Hi im 20 and have a friend i have know a long time. when we where young teenswe where playing fighting when he started to grab my (Lets say Thing), we both went hard and semi stripped. that was all that happened that night. The next night we done the same but got naked and started to play with each other and we both climaxed. There was no kissing or anything like that. This went on after school for about 3 years once or twice a week but never went further than playing with each other. Although i alwas wanted to go further. He got a g/f and so did I. now that were 20 we text each other and some times it gets back to it in a jokey fella way like when he was talking about sex with his girl he would say she likes a big one and i would say its not big and i would know. Things like that.
Now I dont fancy other men but i would like to start it all up again with him just for fun, we both have girls now but cant stop thinking about it. I do still see him naked and think just go for it
2006-12-22 05:09:55 · 23 answers · asked by sam 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
you should do something.
2006-12-22 05:11:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
By the sound of it, you have tried to bring the past back up but have had no follow up from your mate, maybe he doesnt want to relive the past otherwise I think he would of made a move or made a suggestion like yours - " I should know" when talking about size. I wouldnt push anything as he may be very happy in his relationship with the girl and taking it further may jeopardise your friendship. He may have out grown the schoolboy game you had. Just be careful with your appoach.
2006-12-22 05:19:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think this makes you gay at all. I believe it's all about who you want to BE with in the end. Now, you may be bisexual, but i cant say for sure. Now, what you did when you were younger was innocent fun. But you're both older, and more mature now (hopefully). You just have to come to a decision about this. Even though you may not want a relationship with this guy, your girlfriend may not see it that way. You cant have your cake and eat it too [no pun intended XD....ok maybe a little]
you have to decide.....a girlfriend and a good friend, or not girlfriend and a friend with benefits. think about it. which do you want more?
2006-12-22 05:50:29 · answer #3 · answered by Katy kins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both have girlfriends. I assume all partners expect their mates to remain sexually true to them. If this is the case, forget it.
I used the rationalization that it was OK to cheat on my wife if no one was hurt by it. If she doesn't ever know, she will never be hurt. What I didn't realize is while I was only planning on cheating, I was treating her differently. Once I did the deed, my behavior got worse. Everybody I knew was affected by what I did. She learned the truth. I have never seen anybody hurt as badly as she did that night. I had also badly harmed myself. Though she forgave me & never threw it up at me, I eventually left her anyway because I could not deal with my own guilt. That was 20 years ago. She will never trust again like she did with me before all this happened. I will never replace what we had before I got selfish. She re married about 8 months ago. I hope she did better this time.
2006-12-22 05:31:42 · answer #4 · answered by bob h 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't force anything to happen because your friend is probably just comfortable with you so he doesn't think anything of it. if you force something you want to happen, he might think otherwise and might not be comfortable with it. it's too much a risk of jeopardizing your friendship. just let things naturally go their way. if when you 2 "fool around" leads to something more then go with it, but if it only goes up to a certain point, then don't force it any further.
2006-12-22 05:21:02 · answer #5 · answered by kida182001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im afraid to say, that if you have a girlfriend and so does he, there is no way it is accseptable to me messing around with your friend, how would she feel? it may not feel like your cheating on her but it still is.
I think if your having these thoughts you need to seriously consider how far you are willinging to go with him whether it is just fooling around or whether you have feelings for him deeper than what you think you should. but you need to also consider what he wants. Just be carefull.
2006-12-22 05:14:52 · answer #6 · answered by royalalice1989 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you may be bi-curious. And also remember some dreams are better off left dreams. Think about your friendship and if it worth crossing over to the other side, for a fantasy...
2006-12-22 06:11:49 · answer #7 · answered by kitzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm you might be Bi-sexual-talk to him about it--maybe it's a little more than just playing-i mean seriously dude you guys "played" for three years
2006-12-22 06:13:35 · answer #8 · answered by Art 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you gay because there is nothing wrong with being gay if you and you're friend like doing that stuff then maybe break up wit your g/f and go with your friend or you all can just play with each other
2006-12-22 05:15:02 · answer #9 · answered by [TaRyN]™ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont fancy other men? Come on. LOL. Im not gonna say what im REALLY thinking.
2006-12-22 05:12:34 · answer #10 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's an opportunity cost
2006-12-23 14:40:36 · answer #11 · answered by yusdz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋