I love my older brother to bits, i guess we have grown apart now in part, and we have gone thru quite a lot in the last couple of yrs, i did some stupid things to hurt him too which i continually feel guilty for. However he doesnt bring it up, but i wonder if deep down he is ever bitter towards me? or likes me really?? and if i ask him im not sure ill get a genuine answer and also it scares the living daylights out of me that he may not so i dont dare ask either or he may be sarcastic about it. I dont knw what to do its eating away at me sometimes!!! bcz i semi worship the ground he walks on!
Maybe im just being insecure? part of me tells me im not and i dont knw what to do.
What should i do if anything??
2006-12-22 05:34:09 · 5 answers · asked by lazydazy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Okay. You love your brother and your brother loves you enough to let the past go and to move on.
The problem is that you can't let go of this because of the guilt that you feel at the hurt you've caused.
Rightly or wrongly, if he were mine, I'd sit down with him and pour your heart out over this and give him the chance to truly forgive you, or to voice his own hurt and give you the chance to show contrition.
We all make mistakes in life honey, especially when we are young. Don't lt them haunt your future, he's going to be needing a wonderful Aunt for his children someday.
I wish you luck x
2006-12-22 05:41:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a bit like how Tony Soprano was treated by his sister when growing up.
I don't know how badly you treated your own brother in the past, but Big T's sister used to blackmail, tease, ignore his suffering and ill treatment from his mother whilst the daughter got all the treats and attention. In that instance he kept a formal brotherly/sister relationship in adulthood.. but did harbour quite some latent resent.
Maybe it would help now if you could prove your hurting him in the past was due to your own immaturity... and that as a more grown adult you really care/love him as a brother and regret your actions. Best way to do that would be to treat him well and prove the kindness of actions from now on. Good luck.
2006-12-22 05:43:02 · answer #2 · answered by Joe Bloggs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to communicate your feelings to him. He may be feeling some resent, and you need to make it clear to him that what he thinks of you is very important to you. Guys are not usually as demonstrative as females in the "touchy-feely" department, and he may be just hiding his feelings. He won't be sarcastic if he knows that you're feelinlg vulnerable.
2006-12-22 07:09:47 · answer #3 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first you say sorry to your brother. It may be misunderstanding between one another. Forgive and forget.
2006-12-22 05:41:43 · answer #4 · answered by akandaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your brother, you can rest assured he loves you anyway. Relax though, nothing more off putting than someone who desperately wants you to like them.
2006-12-22 05:38:24 · answer #5 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋