Is dressing in drag the sign of an underlying psychological problem, or can it be part of a healthy straight male's sex life? Please excuse my ignorance on the subject. I'm seeing a guy that has just told me he likes it, and I am inclined to go along with it if it's who he is...I guess I'm just nervous that underneath he doesn't like girls. Men - help me out here?
2006-12-22 06:04:25 · 21 answers · asked by Christy 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I know straight and gay men who do it. They seem less hung up, more at ease, than many others.
I don't see it as anything to do with not liking girls - I fail to see the connection.
2006-12-22 06:06:28 · answer #1 · answered by kent_shakespear 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
First of all, not-liking-girls does NOT equal "unhealthy". That said, it sounds like he definitely likes girls, and yet might not be completely healthy. Part of it is the extent to which he likes it: if it has to be an all the time thing, that's not healthy. Also, not completely related to health, but possibly of interest to you: how "weird" does he have to get before you're not really interested anymore. Some straight guys do drag because they are attracted to themselves as women. (Drag is not always the same as cross-dressing, which it sounds like you're talking about, but I'm not even going to get into that). Might be worth talking to him more about it.
2006-12-23 02:06:14 · answer #2 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you be comfortable to go out with him while you're both all dressed up, have makeup etc...? If not, there is your answer. If he doesn't go out while dressed up, there's your answer again. In general there are only some parts of town drag queens can safely roam. If you stay together will you be comfortable to explain your kids why both of you wear dresses and why classmates make fun of it? Try it, may be a rocky road but hey, things don't always pan out with "normal" people either... :-)
2006-12-22 15:00:12 · answer #3 · answered by Goswin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK well the men who are cross dressers are straight men who get "release" by dressing as a woman-Drag queens are gay guys who have way too much fashion sense for one gender..and then there are some transgendered men who want to be a woman..hope that helps...Peace and have a happy holiday
2006-12-22 14:08:23 · answer #4 · answered by Art 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men in DRAG or what can be better called Crossdressing is not a new thing. Men have worn women's clothing for centuries and it has been proven that there is nothing wrong with it. Read the DSMIV-TR and they refer to it as transvetic fetishism, which is wrong. But in any case, there is nothing wrong with it.
Every one has two genders inside of them. Crossdressers have the ability to reach in and embrace the feminine side of their personality and do so by wearing women's clothing.
Aside from what many say, most crossdressers are heterosexual and have monogamous relationships.
I've been Crossdressing for many years and desire to sleep with my wife only.
2006-12-22 14:42:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just him expressing himself. Even I admit that there are some women's clothing which I like. Then again, that doesn't matter much since I'm gay anyway. But still, if he didn't I would be worried. The reason being is that when a transsexual male does not express himself, he becomes abusive. So don't worry little sister, I'd rather have him like that than in the closet.
2006-12-22 14:12:59 · answer #6 · answered by gaygoddevil 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heterosexual male cross dressing is fairly common. Statistics show that one in five men either have or are actively wearing women's clothing at some time. Cross dressing itself is not bad and it is something women have been doing for years, whether we like to name it that or not. Cultural attitudes are changing and it will become more acceptable every year. The real question is not what he likes to wear, but who he is as a person beneath the dress. If you like him for who he is, let him wear what he likes, just like you.
2006-12-22 14:07:59 · answer #7 · answered by Isis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
80% of cross dressers are straight. And 80% of that 80% are married. It's perfectly healthy. Certainly more healthy than repressing the fetish and having it pop up in inappropriate situations.
Just keep an open mind. Maybe you can talk about indulging his fetishes and him indulging yours. :)
Relationships are all about accepting that not everyones the same as everyone else, and coming to a compromise if you can. Heck, you might just like help him get dressed up, try something!
2006-12-22 14:07:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Its no sign I do it and have done for quite a while now my gf knows and is cool with it all. Im straight and have never questioned my sexuality so trust him if he says hes straight he is. Plus females crossdress all the time.
2006-12-22 16:58:02 · answer #9 · answered by weirdlittlebritain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose that you're going to get a variety of answers on this one. I would say to you to test the waters first. If it's something that the both of you can enjoy together, then go for it. I would just be careful to not get too emotionally involved until you know exactly where his heart lies.
2006-12-22 14:17:02 · answer #10 · answered by The Overweight Lover 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋