why is he so mean?

Question

ok i was on my old gyms gymnastics site cause i want to get back in and my twin brother saw and was like "u suck at gymnastics y are u looking at that". i was in gymnastics for almost 7 yrs and i quit 3 yrs ago. i was on the team there and im still very good at it. why does my brother have to be so mean to me all the time. hes always insulting me and and saying mean stuff to me. i kno i don't suck at gymnastics but like he always has to say something to hurt my feelings. why does my brother always pick on me he never picks on our younger brother only me. why does he have to be so mean all the time?

hes on A team basketball for our skool this yr and he thinks hes the best in the skool. but hes really not, so he kinda has a talent.

no hes not older than me im older than him by 1 min.

when he insults me i usually go up to him and insult him back but after that we end up beating each other up until i walk away or i tell him he wins.

Answer 1

sounds like he is jealous of you,
that must be very hard for you....
:(

Answer 2

I think that it could just be a jealousy issue. You are both in your teenaged years or younger, right? You say that you have participated in gymnastics for a long time, and you are pretty good at it. You should not worry about his comments or what he thinks of you. Whatever he says, you most likely know they are not true, and of course he is trying to hurt your feelings. The best thing you can do is to ignore him, he is below you anyway. But still be respectful to him, you don't have to talk to him and say mean things, just walk away from him. Being confrontational towards another person escalates problems and you don't want that. If it continues, try telling your parents, but until then ignore him... Oh yeah, continue to have fun at gymnatics and show him he is wrong.

Answer 3

He's ur twin? If so he is jealous and knows u r good don't take it so personal. I bet if he saw u getting hurt by someone else he'd come to ur protection quick, faster, than a hurry. he's just being a typical brother he will grow out of it seems u r the more mature on and do recognize that he is talented just let him see all the ribbons and or trophies u bring home go for it do the best u can do and Good luck.

Answer 4

I'm guessing (I could be wrong) he's an older brother.

Older siblings often have some "thing" about putting the younger siblings down. Younger siblings often look up to the older ones (unless the older one is really troubled or otherwise particularly awful). Older siblings like to appoint themselves critics or parents or competitors over the younger ones.

If I'm right that he's older than you and that your younger brother is younger than both of you, you're the closest to your brother. That's why he's got issues with you. He may feel the younger brother is too little to be mean to, but he thinks you're old enough to be able to take it.

If he's, by any chance, younger than you then - again - he thinks you're old enough to take his remarks.

Either way, he's got his own opinion (which could be a twisted one for some reason), and he feels freer than he should to voice it.

Answer 5

My brother's exactly like that and has been like that for a long time. Tell him how you feel -but no blackmailing or threatening to kill him if he doesn't stop- and tell him how you feel when he says stuff that can make you feel bad. If he doesn't care, take the matter to your 'rents. But make sure you don't say this, "Mom, [name here] is really being mean to me! Ground him!" That's one thing you shouldn't do. You're brother will only make you feel worser by calling you the unkind names like, "Snitch, tattletale, fink, rat, etc." Maybe just say, "Mom could you please tell [insert name here] that he really makes my self esteem go lower when he insults me on what I love to do." That brings the point out AND you won't have to tell him straight in the eye without a loving, trusting person. Maybe even show him what you wrote on here. Trust me, if he still is mean to you, he'll be guilty and won't do it as much. But if he does get a note pad and write everything you're good at.
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Answer 6

awwwww dun wry at least u no that u guys r normal brother an sister. i mean no the brothers an sisters that get along really scare me. i no for sure that me an my brother aren't always the best of people. (i mean those yeech) an i hate it wen i am the one to alays start cryin. an then i wonder y is he such a retard.
but yeah i think i get how u sorta feel, but stil it looks like u have a pretty nice an fun relationship. an twins.....woah
but dun wry i think that if anybody else like did somethin rong to u or somethin he would defenitly stick up for u.

Answer 7

He is just jealous tht u have a great talent at sumthing. Brothers are usually like tht and try to say mean things to their sisters and insult them often.

Answer 8

maybe your brother is jealous of your talent. Maybe he feels that he needs to be mean to you so that he can feel better about himself. I say don't listen to him and join the gymnastics team again. You deserve to do what makes you happy, and your brother needs to learn to respect that.

Answer 9

Its all brothers missions to insult there sisters. At times I get really fed up at mine. We've always been really close, but lately he's been really acting mean. Always saying rude stuff just to get on my nerves. Sounds like your brother.

He only does it because you get upset over it. Just ignore it, pretend like it doesn't hurt you. Its like a bully, when he sees he's not getting a response, he'll stop. Even if he knows your good at something, he'll pretend you aren't.

Answer 10

dont get borhed u know what ? i believe he sees something unique in u i think u r a very special person and he is jealous of the fact that he doesnt have what u have just develope on your talent and srength and u will go far in life good luck

Answer 11

jealousy Hun. Get used to it. If you are good at things, then you will get it. Tell him that he is your brother, and should support you, not be an ***. You have to stick up for yourself and let him know how you feel. If he is still a jerk, then tell him to grow up and get a life.