And my bf is telling me that he's not ready to be a dad. I want to keep the baby but he doesnt want it so much. I dont know what to do. We are both so young. If I do keep it I dont want him to regret it. Please help!
2006-12-22 04:26:28 · 24 answers · asked by ♥i WANNA KN0W♥ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
keep the baby, if he didn't want the baby he should have used some type of protection. not keeping the baby may be a regret on your part. have the baby and leave the daddy alone, regretful and all. this is YOUR body and YOUR decision to keep the baby or not.
Mom of B & D
2006-12-22 04:35:58 · answer #1 · answered by Mom of B & D 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok I have been in the same situation. I simply told him well if you didn't want the baby then you shouldn't have had sex . In regards to him regretting it, chances are no matter what you choose it no longer has anything to do with him. It's now about an unborn child. I have been in the same situation twice and unfortunately the first time I made the wrong choice and it's a choice I have to live with the rest of my life. A choice that caused questions that may never be answered. If you choose to give up the baby PLEASE DO NOT terminate the pregnancy. If I could make my choice all over again I would have chose adoption. I made my choice when I was 18, I am now 31 and I hate my self still today for the decision I made. It was made because of him. Good luck to you and please think long and hard before you decide.
2006-12-22 12:53:59 · answer #2 · answered by mystic4624 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you love your BF, but let me tell you something that I am sure everyone will agree with. Once you lay your eyes on that baby, you will realize that you have never truly loved anyone or anything like you do that baby. Your boyfriend will be an afterthought. So, he says he isn't ready to be a father? That doesn't make a damn bit of difference now. You are going to be a mommy! I just hope he can be man enough to do what is right for the little one and you.
If you decide you can't raise this baby - there are many couples out there, good people, that would love to adopt her. By giving your baby up for adoption you can guarantee her a good life with a family that loves her and can give her every advantage.
Embryos are babies. Abortion is murder.
2006-12-22 12:45:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, its a little late now for your boyfriend to decide that he is not ready for a baby. He should have thought about that before he had unprotected sex with you. Ready or not, he is going to be a dad and needs to grow up, be a man and take care of you and the baby. If you really don't think you guys are ready for this baby, then you both could sign off on your parental rights and put the baby up for adoption. Lots of woman do raise their children alone, but its hard work and not fair to you or the baby. I pray that you do the right thing.
2006-12-22 12:39:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have 4 and terminating my pregnancies have never crossed my mind. Pregnancy its a great experience. Let me tell you something. "It takes a woman to make a man" He now needs to grow up and to take responsibility for his own actions. Dont listen to him or anyone you do what is best for you and what you thing it the right thing to do. There is nothing wrong with being a young mother. I did it so can you! So what if he leaves you he is not worth it! Plus, all men go through this. He is feeling the same way you are give him some time he will come around especially when the baby is here. This is just temporary. It happend to me now he adore his daughter to death.
2006-12-22 13:00:11 · answer #5 · answered by girls1boy4_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not ready to be a parent then you really need to think about your decision. Parenting is very hard and costly. It is a 24/7 job.
However, if you decide you are not prepared, may I suggest adoption as opposed to abortion. I am pro-choice, but I just know that there are a lot of wonderful couples out there that really want children but can't have them for one reason or another. You would be making a deserving couple very happy and there are agencies that will help you find one.
Bottom line, you made the adult decision to have sex. Now comes the adult decision on what to do with your unborn child.
Goos Luck and God bless.
2006-12-22 12:38:45 · answer #6 · answered by gzam415 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to lecture you but how did you mean you are YOUNG???? for what ???? To have a responsability ? Then Why ??? you were not responsible having on SEX .... It is a responsability o f TWO not only one. and if he doesn't want to be responsible that means that he doesn't love you enough to help you with a responsability of two ... If he doen't want to be responsible then you are going ti have to be the responsible one and keep the baby it is not the baby's fault and it will be up to him to be a father or not !!! If you don't keep it you are the one who will regret not keeping the baby!!! Think about it before you make a mistake baby's are blessings and little angels that will change your life in som many ways ! Maybe you are not ready to be parents but you will have to learn to be parents sooner or later adn if he doen't suport you to bad for him and you because it is supposed to be a wonderful thing that will attached you more hopefully he change his mind!!!! Best wishes and GOOD luck !!
2006-12-22 12:45:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all going to be okay. Have you ever seen those signs that say Take my hand no my life? Don't give your baby up there are people and places that will help you both through this. I was 17 when I got pregnant, and my daughter changed both me and my bf's attude about having chilren. He will want the baby after it's born or as sonn as you start to show. Just sit him down and talk it oput tell him you are going to keep the baby and that you want him to be a huge part of the baby's life good luck and lots of love and god bless you all
2006-12-22 12:32:23 · answer #8 · answered by mommy2faithat19#3 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is not about your boyfriend it is about you and a lovely baby growing inside of you. Be a woman and have this baby if it is what you want. Something tells me it is, so step up to the plate and begin your journey to being a mom. It is something wonderful. When you hold your little baby in your arms nine months from now you won't care what some man thinks. A woman can do anything, and we have children and raise them on our own all the time. YOU CAN TOO. That baby will be with you for life, will love you for life, but I can almost promise you that no man is that reliable, faithful or worth the effort.
2006-12-22 12:32:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
well i just had a baby, and i am 27. i still wasn't ready for it. I don't think any one can be fully ready for this kind of life change. Don't go and get an abortion though, because you will have to live with that guilt that you murdered your child because your b/f didn't want him or her. its your body. if you lay down to do the deed, then you can stand up and take care of your responsibility. good luck
2006-12-22 18:33:36 · answer #10 · answered by mozartbuffy69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋