My husband is a acholic.?

Question

My husband is a acholic and I am at the point where I am tired of living like this with our daughters. It is not fair to them. My problem is I have nothing. I don't have a education and I don't have any money. The only thing I have is a home to go to at my parents. How can I get back on my feet?

Answer 1

I agree with David B. Either way you should confront him without being attacking. Explain your worries, fears and concerns. Hopefully that could help. Bear in mind too if he quits cold turkey, he will most likely get very ill for 2-3 days (nausea, vomitting, shaking, sweating, loss of appettite, extreme iratability, and insomnia) he should go to a doctor to be evaluated, they can prescribe some anti-axiety pills that I hear help extremely. Depending on how long and heavy he has been drinking, he shouldn't quit cold turkey, it could actually cause death.

Answer 2

Start to look for a job, talk to someone about getting an education. Its never too late go back to school. While you are doing all of this move in with your parents and explain to them you situation and how it makes you feel. I am pretty sure that they will understand. And also, they get to spend some time with your daughters and you as well. You will get back up on your feet. It takes time, everything takes time. Just don't give up on yourself and keep in mind that it is in the best interest of your daughters.

Answer 3

I lived in an alcoholic home and I can tell you it is really hard on children. I hope you get your children out of that situation. It also may make your husband have to choose between his bottle and his family. My dad never had to make that decision, we stayed and it was not a pretty life. He never hit us or abused us in any way physically, but the mental abuse of having he and my mom argue and fight all the time was the worst. I think a lot of people make decisions based on what they can get by with and as long as we let the behavior go, then they will continue to do what they do. I know I am rambling, but this is a very sensitive issue for me. I hope you get things worked out and you will survive no matter what direction you go. You will make a life for yourself and your children. You can go to a trade school or a job training program and get yourself an awesome job, and you and your children will be able to come home and night with the security of not having a drunk waiting. God Bless and Good Luck.

Answer 4

Go back to your parents, and bite the bullet that you're going to have to live with them until you acquire education/job skills. Then start attending classes or getting job training and stick with it until you can move to a place of your own!

Accept that it won't be easy, but that it has to be done, and then concentrate on one step at a time. Don't try to consider the whole plan in one big gulp-- just the first step, then the next, then the next.

Good luck.

Answer 5

Go back to school and qualify yourself to get some job. If you can do it while living with your husband go ahead. Otherwise take your parents or siblings help for staying with them until you are on your feet. If your husband does not get violent after consuming alcohal you can manage without taking any ones help. If you think you can not study then do baby sitting and other small jobs to earn money. You should not remain a housewife.

Answer 6

You need to seek out and find Al-anon, alcoholism is not simply the problem of the person who drinks but all those around him. This is about taking charge of your life and learning tools to move your life away from the damage of alcoholism. Its not easy but then again is doing nothing any better? Make a call to Al-anon, get to some meeting and meet other just like you who have made a change. You can do this for yourself, and your daughters. Give it a shot...

Answer 7

Go to Alanon, and consider getting your kids into Alateen. That will help a lot.
Then make a plan. What would you need to do to be on your own? How much money would you need to make? What are your skills, and what kind of job could you get? Who would help you? You might consider returning to school to pick up skills like typing or computers, so you might need to stay with him a while longer, but it will be bearable if you know that you're getting out.

Answer 8

You're fighting a losing battle. GO to your parents. Half of what he has is yours. If there's nothing at all, just GO. Did you graduate HS? Then there are plenty of jobs. If not, go for receptionist (fun!), clerk, hell, file clerks get paid too! Messenger (meet lotsa people, feel freedom!), start off babysitting if you must, but save yourself and your kids. It's a neverending hell . Also, maybe this will become rock bottom for him, and start his way to help. I wish you all the best. You need a new life; it'll be hard, but you deserve it! GOOD LUCK!!!!!

Answer 9

move back in with your parents... enroll in a GED class and get your education that way you can get a job to support your family...... If your husband works I would file for divorce and child support to help you out until you got a job......

Looking at your babies faces should be enough modivation to get back on your feet and get things done.... I know it will be hard but you have them to think of and life doesn't always give us that picture perfect life... Good Luck and I hope all works out for you and your lil girls.......

Answer 10

Take the first step and walk out the door. You will do fine, just work hard to get your education finished and find a steady job. Also go after your ex for child support and help to raise your children!

Have faith in yourself!! You can do it!