help me about my weakness?

Question

why is it I'm always feels insecure and nervous when I'm not with my close friends like when I am with someone else with many people also during that time I'm so quiet and when some activities are on going,I'm the one who always ended up doing some crazy stupid mistakes and some of them backstabb me that I'm so dumb...and I'm in love with a guy who is super kind,talented,math and computer wizard,responsible,maybe I'm not good enough for him???

Answer 1

you need some alone time to build up your confidence

Answer 2

It's just lack of experience, and lack of positive feedback. I was nervous as anything going to the Yahoo Birthday party to stand up in front of all those people to receive an award. But I did it because I knew that once I was there, and people were being nice to me, I would get over feeling so anxious. And I did. I may have become the poster child for morbid obesity getting on and off the stage with a "helping hand," but I did it.

Remember that any guy who would make a good friend or more for you is going to have to have a certain amount of class up front, and is going to have to be disposed to at least be polite. A jerk you don't want; a gentleman is the idea. So just smile at him the next time you see him, and if you get eye contact, say hello. That lets him know you recognize him. You let him respond to that much, and you respond carefully but not negatively to whatever he says, and there you are. That's called synergy. You'll love it.

Also remember that any worthwhile relationship takes time to develop, even if the chemistry seems really right and intense at the start. Give yourselves that time, without backing off. The art of the slow approach.

Answer 3

Looks like orange version 2 . or u r the version 1 I m the 2nd.
However I used to be like u, but now I've been changed. If I can change why u cant?
From my own experience I can say that your main problem is that u get too much concerned about what ppl r thinking about u.That is why u cant talk
to strangers & u feel comfortable while with ur frnds. Taht shows taht u r not abnormal. Now the thing u must do immidiately is to wipe out
this concern frm ur mind. ppl r not gawking on u & r not seeking ur faults. So why bother. Speak up ur mind. look there is no need of
talking if u r not willing to do so, but if it becomes necessary then not doing this is foolishness. ppl r not monsters who will eat u.Thay r busy in their
works so they does not have enough time to seek ur flaws. Also why bother ABOUT PPL,TEHY R NOT GOING TO SET UP THE PATH FOR UR SUCCESS.then what is the
point behind being so concerned about them, the thing that u gonna do first is to wipe out this concern,once u do this u will start feeling urself much
comfortable & u'll not also face any hitch to speak to people any more.

Failures r pillars of success, one who have never tasted a defeat, breaks down completely as he looses. If u have failed previously, then only u can rejoice the
success. Not only u;all ppl commit mistakes; some r even such foolish that u cant imagine. We learn from our failures & mistakes, The motto should not be
"I won't commit any mistake" instead it should be " I won't repeat any mistake." Thus this problem will also get solved.

As for the third, I think u r still a kid, u should not thimk about these thing so early, but instead concantrate on studies. Everything has its own time to
be done, now, its the time for ur study, when u grow up; u'll get much time to think about these things.

Don't hamper ur studies thinking about love now.

Answer 4

if he thinks you are good enough, then stop beating yourself up and thinking the worst of yourself.

Your lack of self esteem is what is causing you to feel anxious when you do not have people you are close to around you. When they are with you, they act like a safety net from the world, and when they are not with you, you likely feel vulnerable and like you have a spotlight on you.

if this guy you are with is really into you and is supportive of you, tell him of your feelings and ask him why he loves you. Hearing words of affirmation from the one you love and from your friends should help you believe in yourself more.

The truth is, sweetie, that we all feel like we aren't good enough. No one is perfect and we all wish we could be different and better in some way...BUT, we were made the way we are for a reason. There is NO ONE like you in the whole world and that makes you special.

Be propud of who you are and show people that you are proud. it will act like a magnet, because people like to be with others who have confidance in themselves.

Of course you're good enough for him silly girl!!!

Merry Christmas!

Answer 5

You need friends that will encourage you. I have a quote for you by Elenor Roosevelt. She once said:" No one can make you feel inferior without your consent". I think this strongly applies to your case. You're only as inadequate as you feel you are. Start giving yourself positive ideas and visualize yourself being a confident, intelligent, and outgoing teenager. Everytime you establish one of these goals, cut yourself some slack and do something you like. As for that guy you like, go for it. Failure doesn't mean that you will lose out and as far as I know guys admire gals with confidence. You're as talented an individual as he is. Learn to see yourself as who you can be and will be in life. Don't underestimate yourself. Remember that no one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

Answer 6

ok first of all....don't hang out with back stabbing beyootches that call you dumb when you make a lil mistake ok! i'm serious, what kind of friends would do that, anyway...we all have weaknesses, but try the "me" time...you know, like go shopping by yourself or listen to music and clear your thought, it helps..you don't always need people around you to feel good and confident

Answer 7

You're a kid. Being young means finding your way to being an adult. And peer pressure is huge at your age.

Trust me: everyone feels like you do. They don't all act like it, but they do.

You'll get more confidence when you realise you're as good and talented as anyone else.

Answer 8

When you get through kicking yourself, work on your social skills. Then you'll probably figure out Mr. Wonderful has some warts of his own.

Answer 9

Isin't it against the rules to speak in another language in here?

I'd answer... but I'm afraid that if I don't write it in a translated backwards kind of way, that you wouldn't understand me anyway.

Mean, do you what I say, know?

Answer 10

you need to stop thinking so much, act on your feelings, say what's on your mind, be a little more impulsive, and you'll get better at it. Just be respectful always

Answer 11

1. You talk too much.
2. You are worried about what other people think about you when, in fact, they are not thinking about you at all.
3. You are trying to be someone who you are not.