i dont think its fair not give more than the other do you
2006-12-22 04:31:07 · 18 answers · asked by kelley l 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Give the same amount to each. Give $20 so you can use the rest on English lessons for yourself to learn proper grammar and spelling.
2006-12-22 04:48:03 · answer #1 · answered by kathylouisehall 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, if two kids are part of the same family, step sibling, half sibling etc, then they should receive similar gifts, the only time I think it is appropriate for a $ gift to be different is if the older child receives more, and of course as the two grow older, the younger child should be getting more $ accordingly. To avoid hurt feelings, you might want to say, "Ooops, how silly, Grandma messed up and didn't divide it properly between the two, I'll fix it for her." Or, "Ooops, how silly, Auntie called me and asked me to fix her mistake, she was doing too many things at once and later realized her mistake." There are ways to handle this to avoid hurt feelings on the part of the kids. Of course if it's a check, the best thing to do is say, "well part of this check goes into savings for both of you and the other part is to purchase a gift, and she just got a little confused." That's how I would handle it.
2006-12-22 04:58:49 · answer #2 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send them back. Or take them and split them between the two children. And let whoever sent them know what you did. I have done that with my two boys before. My youngest son is the baby in the family and my brother thought it necessary to make over him more by giving him money and not my oldest, well in front of him, I split the money between them both. It never happened again. The only way one should get something without the other is on a special day just for the one...ie birthday graduation...ect.
2006-12-22 04:54:21 · answer #3 · answered by ransdoll90 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not fair but just make up the difference yourself and talk with your husband later. Make sure the kids understand that you are just making up the difference and maybe his child will ask why he gave more money. Kids are brutally honest and maybe it will be a wake up call for your husband. People make mistakes when the allow money issues to effect family life.
2006-12-22 05:27:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its only fair to give them both the same amount however age is a big factor as well.
How close are the in age???
If its like 10 and 16 well then it can be justified ( i guess).
But thats just my opinion.
2006-12-22 04:46:47 · answer #5 · answered by DEBBY'S BABY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Equal amounts should be given. Regardless of age, the child with less will feel left out and probably not loved as much as the other.
2006-12-22 05:03:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it could depend on the age difference too. If they are close to the same age than that is wrong and showing favoritism. But if one is older than the other one, the older one should get more money. Atleast that is how our family has always done it.
2006-12-22 04:40:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they live in the same house, they should get the same unless there is a big age difference and that's the only reason. Find a way to keep feelings from getting hurt...
2006-12-22 04:35:23 · answer #8 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always make a rule to spend the same amount on all my nieces and nephews - - no matter what.
But, I also make a rule to not give money.
2006-12-22 04:40:27 · answer #9 · answered by Neo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that it is unfair. Talk to whomever had given such an insensitive gift, and let them know (calmly and politely) how you feel.
2006-12-22 05:00:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋