I have fallen on a guy who is math,logic,computer,social wizard,a geniune and responsible boy scout,kind?

Question

But the thing is many girls also like him besides me but only as an crush and idolize feelings only....I'm also very very afraid that I'm not that good enough for him,what should I do now? :( help

Answer 1

Did you break him when you fell on him?

Answer 2

Three things about infatuations -- we usually imagine someone to be better than s/he actually is. That's just human psychology.

The other thing is that crushes are very often more about us than about the infatuee, a reflection of what we value most. Look at who you've been drawn to over the last few years and see if you notice patterns -- or a trajectory.

They're also a way of incorporating characteristics or ways of thinking into ourselves, i.e. the person represents something we need to learn or develop within ourselves.

Don't worry that you're not good enough for him. That's silly. Get to know him -- he sounds like he'd be a good friend and those are priceless -- and see what happens.

Answer 3

If you have feelings for someone it doesn't really matter wether they can do math or is as social as you. Anyways I'm sure he has his own faults. The thing is do you think he has feelings for you. Is there anything that he does that would lead you to believe that you have a chance with him? If not then just leave it as a crush and friendship maybe. If you think he does have some kinda feelings towards you see where it will lead and don't worry about if you are good enough or not. We tend to think the people we like are way better than they really are anyways.

Answer 4

you must be his opposite: Fun, the life of the party, a great communicator, someone to balance him. I am like your boyfriend- a meloncholy, my husband is perfect for me- he is sanguine. You must bring fun to life and everyday situations so that he is not so serious all the time. At the same time appreciate his personality and feed his ego by telling him how smart he is, how hard he works and what an inspiration he is to so many other people.

Answer 5

Well... Falling on him isn't going to get him to like you more.

I think that is the first advantage the others might have over you.

**Holy carp Rambo! You officially beat me for long drawn out answers! I bow to the king on inane rambling!

Answer 6

Sounds to me like he might be so busy being perfect he wouldn't have time for an imperfect girl.

Answer 7

Weee Heeee, sounds like a real blast...

Answer 8

If your not good enough for him, then don't bother. seriously it will only end up bad.

Answer 9

do ur math homework.

Answer 10

lol,


I believe being friends and having a long standing friendship first is a good key to getting a more intimate relationship.
It not only builds a strong foundation for a relationship but grants you the forknowledge of who this person is.

your good enough, my saying is, God made you, if your good enough for God, then your good enough for me, and anyone else.

talk to him, be yourself, be friendly, don't betoo pushy, but don't be invisible, chances are if your act invisible, then you are.
talk to him, introduce yourself, tell him after a few hellos' and he's slightly familiar and knows your name, ask him if he wants to go grab some lunch and if he's busy, say ok, don't ask the next day wait like a week. then afterwards say it was fun, unless it wasn't, and say I'd like to get to know you more, or, we should do this again sometime.

make sure he's an upstanding guy. don't be fake, don't like what he likes just cause he likes it.


here are some things I like in a girl, this is an almost universal thing to what guys really think is attractive in a woman.

At any rate:
What's in their Heart, who they are, to begin with.
I'm never interested in fake people, or people who try to be something or someone theyre not. I meet them where they are.
Class.
I think classy gals are very attractive. I don't like short skirts. They're too common and theyre too revealing. There's a certain mystery and class, an almost unreachable yet attainable, untouched sense with women who wear long skirts and jeans etc.
You don't see long skirts on young women that often nowadays.
I like a woman who knows they're worth a whole lot more than what they get and that they know it and don't have to flawnt their bodies to attract men.
I like girls with class in the way they talk and act.
It's cool to be casual with your friends but there is still a value to you that nowadays is slipping out of society's thinking.
I like girls who don't talk alot of trash, it's a definate turn off for me.
Profanity dosn't make you look cool nor is it attractive.
It's fun to be casual with your friends but it's a turn off to most guys when the girl sits on other guys or messes with them.
Personally I like a girl who keeps it to herself and or to one guy.
Esspecially when a girl looks at other guys constantly.
Guys are just as purity/committed oriented as girls if not more.
It gives us the feeling like a million bucks and the world is in our pocket when a girl only looks at us, and hugs only us and so on and so forth, in the same token it rips our hearts out when they violate that trust that two person bond.
"Shyness" has a respectable and classy taste when used at the proper time and with the proper ammount.
As for the Physical aspect,

One of the most striking features when I meet a girl or see a girl is their eyes. A person smiles with their eyes not their mouth.
A persons eyes can draw you into a mood of firey intensness, sad deppression, playful flirting, and deep commitment.
A mouth, says alot about a person.
A smile can turn the daylight on and a scowel can plunge us into darkness. Never frown because you never know who'll fall in love with your smile.
Mouth Gestures, I simply melt at mouth gestures.
Biting of the lower lip, playful lip patterns, not licking(big no no).
Esspecially when accompanied with body language and gestures.
In all my years of living I have only seen one girl simply make my mind turn off and my heart melt in just a few moments by her body gestures.
Provocative gestures are best left to married couples. They mean more and don't look like little kids who don't know what love or commitment is when they do it.
But regular body language such as,
"little girl" poses, like the hands clasped behind the back while swaying (esspecially with pigtails lol) or other distinct body gestures or poses.

Most of all a girl's quallity. Which is made by many things this only being part.
Men don't give real creed or cares to a girl out for gain or sex.
In reality men care about a partner, someone who they can love and protect, and be faithful to, and who will love them as well and be faithful. Honesty is one of the qualities guys inherently are drawn too. Don't lie, honesty gives you greater respect and gives you courage and shows you truly love someone. Inversley don't deal overly harshly to someone who has enough courage and love to tell you the truth. I'm not saying cut all consequences but know that it was a world of hurt and strength-stealing to be honest.

Be loving. Don't ignore your man, but in the same token if your not married there is a certain mystery and exiting expectation to not getting all of the cake all at once.

And Humor, I love humor, I love a girl who can be funny yet clean, and can't stand when girls anger easily or when they can't take a little sarcasm. It's part of playing. Now I know that too much can be a bad thing, and that people are all different but at least try.

One of the TOP three things on my respect/love/admire/awsome list is- has she commited any part of her heart or body to another man. I place more value in an unused and unopened boxes of cake than opened and sometimes used ones. So why wouldn't I at least try to find a girl who has kept herself .(not just sexually but in her heart and reputation as well) Now I'm not saying those who havn't are "scum" or "evil". Or not worth loving, certainly they are. But I would prefer a pure untouched and unused/tested woman.
As I'm sure they prefer us that way as well. Which is one reason why I have never kissed a girl.
Confidance is a big one for me, I love a girl when she's confidant in herself but not over confidant and doesn't hold it over people, I have a hard time with girls who arn't confidant in themselves.
You are how God made you and if it's good enough for Him then it's good enough for me.
If I blush because of a girl theyre doing the right thing. (not embarrassing blush because of redicule or being hurt) but nervous or embarrassed because you make me nervous.

Now you may analyze this and criticize it all you want BUT- Make no mistake that I say these things by experience and have felt all varieties of emotions and am completely as qualified to say these things and know what I'm talking about as the next guy.
These are just a few of the attributes in my opinion that makes a girl attractive.

Respect for her parents.
Big turn off when she has little or no respect for her parents who birthed her, raised her, protected her, kissed her booboo's when they hurt, who fed her, clothed her.
No parents are perfect, and some are shameful yes.
You don't have to say their the best but there is respect in NOT cussing them out, and such.
Often how the guy or girl treats their parent fo the opposite sex is how they will treat you of the same sex.
I treat my mother with respect, not only because she is a good mother but because she deserves it for all she's done for me and that's where God placed her over me.
I open the door for her, I lift things, and other things for her, I never raise my voice at her, I do my best to obey her, I try to make her comfortable, in church or in a social function or whatnot I sit next to her instead of my friends because it's a sign of love, and value over them, now- not always, sometimes it's nice for me to go sit with my friends, and if she's not there I do but there is a noble thing about it. etc. I will do these same things with my wife.
And when girls so things like this also I admire them and place great value on their conversations and opinions.
You don't have to say their the best but


Hope this helps some, sorry for the novel, it's kinda three answers in one.

if any other talk or questions, or let me know how it goes.

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