however, she hasn't told her son who is 15 years old. She is afraid of his reaction and doesn't want to hurt him. She feels that the longer she waits the better it will be. She is no longer with her son's father and has had a relationship with someone else for about 2 years. She is afraid that her ex will find out and do something to hurt her while she is pregnant. What would you do?
2006-12-22 06:20:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
She had a restraining order but uses the excuse that she doesn't want to see her ex in jail because it hurts her son's feelings and would upset her son......I don't know what else to tell her.
2006-12-22 06:24:38 · update #1
She is going to have to tell him sooner or later.She won't be able to keep it a secret much longer. She may as well tell him now. Is she also afraid of her son? Does he take after is father? The X could hurt her? Tell her to get a restraining order. He is an X why would he try to hurt her now? There isn't much she can do to contunue to hide this from her son.She will be showing he'll know.
2006-12-22 06:26:28 · answer #1 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Lord. Who needs that kind of drama when you are pregnant??!!! If she is really concerned about her and her baby's safety, then she might need to send the son to stay with the father until the baby is born.
However, hiding things is never a great thing to do in a relationship be it wife-husband or mother-son. That 15 year old is likely to feel rejection at his mother's decision to leave him out of her pregnancy. No matter what her intentions were or how good they were, he will take it as a personal blow. Also, a lot of the bonding with a new baby happens over the 9 months that you are anticipating his/her arrival! She is denying her son that opportunity to bond with his new brother or sister.
There is no easy answer on this one. If she is really concerned about her safety, maybe she should put a restraining order on the ex. I think she should go ahead and tell her son. He will find out in a couple of weeks anyway! She is not going to be able to hide it much longer!
2006-12-22 14:25:41 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is talk to your friend. It is not your place to do anything. Giver her sound advice and try to make her see things from all angles. Chances are her son is going to be mad that she didnt' tell him sooner. He will not have any time to wrap his head around the idea. 15 year olds can be pretty understanding, she should give him a chance. As for the ex- she can take out a restriaining order if she is that worried about him.
2006-12-22 14:24:25 · answer #3 · answered by Aubrey's Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.) Tell the son. She is nuts not to have said anything by now. If I was him I would be way more upset having something like this kept from me... not cool. ( and its not something she can keep a secret for ever.. man..whats she thinking ?? )
2.) On the ex... two words ' Restraining Order '
2006-12-22 14:24:00 · answer #4 · answered by Kassi22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hum... she is 7 months pregnant.... so she has two more months before she has to take the new bundle-of-joy home... Wow, what a conundrum. Maybe her 15 year old son will get the gist then. It would be far worse if he found out that way, I think, but if I were you, I would not interfere with what she decides to do.
2006-12-22 14:27:06 · answer #5 · answered by Valєηtiηa ☆ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well talk to your friend and tell her that the right thing to do is to tell her son because it is actually the longer the worst and for her ex tell him the truth also, and if he DOES try to hurt her in any way possible tell her to call the police becasuse he will surely get locked up especially that sh is pregant, and also if she still doesn't listen to you just leave her alone because u dont want to mess with a pregnant woman
2006-12-22 14:32:48 · answer #6 · answered by Chevy.. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation just a few months ago. At the time i was 3 months pregnant & didn't want to tell my daughter for the exact same reasons. But i did anyway .. She was mad for a few days .. But now she is just as excited as i am...
Just get it over with.... She cant hide it to much longer....
Good Luck
2006-12-22 14:27:05 · answer #7 · answered by ahg30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I second John's opinion. Its really your friend's call...
However,if she is 7 months pregnant, her son probably already has noticed Mom's changed figure and maybe wonders why she isn't talking to him about it.
She needs to get some protection from her ex, however..
2006-12-22 14:25:58 · answer #8 · answered by Rani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she really needs to tell her son. If her son is going to have any kind of problem with it then he needs to know sooner than later so he has time to adjust. what is she going to do just come home with a baby one day and expect him to just accept it?
2006-12-22 14:24:46 · answer #9 · answered by wantme_comegetme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order!
2006-12-22 14:22:57 · answer #10 · answered by Finally pregnant w/ #2!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋