Why gay guys generally are shallow?

Question

I mean there is something more profound and reflective in gay life than only muscle sexy bodies and handsome faces? Or there isn't? Are gay guys blinded by only physical things?
No bashing... I just want to know your opinion and how thoughtful you are.

Answer 1

Not all of them I think.... yes in some city such as Milan and Florence they really obsessed with physical things only. Your thought and mind are number 5, in sort of speak.
Yes we admit that mostly gay are obsessed with sexy muscle body. I know this since I've been into that kinda situation where when you are not muscle or cute or at least good looking, then you won't be accepted.
This happened when I was staying in Milan. Milanese gays are very closed, I mean... to be totally honest with you, it's so difficult to find a sexy guy who want to have sex with you. Sexy guys only go for other sexy guys, period. They really don't care about your thoughts or mind. They even don't wanna look at you at all, all they really care is other sexy guys. They spend most of the time only in the gym to shape their body more and more. And go for shopping Gucci eye wears or D&G underwear. This is true. I experienced this in Milan, myself.
But I also believe that there are nice and down to earth gay guys out there even the ratio is less than mostly gay guys...
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Answer 2

While many gay men are shallow, there are many of us who aren't. Here's why your generalization has some truth to it. If you ever pick up a Gay newspaper, magazine or book you'll see that much emphasis is placed on looks, build and stature. I say, gay advertisers are just as much to blame as gay men ourselves. Simply because they attempt to create this illusion that Gay looks like, "a young, White, muscular, well-dressed guy". What they don't include are men that don't fit that mold. So a great deal of the gay population tries to simulate that ideology of what a gay man is 'supposed' to look like.
Need an example, look no further than the latest hottie on the block, Reichen Lehmkuhl. He's the guy who wrote the book Here's What We'll Say...his personal account of being gay while in the Air Force Academy. Now, I know many guys who have stories that are more traumatic than the tell-all book of his which resemble a Falcon Video plot, however his book is flying off the shelves of gay bookstores.
Can you guess why?
His looks! That and he's dating Lance Bass.
It's sad that so many gay men are shallow--I agree. But it's only because, in my opinion, it's because the gay media attempts to make us this way.
It doesn't, however, work with me.

Answer 3

There is no difference in young gay guys and young straight guys. Young straight guys look for what is on the outside, such as great body parts, weight control, etc. So, also gay guys look for those bulging muscles, and great buldges elsewhere, pretty faces, etc. It is usually not until they begin to mature and really look for a life partner do they realize it is not all about looks, but what is inside that special person. You know, like trust, respect and true love, not merely a physical love.

Answer 4

You should be asking yourself (or maybe even Yahoo! Answers) why you spend so much time with gay guys that are shallow and obssesed with sexy bodies.

The people you keep, the people you surround yourself with and the people you FIND yourself surrouned by is a direct reflection of who you are and what you find acceptable. If you only know shallow gay guys, get out and find some that aren't. I promise you, we are out here, in as great of numbers as our straight counterparts.

If you are only asking this question rhetorically because you precieve gay men as being shallow (i.e. you actually don't know many if any gay men) then I would suggest you stop basing your opinions on sterotypes that are projected by others (the media, the Church, whatever). People are people and folks is folks . . . stop trying to find reasons to not connect with other great human beings.

Answer 5

A lot of movies and tv shows have applied this stereotype - it's not really fair. While gay men might enjoy more feminine things like shopping, personal appearance, etc., it does not mean they are shallow.

Answer 6

you look alright to me, maybe you're just not going to enough straight clubs. Then again girls will not just hit on you the way gays will, they like guys to initiate things and gays are a lot more straight talking than a lot of girls. I mean I dont really know of many girls who will go up to a guy and tell them theyre attractive,.

Answer 7

Because you're hanging out with the wrong gay guys in the wrong contexts? Why are straight guys so shallow (if you sampled straight guys at a bar on ladies' night, trust me, you'd find 'em pretty shallow).

Answer 8

I used to think that the muscle bound beach boys in my town were superficial, and that they gave gays a bad name, living up to the film stereotype. I went to the gym but for 'better' reasons, I thought. Then I got to know them better and I changed my mind.

Many of these guys had dozens of their friends and partners die of AIDS. They held them as they died, and struggled with death and the meaning of life repeatedly, something their straight peers wouldn't do until their 80s. They were far from 'superficial.' Many of them could teach us a lot about sacrifice for love and commitment in marriage and death, ironically.

But surviving AIDS and the wasting of their bodies left physcial and psychological scars. Many of them were HIV+ themselves. They battled chronic wasting every day. You would never know, since their doctors gave them steroids to fight the AIDS and make them look healthy. This helped to make muscle-bound air heads more of a wide-spread 'gay' reality.

Please try to remember that gays come in every size shape and color. But the drag queens and leather cowboys and muscle beach bunch look better on TV, so that's what you get on the evening news . . .

But in truth, a lot of hunky gay men with a carefree attitude have adapted this body and mindset to survive life. And many gay men have developed a sense of humour and an obsession with material things as a defense against the constant pressure of a society that hates them. They overcompensate, like other oppressed minorities, including blacks, Jews, and hispanics.

So admire my airhead gay friends' tans and smiles, and my bulging gym body and go ahead and asume that I am shallow -- I don't care. I know what's inside, and I fought to keep my life and my sanity, and I might as well have a beautiful body in designer clothes to display my victory, don't you agree?

And we might be well-groomed, but that doesn't mean we're selfish -- the largest financial charities in my city of 4 million people are run by 'superficial' gays -- who have an attitude of gratitude and want to help others.

Moral of the story: Don't judge any book by its cover.

Answer 9

Not any more shallow than us straight guys. We like sexy bodies and gorgeous faces. Wouldn't you prefer a nice pair of boobs to a flat-chested girl? It's human nature to appreciate beauty.

Answer 10

I think this is just a sterotype that is being created on tv. Not all gay men fit this stereotype. Don't believe everything you see on tv, it's usually distorted.