Sex before marriage or after marriage?

Question

There's still doubtful minds as to whether should it be sex before marriage or after, among teenagers in the 1990s, but thesedays, this question doesnt even bear an issue.. Kids start having sex as early as 13 years old, boy, isn't that scary..? Tis' not healthy, tis' not right.. But there's nothing that can be done, is there?

Answer 1

I have to disagree with your statement... Since when is it brand new information that kids are having sex at 13? My grandmother (who happens to be 85 now) had 4 children by the time she was 16. This was nothing new or odd in her time, it was normal. I think the reason why people look at kids who are 13 and having sex as if they are rebellious teens is because this is becoming more of a rarity. It's becoming a "big deal" for two reasons, more kids ARE in fact waiting to have sex, so when we see those who have engaged in this act, we gasp in awe and think "Oh my she's so young!" The other reason being that more people such as yourself have begun to point it out. Whether or not you "should" have sex cannot be prematurely based on a "before or after marriage" agenda. One will engage in intercourse when they know they are ready, and feel mature enough, whether they're are correct in the decision is only for them to decide.

Answer 2

After

Answer 3

It really depends on the situation. I think kids today are having sex way too soon. At 13, no one should be having sex, regardless of how "mature" they think they are. What kids don't realize is that if they have sex young, the whole school will hear about it in a matter of days. I waited until I was 18 years old and truly in love. I am still with my boyfriend today at 21 years old. We plan to get married, but for us, we didn't feel like waiting was necessary because we knew that we were right for each other. The sticky thing here is, when 16 year olds are smitten, they take it for love and think they can go ahead and have sex. It takes a far more mature person to wait and have the forsight that as a teenager, they may not know what love is quite yet. We need to talk to our kids and tell them why waiting is a better idea and a much safer one.

Answer 4

I believe in sex after marriage because i am a christian and premarital sex is a sin. Its also dangerous and wrong. I really think that something should be done about this. Too many people are getting STD's and getting pregnant. Especially at the fact that people as young as 13 are having sex. If its illegal then i dont understand why not more things are being done about this matter. People need to come to their senses and stop this because its just getting worse and worse. Hopefully something will be done to stop premarital sex. There would be less STD's, teen pregnancies, people would be saving themselves for the ones they love and people would be both obeying and honoring God's Word. All for the right reasons.

Answer 5

I think sex is best when you wait until after you are married. And it can be done ... I was 28 when I was married and a virgin. My husband is the first person that I ever kissed. I am glad I waited. I never had to experience all the heartache that comes with broken relationships.

As far as what can be done about teen sex ... you have to raise you kids with those values and really have a good relationship with them. If kids feel loved at home, accepted, etc. they will not go looking for love in bed where it can't be found as a teenager.

Answer 6

In the news recently it was shown the majority of people have sex BEFORE marriage, now this study went way back to people from the 1930's. Sex before marriage is the norm and not just lately but back in the so called good old days. Also waiting until marriage is not realistic when the majority of couples choose to live together without being married.

Answer 7

I personally am saving myself until I'm married. First of all, I'm a Christian and that's what the Bible teaches. (don't give me a thumbs down just for that. I'm not preaching, I'm just saying it how I see it, k?)

Also, I really don't want to get pregnant before I'm married! That's never happened in our family and I don't want to disappoint myself, my parents, or anybody else. So you might say, duh! just get on birth control!!! But that's not the point with me. I DO have self-control. And I have made up my mind. And that's all there is to it. I would suggest it for everybody else. EVEN if you've already had sex, you can commit yourself to wait until you're married. The wait and the struggle will make sex seem like a reward!!! <3

Answer 8

If you're in love and "seriously" considering marriage, them before - with protection and birth control. A good marriage requires compatability in many areas, philosophy, temperment, values, and respect just to name a few. If one party enjoys sex and the other one doesn't, it will become a potential source of conflict between the two of you. Know what you're getting into and work things out "before" getting married - because it only becomes more and more work for the first ten years as you continue to grow as individuals and agree on that compatible "middle ground".

Answer 9

After marriage

Answer 10

Sex is a huge part of holding a relationship together, waiting till after marriage my leave you with a sexually inept partner, while a relationship should be more than phsyical, a partner who is bad in bed can lead to problems in a relationship later on. Know what you getting into, id go for before marriage.