So after 8 years of being together, 6yrs married, and a 3 yr old lil girl my wife decides to get a divorce. I tried to do everything to try to make the marriage work but she wanted to be single again. 6 months later I won custody of my daughter, got a good job, and been dating alot!! She came over to visit my daughter last week and started to tell me that she wanted to get back with me and that she made a mistake by wanting to leave me.
Now, I've been single for all this time and doing a lot of dating and meeting girls and gone on with my life. I've gotten over her and I dont trust her anymore. My parents say that I should think about it cuz she is after all the mother of my daughter. But really, my daughter would be the only one benefiting from us getting back together. Would yall give her a chance?
2006-12-22 05:38:50 · 24 answers · asked by big.daddy83 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if your daughter is the only one benefiting then no. your daughter can visit her anytime that she wants. but if you do love your ex wife then yes give her another chance sometimes people dont know what they have until they loose it.
2006-12-22 05:42:03 · answer #1 · answered by stunt101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be afraid she would do it again. If you won custody then there have to be issues with your wife.
She is the mother of your child, but would it be in your kids best interest to have a woman who may not be stable, and may run off again. How much damage would that do to your kid?
another thing you have ask yourself is how soon after the birth did things go wrong in the marriage? Chemical imbalances caused by child birth can cause a woman to act and do things that she wouldn' t normally do. You have a sticky situation here and only time will tell. If you think you might still have feelings for her and want to give it a try do so under strict guidelines. Start over as much as possible as if you are just meeting for the first time and starting to date each other. Don't let her move back in until plenty of time has gone by so that you know she is serious and wants to work it out. Also, as far as the child is concerned, don't let the mother have more time with her than she would normally get under the divorce decree. It would be a terrible thing for the daughter to think you were back together and then have your wife split on you again.
2006-12-22 05:52:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about you let her come back, but continue with the divorce. She has her own bank accts and pays her half and you pay yours. If things go well then in a few years you can talk about re-marrying.
Think about it! Once the divorce is final any sort of alimony could and should be paid, but if you are living together you will still get the benefits of the money. In all truth marriage is complicated legal bond that is based on two people agreeing to stay together each day. So that mean marriage last only because both partners agree to stay together each day and that's all. The relationship that you and your ex will be base on this same idea and the freedom leave at any time WITHOUT the legal head aches of a divorce SINCE YOU ARE ALREADY DIVORCED!!!!
2006-12-22 06:06:05 · answer #3 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess the answer to your question should really boil do to your feelings for her. It you truly feel in your heart that you are incapable of feeling anything for, then my suggestion is to let her go and not go backwards. But if somewhere inside you, you truly feel that there maybe something still there, I would give it a second shot. I mean, I am in a similar situation where I just wasn't mature enough to see how much my husband loved me and wanted to make me happy and have a family and I just kept walking out and playing games. Now when I finally get it together, he has emotionally moved on and I am devestated. My point is, it's all about what you feel and it she loves you she will respect that because I've found out that love is putting the needs of another over your own. And if she loves you, she will be willing to do that.
2006-12-22 05:47:11 · answer #4 · answered by Dazed and Confused?? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK.. getting back together yes would benefit your daughter.. but its only going to hurt you and her in the long end. 1. Being you have no feeling for her. 2 Being you don't trust her and 3 Neither one of you know each other like you used to anymore.
Your best bet is being friends. If you want start over start out as building a friendship foundation and get to know each other again.
But if you don't want to start over. Then just be friends and be civil to each other for you daughters sac
2006-12-22 05:50:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may only want u back because she broke up with whoever it was that caused your breakup. if i had done everything to make something work, and she still wanted a divorce, than u already did all u could do before the divorce. and if it did not benefit u personally i would never take her back. if u are happy with your life and want to be single, than go for it, and don't feel guilty about it. she was the one who wanted the divorce in the first place.
2006-12-22 05:48:21 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-01 02:18:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is often a choice first and a feeling later. It would likely be best for your daughter if you and her mother lived together and took care of her. Reconciling your disrupted marriage is a step that will take a lot of courage and great moral fortitude. I suggest considering it carefully and seeking counseling. Perhaps this period will be the “worst” part of your life and it can only get better when patched up.
2006-12-22 05:47:01 · answer #8 · answered by Patrick C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2014-09-24 07:46:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she had her chance & blew it!
She is not to be trusted
how can you trust someone who walks out unless you were mean to her
i would never take her back
because your child has already been hurt the 1st time she left so don't let there be a 2nd time
just stay friends so it makes seeing her easier when you have to deal with her because of your child
2006-12-22 07:21:52 · answer #10 · answered by ausblue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋