does that make me not bi because idk i am realy confused and my best friend said she wanted to have sex with me. also she thinks that i am in deniel about being bi. could she know better than i would myself? please help me
2006-12-22 04:48:24 · 12 answers · asked by Nicks Grl 4ever 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
well i have experminted but i dont find that part wrong its the acutaly haveing a realationship that bugs me like i would never want anybody to know
2006-12-23 14:08:55 · update #1
Don't worry and don't rush things. Bottom line, you will know who you are sexually attracted to eventually. If your orientation is outside the dominant culture, you might be fighting it. Or you might just be young and impressionable and your friend might be too pushy. You don't have to do anything you aren't comfortable with, and you DO know yourself better than anyone else. A real friend will respect your boundaries. You will find your path.
2006-12-22 04:55:27 · answer #1 · answered by yellowbugchickoh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well only YOU will know what YOU like. If you feel comfortable try it, but if it's with a friend it could go one of two ways...
1) It'll be more comfortable because you know her so well
2) It'll be really uncomfortable because now you know her even more
So really think about it before you just jump into it...
Now with you saying that you think it's "wrong" I'm going to assume that you mean it's wrong to God. Before you feell guilty about who you are remember that the Bible is not really what it should be. Thousands of years ago the Romans took the Bible and messed with it, taking parts out and putting stuff in, and tweaking parts. They used the Bible to mold the way they wanted thier society to be. Obviouslly the Romans didn't like women or gays very much. Proof that this was done is because there is an old Jewish fable that talks about Adam's first wife before Eve. Her name was Lillith (you can do a search onm her if you want it's true).
So don't feel guilty if you think you're bi. I went through the same thing back in jr. high. So 10 years later here I am proud of the person that I am, just don't take as long as I did to realize that you are not wrong or evil or dirty... you're still the same person you always were you just happen to be attarcted to both sexes and there is NOTHING wrong with that! :) Keep your head up girl!!!
2006-12-22 04:57:56 · answer #2 · answered by IceyFlame 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take some time away from your pushy friend and think out the sort of stuff YOU enjoy doing. The only way you are going to figure out what kind of person you really are is to search your own mind. This applies not only to being bi or not, but to all things. After you figure out who you are, then spend time with the appropriate type of people. Never regret who you are.
2006-12-22 04:54:02 · answer #3 · answered by moonshadow 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You know yourself better than anyone on this planet. Don't ever forget that when you make choices. I don't believe romantic love between 2 humans of whatever gender is wrong. You love who you love, end of story. But if you are confused about which gender you are most attracted to then I would not have sex with anyone until that issue is sorted out. It's not fair to the partner or to you. Tell your friend you value her friendship but not her opinions on who she thinks you are or should be.
2006-12-22 05:04:01 · answer #4 · answered by murkglider 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think that it is wrong then that is what you have to go with. Nobody on the planet can know more about you and your likes and dislikes than you. If you think or feel that it is wrong, then so be it and people should respect your decision. However, you also have to respect other people's opinions as well, even if they believe something different than you. Stick to what you feel is right, respecting others and you will be fine.
2006-12-22 05:55:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with being attracted to both sexes. Your friend was way out of line by telling you that you were in denial. Did it ever occur to her that maybe, just maybe--you didn't want to have sex with HER? Or maybe, just maybe--you're not ready.
Take your time and figure out what makes YOU happy. No one can do that for you.
2006-12-22 05:15:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your best friend is a bit over zealous. Take some time away from her and think about it on your own. Don't do anything you're just not sure about. You might regret it later.
Nothing wrong with being bi, of course, just be careful.
2006-12-22 04:50:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is wrong to be bi but I also don't think you are wrong if you feel like it is. To me, it only means you should not "indulge" and your best friend is wrong to push you. We are talking moral issues here...not physical. If you feel it is morally wrong...don't do it. It does not mean you a bigot or "in denial" to say no to something you are uncomfortable with. It means you are not letting other people make decisions for you. That equals "smart" in my book.
2006-12-22 04:58:11 · answer #8 · answered by librarylady93562 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i told my boyfriend that i'm bi and he told me he thinks it's wrong. that hurt alot. but my best friend went through a phase where she thought she was bi. I asked her a few questions about herself [which i already knew the answers to], and after a few minutes, she came to the conclusion that she wasn't. She couldnt see herself ever in a relationship with another woman. she just thought they were sexually desirable, but she would never have sex with one herself. understand?
2006-12-22 06:06:23 · answer #9 · answered by Katy kins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol. First of all, the word is DENIAL. Maybe u and probably your bestfriend as well, should NOT be havin sex until u learn how to spell. But um....if u think it's wrong, then dont do it! Simple as that.
2006-12-22 04:51:34 · answer #10 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋