because i struggle to pay child-support as well as support my own family of four. while my sons' mom got to sit on welfare for 10 years as well as sec. 8 . she now has a great job still has sec. 8 and has prevented me from have any type of relationship with my son. she's the dead beat and should be responsible for paying back at least half of what is owed to welfare. welfare has become a career to young wimen now.
2006-12-22 05:44:49 · 22 answers · asked by that guy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sorry you are going through this.. There are alot of women who did sit on there azz and don't want to do anything for them selfves.. They think that it's all about a man doing it for them.. Get up and get a job you lazy btizh............
How can you report abuse.. He has a family of four..
I work and I have two children and there dad is $70,789.23 behind in CS and I do it..
Yes the goverment help me when I needed it and I moved on but 10yrs.. Get a job,,,,
I wish you the best I hope she has to pay some of it back...
2006-12-22 05:53:30 · answer #1 · answered by Rebecca 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a deadbeat dad if you aren't paying child support. She may be making it difficult for you to have a relationship with your child but it's not impossible. Have you filed court-ordered visitation? She won't be able keep you from seeing your son and if she does, she will be in legal trouble. Does your family of four include your other biological children? If so, go to court to get the child support issue revisited. The courts have the authority to adjust the amount.
Oh, and there are deadbeat moms too. When I had to go to court to get child support from my son's deadbeat father, there were a few women there who owe back child support.
Obviously, since she has a great job, she isn't making welfare a career. Instead of being spiteful, be glad that your son has clothes on his back and a roof over his head due to Section 8, welfare, or whatever. Believe me, the little bit of money that you may be paying for child support does not come close to supporting that child.
Think you can do a better job? Tired of paying child support? File for full custody.
2006-12-22 14:20:45 · answer #2 · answered by Inquiring Mind 19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should she be called the dead beat? She has a job now, her taxes will go and pay back the money she got from Welfare and Section 8 housing.
We all do what we can for survive.
I don't like that you say she's preventing you from having a relationship with your son, that's not right. But you need to do right by him and pay the child support. Does your current wife work? I know it's a struggle (we're a family of 5, his ex wife doesn't pay child support for her two kids we have custody of and I don't get child support for the one I have custody of) and it's hard to make ends meet at times. But an obligation is an obligation. When his kids mother had custody, he got a second job to pay for the child support because that was his duty, and it looked a lot better than a jail cell.
2006-12-22 05:49:45 · answer #3 · answered by Heather S 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would suggest that you get yourself some good legal advise on the matter. If she is on welfare and taking a big bite out of you. With a good legal adviser you could get your child support lowered and get visiting rights for your son. You have every right to see your son. And since you say she is working and has not notified Welfare about it, yes they will go after her to pay it back for they Will put her in jail until an agreement can be arranged...
2006-12-22 05:54:32 · answer #4 · answered by Angell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i so hate it when men blame the woman for not being able to maintain a relationship with their kids. that's a whole lot of crock. first off, no one is preventing you but yourself. get off your butt and get a court order. if she violates the court order, call the police each and every time. have them write an incident report. drag her butt back to court.
if you had been paying child support from the day you were no longer with the mother of your child you wouldn't have so much to pay back. you can't get welfare if you are getting child support. her income was so low (because you weren't supporting your son) that she qualified for sec 8.
2006-12-22 06:06:37 · answer #5 · answered by Bella 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just told my peace to another person on here from the media. We, Nation Coalition of Free Men, are doing everything we can to achieve true equal rights. We have many true feminist that are with us, they see the abuse that is going on in the system. I feel for you, the same thing is happening to me, and many many others in this country. I can't talk to my kids due to completely false statements stated by ex and a system that supports it. Anyway, the list goes on. Hang in there, buddy. Look into our organization or any organization. Be careful
2006-12-22 05:50:48 · answer #6 · answered by samaustinashlee_billiewjr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry yet sporadic time is extra powerful than no time in any respect! Youre staring at this all incorrect: Its no longer approximately what hes doing or what he needs.... Its approximately your daughter having time together with her dad. when you consider which you comprehend she does not spend adequate time with him, its substantial that she gets the time that she would be able to. So do no longer punish her by utilising no longer permitting them to be jointly because of the fact she desires him basically as much as she desires you. If his movements start to disenchanted her then make the determination to end it yet for now enable her have this time & call him back. additionally whilst she desires to speak to him enable her leave a message on his telephone or help her write him a letter or make a card.
2016-10-05 21:57:45 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her to court. she can't keep you from your child. she is the dead beat iof she abuses welfare. just do you best to pay you support and send what you can. also learn our rights. if you have a custody agreement. get a copy and on your visitation go get your kid! if she refuses call the police if you have the custody order in hand they must turn the child over to you. visitation and child support are two different laws in the state were i live. i'm sure the attorney general of who ever handle the child support case has a way of tracking down the women if she refuses to give you andress.
2006-12-22 05:50:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Doesn't matter what she does, or how good her job is at the moment.......he's your son and you're responsible for his welfare....
Sounds like you haven't been paying anything towards his upkeep - Why should she let you see him if you don't care enough about him to pay something towards raising him. Bet you haven't even tried to have any type of relationship with him.....
You are a dead-beat dad - LOSER!!
2006-12-22 05:50:22 · answer #9 · answered by brenny_boo 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You're right. It's time to end the sexist and outdated concepts of Alimony and Child support as we know it. As a child of divorce I know what it's like from both sides of the fence...and I know what that money REALLY gets spent on...and it's not the kids.
It's a million times easier for a woman to get her cash (for a new tile floor or maybe a nice living room set) "for child support" than it is for a father to enforce his visitation rights.
All these people want to ***** and moan for the poor single mothers. Well....if you share custody and let the father have a relationship with the child, you'll get the help you're looking for. Problem is....most of these woman aren't looking for help raising the children...they're looking for a hand out.
2006-12-22 05:47:56 · answer #10 · answered by Barrett G 6 · 4⤊ 3⤋