I mean. I am not very well endowed is a better way to put it. Should I tell her about this fantasy, and is there anything wrong with me wanting her to be pleasured by a stud?
2006-12-22 06:27:45 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would tell her because she might want a bit of change in her sex life with you...a new casual partner is a good way.
2006-12-22 06:29:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
You need to have a serious talk with your wife, and not in the bedroom. You need to be open and honest with her, especially about the fact that you think that you don't satisfy her. She may not be open to the idea of another man, don't push it. If she is, you need to realize that you are inviting someone else to share in what you vowed to hold as your own...think long and hard about that one. Statistics show that most relationships fail after a third is entered into the sexual aspect. Also, toys are a great way to satisfy a woman, especially if you are the one to use them on her. It's an option. Just get the communication going, and keep an open line. Good Luck
2006-12-22 06:34:25 · answer #2 · answered by occasionallyrowdy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Threesomes are no big deal as long as everyone knows what is going on and there are boundaries regarding emotional and health issues, your fantasy is your own, so you obviously have not mentioned it to your wife, who may not feel the same way, she may be very well satisfied with you.
Before you invite another person into your bedroom you have to understand that this may bring up all sorts of issues for you, and cause more problems than it will solve, in fantasy all is fine. but when u cross that line complications may happen that you are not ready for. I suggest you talk with your wife starting with the fact as of how you two are doing sexually and what can the two of you experiment with further (sex toys, erotic movies), that way it's developing your relationship versus bringing in an outsider. If she is willing and you find the right person and all the health issues are covered you may proceed, but only as a last resort.
good luck
2006-12-22 06:40:32 · answer #3 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I really don't think there's anything wrong with this, depending on the people involved. What you're suggesting takes a huge amount of trust on your part, and hers. There could be jealousy issues that you're not aware of until the act is actually happening. If your relationship is indeed strong enough and confident enough, and you BOTH want this equally, then go for it! I've known couples who are swingers and they're able to do it successfully. But that doesn't mean it will go well for everyone. Take the time to talk to your wife about this, talk about it more than once. Make 100% sure of how you both feel about this and whether it will truly enhance your sex life or not. Be careful and don't rush into it!
2006-12-22 06:37:46 · answer #4 · answered by Heather C 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am sure that you can find a hundred ways to completely thrill and satisfy your wife. But I would never recommend bringing another person into the mix.
Relationships are precious and fragile things. I suspect bringing in another player could ruin life.
I bet there are some great sex toys you could use to help stimulate your wife and still keep it a special intimate loving event, and not sport ****ing!
2006-12-22 06:36:08 · answer #5 · answered by DorkBait 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are just a little insecure about your sexual relationship with your wife that is why you keep having fantasy about her being with another man. I think if she was worried about your size she probably would have not married you. Their are many other things you can do sexually to pleasure your wife.
Tell her about your fantasy, it may or may not be something she want to do.
2006-12-22 06:41:31 · answer #6 · answered by candi.delight 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just cuz you're small and YOU are insecure about your size, why would having another man bang your wife make you feel better? (makes absolutely NO sense) Maybe she likes you the way you are and doesn't want anyone else. Remember, too small is better than too big.. too big you can't do anything with.
But if you absolutely must see your wife having sex with someone else there are plenty of places you can get your kinks on.. just search online under "cuckold" and dating. You'll find something or maybe someone.
2006-12-22 06:43:56 · answer #7 · answered by supernaturaldj2000 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh! nooooo
your thoughts and fantasies are really disturbing!
Please be satisafied with what you have!
Life is all about that
no one could be complete and no one could be without anything
Life is all about adjusting and getting adjusted to things.
Life is all about love man!
Love and be loved
Passion and sex plays only a part in your life!
after fourty fourty five years, these burings that disturb you now shall become cold and frozen
be calm, bright and live in a better state!
please don't create winds in your mind!
Be calm, serene and perceive life in a better way
I saw many answers above suggesting different different things...
but she is your wife! your wife man! the half of your entire existence! the one who share everything with you! How can you leave her for a momentary pleasure at another man's feet.
hold her in your arms and kiss on her head.....that could take you and her softly through ages!
Please have a heart to consider my words!
The Christmas is near! Leave this heart blowing thoughts here after reading my words forever.
Take your heart to a better place.
Take it in your hand and console it...
Pray to God!
go out with your wife to church, pray well,
celebrate the christmas well
and let the new year be so wonderful for you and your wife!
My prayers shall be there for you!
Thank you
HAPPY CHRISTMAS FOR MY DEAR FRIEND IN TROUBLE*
and I wish
a
wonderful *NEWYEAR
2006-12-22 06:43:42 · answer #8 · answered by music_lover 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her, "Honey, I think I want to be cuckolded." Look up "cuckold" in a dictionary. You aren't the first. Although the idea gives me the creeps, and it seems highly toxic to the relationship, and she'll probably freak out, it's up to you to decide to tell her about your constant daydreaming about guys with big *****.
2006-12-22 06:41:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think anything is wrong with it if you are okay with letting it happen. But you might open the door to make her want to cheat if it's real good sex with someone else
2006-12-22 06:35:44 · answer #10 · answered by fiestylady 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think so, my husband has the same exact fantasy. He has even gone as far as wanting to hire someone for me. He even wants to watch.
2006-12-22 06:32:22 · answer #11 · answered by Sim 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋