I'm married.My husband doesn't look at me the same.I've been flirting with a 20 y.o. Help?

Question

The 20 y.o. that I'm flirting with makes me feel worthy.And it's gone a little bit further than the long conversations.I kissed him and he didn't resist or pull me away to stop.And we've been touchy-feely with one another.

Answer 1

You are flirting with adultery. Is this what you want? Do you not love your husband anymore? Do you want a divorce? This is where you are headed.....believe me. Flirting with someone else now will ruin your marriage and your husband will lose faith and trust in you. The guy you are flirting with knows all this and probably will not think of you as a marriage partner but instead as a mistress. Is this what you want? Think twice before you continue.

Answer 2

You don't mention how long you been married for how old you are. although maybe not right, but after some time things do go a little cold. What should happen is figure out what why. I'm not saying it's all your fault at all. It's sometimes the man doesn't see it. He thinks everything is fine. COMMUNICATION is the most important thing in a relationship. Some times this communication can hurt some feelings. But, it can fix problems. Or at least bring it out into the open. Maybe It's something very simple as just being a little touchy-feely with him. Have you tried that? Before you go any further and ruin your family for ever. Try to talk things out. Maybe it's something deeper and unfortunately maybe a break up is in your future. But then at least you won't be cheating which is what your doing.

Answer 3

Youre one of those bitc*hes i see on court TV that gets killed by their husband for some stupid sh*it like this...So print out the following and give it to your husband. If i were him i would beat you and this has gone to far so....Send him this to him.
If you catch your wife cheating on you ever you really need to consider your options....1)Kill her and get paid lots of money... or 2) Go through the messy divorce and and lose half your sh*it to some stupid ***** that doesnt even deserve it. Think about it and do the right thing....Strangle her(because you cant detect strangulation as cause of death after the body has been burnt) break your door/window and ransack the house (to indicate burglary gone wrong)and set the house on fire with a time delay fuse(preferably a long heavy rag semi soaked in any acclerent stuffed into a full container of gasoline) and leave to the bar which will later be your alibi...Then come home and call the police yourslef. They'll think she either died in the fire while sleeping or killed in a burglary gone wrong and the fire was set to cover up the crime....And rememebr these 3 very important things....Remeber to act suprised, act distraught, and deny everything unless they have you on tape...Remeber the burden of proof rests on the state not the defendent.....And under NO circumstances confess to the crime...As soon as they cops tell you they think your a suspect ask for a lawyer and deny participation in any more of the investigation.... Do these things and you, my friend, will be a very rich and happy person.

Answer 4

And you better get a grip on yourself real quick!

I don't know how old you are but the statement, a 20 year old makes you feel worthy? Listen to how that sounds....Do you really need a 20 year old to make you feel worthy?

You need to get control and put this in perspective. I don't know how long you have been married but do you want to throw it away for this 20 year old?

Please stop and quit while you're ahead. I can assure you the 20 year old has ZERO interest in anything more from you than sex. If you wish to cheapen yourself for that, by all means, but just think about the consequences before you act.

You need to talk to your husband and learn to work out your issues....If you proceed with doing what you're doing, you will be opening up a huge can of worms that I doubt you are prepared to deal with.

Answer 5

Pink, you are only going to lose at this new deal, I promise you. It will blow up in your face and even if your hubby never finds out, you will know and it will eat away at you.
Stop it now before it goes any further. Tell your husband how yo feel and at least give him a fighting chance to make things better. You are married, it means something. You can't just bail cause it isn't all "new" any more, try to fix it with him and if you can't you can't but you need to end it first before moving on and doing things you can never un do...
Not the answer you wanted I know, but I promise you, one way or another, this wil come back to bite you in the a**!!!! good luck, I really am not yelling at you, just trying to help you not make a huge mistake....

Answer 6

Before trying to get attention from someone else, you should talk with your husband about it. Let him know how you have been filling lately. Sometimes men forget that we women need extra attention from them, we are a little more romantic and emotional than them. But don't hurt your marriage over something that could be fix by communicating with your husband. If you find that after talking to him thinks don't work out. Then get a divorce and go on with your life!!

Answer 7

You don't say how old you are or how long you have been married, but you might consider that he feels the same way you do. Are you looking at him the same way you used to? Marriage takes work, so stop playing games with a 20 year old and start flirting with your husband again.

Answer 8

Oh honey...

Take this from someone who left her husband to be with a 23 year old...

It's fun now, but reality will set in right about the time you realize he's still a kid who doesn't understand or respect responsibility.

My husband and I are back together because this is where I belong. I love the younger guy. A lot. And it hurts so much sometimes that I can't stand it. But, I have children with my husband, and this is truly where I should be.

The comfort zone alone with your husband is worth staying. You'll always be on your toes with the 20 year old, and it will get old. It did for me after about 6 months.

Answer 9

Before you go overboard, try talking to you husband. He probably doesn't even know your unhappy with the relationship.
You married your husband for a reason, marriage is not easy it's a lot of work but it is worth it. By looking for someone else is thrilling and exciting and easy to do, especially if you are playing both parts but it will end and you will be left with no one. Getting caught will end the excitement of infidelity, your marriage and your self worth. It all depends on how much your willing to lose.

Answer 10

I think you are confused, try to talk with your husband before anything else happens with the other boy. Be honest with your husband and tell him how you feel in the relationship. If he doesn't change the only solution I find is divorce, and then start a relationship with the other boy, but stop what you have with the 20yo boy until you talk with your husband first.
May be things can be fixed between you guys...