A person who was considered a family friend died last night, how do I accept this?

Question

This person was a close friend of mine's mom and I am really upset about it. I mean here it is three days till Christmas and this friend is going to have to spend it without his mom? What do I do? I know everything happens for a reason, but why now so close to Christmas? I need help dealing with this... Thanks.

Answer 1

you just need to accept death as a part of life.

i know what you are going through, I have dealt with death many times in my life, most recently, 2 days ago, my friend's mother was killed by none other than a drunk driver.

just because it is the holiday season doesn't mean we are all invincible.

be there for your friend, you could invite your friend to spend christmas with you, or you could spend christmas with your friend.

just know that tomorrow is never promised to anyone no matter who they are or what time of the year it is.

sorry for your loss.

Answer 2

You are a very sympathetic friend. Your friend is very lucky to have someone like you in his/her life. I lost my Mom right before her birthday and mine in 2005. Christmas time is still really hard for me because it was so special to her. Fortunately, I've got my girlfriend and another close friend that help to make things alot easier. Maybe, you could invite your friend to spend part of the holiday with you. That allows you to reach out to someone in pain and gives your friend something else to think about.

Answer 3

Sometimes this stuff just has to happen, its bloody depressing and i know what it feels like, my father was found dead in his house (didn't live with me) last christmas and i never cried, i let it all inside but i cried this year cause of it, just say a little prayer and try to help his mother, dont shed a tear infront of her though, if she is like ''im sick of life'' just try explaining that we're all born with an expirary date and we can't let it stop us from living.

Let me share my pain with you, we both been through it,
last year it was me and now its you, lets just both carry on living and stay smiling, we cant do anything else.

i hope it all goes ok, and promise to keep your head up in any times of struggle because some people do go through alot of struggles.. i dunno why but we gotta stay strong.

take care.