Ive finally admitted to myself that i am gay and it feels great. I havent told anyone about it yet and id feel better if everyone i was close to knew from the beginning. Im only 15 and i wonder if i should wait until im older. Does anyone else have any tips on when i should come out?
2006-12-22 04:30:00 · 18 answers · asked by kringle 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Tell them when you're ready. No one can say when that time will be for sure; but you will know when that time comes. Just remember to be honest and rue to yourself.
And ignore the "people" (and I use that term very lightly) that call you names, look down on you, or tell you you're wrong or a sinner. If they knew anything about the faith they claim to believe and uphold they would not cast judgment on you.
2006-12-22 04:45:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, the better question is "When do I want to dissapoint my Parents, by telling them I'm Gay?"
Its going to be a big shock to them, you can becha that one!
Lots of screaming and carrying on, and self denial, and hand wringing of "where did I go wrong with him"...and so forth...
I would wait until you are older, and get your own place... This way, when you "tell them", you can go back to your place and leave them to scream and shout at the walls instead of you.
If your a Muslim, you may even be murdered for that!
Its your decision, and even though you "think" you know your parents, you will be completely shocked at thier expression of denial about your being a homosexual, than anything they have ever did in thier life...
To them, you are a failure and its thier fault! They will feel that they let you down in some way... Its an utter catastrophe for them...
No, your not a failure on thier part, but, they are going to take it personally...So, its best to let them "stew" while your away, then come back again and see what is happening after the "tempest" has subsided... Being under thier roof, will be a bad thing, because you cant escape thier wrath...and that is not a good thing.
I'm not even going to get into the "sinful" thing because thats between you and GOD...
JESUS CHRIST wont judge you before your dead, so, why shoud 'I'? I wont....
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-12-22 05:32:40 · answer #2 · answered by x 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The sooner you come out, the better. Find a time when you can be alone with your Mother and then tell her first. Be sure to say that it is nothing that she did or did not do, or how you were raised, or that you were sexually mollested, because none of these things really determine if you are Gay or Straight. Then ask her if she will discuss it with your father, or if you can tell him yourself but with your mother present. You may be surprised to find out that your parents already suspect or even know that you are gay. Remember that some of the best family-raised and well adjusted kids are gay.
2006-12-22 07:28:14 · answer #3 · answered by Pablo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm straight, and I cannot understand gays.
But if it's the way that I imagine it, that you are that way, and you cannot change it, and all of the society tells you it's wrong, then it must be awful.
I feel sad for you, because at this age you have to deal with serious issues, that other "straight" people that age wouldn't have to face.
Coming out, I don't know. I think it depends on how understanding is your family. Try dropping hints and see how they react. If my son would come out, I rather find out sooner than later. But then again, I see myself more understanding than most, and I don't have children yet.
Good luck, and Happy Holidays.
2006-12-22 06:05:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to weigh the pros and cons. You know your parents better than anyone. As important as it is to be honest, in certain situations (especially if you are under 18 and rely on your parents) the consequences can be too high. There are several good support groups online. It might be really helpful to hear from others who have been there. Good luck to you!
2006-12-22 05:02:47 · answer #5 · answered by yellowbugchickoh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you are old enough to actually get a job and an apartment should things take a turn for the worst. Sometimes, parents are hard to predict. If you're pretty sure they'll be cool with it, be careful.
Otherwise, be prepared to be surprised by who will leave and who will stay. :)
2006-12-22 04:34:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depending on the type of relationship you have with your parents you could do it soon or later. If they are the sort that will kick you out of the house, it's best to wait.
If you're not sure what sorts of things you should say when you do come out to them, I suggest this video on youtube. It pretty much speaks from the heart.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0kfqZaRR8u4
2006-12-22 05:48:34 · answer #7 · answered by castle h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fist off let me tell you.... congrats on coming out to your self!
I would wait tell I was older but, hey I came out when I was 14! Iam almost 22! and dont try to hide it. because it will make it worse. if they find out, they do.... DONT HIDE ANY THANG!
If you fell its time to tell your parents then I would.
I better to get it over and done with so you can be happy!
you know there will be some BAD times with this you know that! but you cant let them get to you. fist off your only 15 years old, you haven't even started life! enjoy your sexuality! and your teens the way you wont to, because if you dont... you will hate your self in the end!
take it day by day!
MERRY CHRISTMAS!
2006-12-22 05:10:16 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely wait until you finish college and have a good career going. Then just tell them, if there is any reason that they need to know. They don't necessarily need to know, but you needing them to know might be more important to you than them needing to know. So tell them or don't tell them. They'll deal with it intelligently or they won't. They are your parents so my money is on them being upset, confused, and, eventually, loving and accepting.
2006-12-22 04:35:35 · answer #9 · answered by Hank Hill 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont listen to anyone saying this is a sin...it's not. Whether you like the same or opposite sex, just be happy. I think you should tell them if you are sure. They might give you a hard time at first but this will all pass in time.
2006-12-22 04:35:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋