I don't mean sad..MAD. I suspect that it is a woman thing but I am not really sure. I hate it that it happens to me because I hate to let people see me cry. Does anyone else have this problem?
2006-12-22 03:58:13 · 35 answers · asked by Stiletto ♥ 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Yes indeedy!
From what I can guess, this is because girls are not allowed to be angry, as boys are, when they are young. We're told by society to suppress our anger and so we don't recognize it when it comes up. When it finally does boil to the surface we react with the only reaction that society allows us - crying.
Remember that anger is a HUMAN emotion - not male or female. So is rage. It's alright to be angry especially when you've been wronged. It's part of our bodies telling us that something has gone wrong and we should react to protect ourselves. Like fear or pain, they signal that something isn't right and we must act to remain safe.
2006-12-22 04:07:11 · answer #1 · answered by heathen 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have that problem as well. I am the type of person who doesn't cry much at all even when I am sad. When I am angry and I mean that blood boiling anger, tears roll down my face.
Unfortunately for you and me, that's not good because we are at that point where we can lose control and our rage is so intense we tear up and cry. It's definately not a woman thing either. I hope you don't have control problems because that could be a bad recipe.
Good luck and don't shed any tears over the holidays!
2006-12-22 04:05:44 · answer #2 · answered by Jimmy P. 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes it happens to women most of the time. Thats not a bad thing, really. This is because in women, the areas for emotions are spread out all around the brain in different spots, sometimes joining like some Venn Diagram of sorts. In men however, its all concentrated in one single spot.
So, effectively, a woman (generally, lets stick to the rule, rather than the exceptions to them) can get angry and still activate the crying center as well whereas a man may seem rocksolid and heartless.
That being said however, collectively, this is what makes women better listeners and emphasizers, their larger and more diverse emotion-control areas.
2006-12-22 04:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by Dabidu 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm male, and used to do the same thing. A major part of that was a basic internalizing vs externalizing, and also a little bit about control. I didn't want to flip out, so there's all kinds of repression there. I often felt completely helpless in situations where I found myself angry, so there's a frustration and despair aspect. I've only relatively lately found good treatment of MDD, and lo, I'm starting to "do" angry a lot more often. Still kind of learning the "how", but I don't immediately turn the anger into something else anymore.
2006-12-22 18:58:44 · answer #4 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what kinda of angry I am. If iam angry because someone hurt me personally, then yes, I'll cry.
But if iam angry in someone elses defense, like say, an elderly woman, or the unborn, i dont cry, i just get angry.
My knee jerk reaction to anger, (and i dont mean being mad, I mean being in a rage at someone) is to physically go nuts, not cry.
2006-12-22 04:07:21 · answer #5 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There were times early in our marriage that my husband had this issue. It was usually when he was battling to keep his rage under control during an argument.
This is not a bawling kind of cry, more like eyes filling with tears and some boldily shaking.
One thing I will say is that my husband doesn't get this angry anymore. Early in our marriage we did not have the communication skills that would eventually help keep us from reaching this level of anger.
I don't know if your expression of anger comes in the early stages or in the rage stage like my husband, but in any case....you are not alone.
2006-12-22 04:15:59 · answer #6 · answered by brookebjpl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do the same thing and I know of other friends this happens to (women). It bugs me because like yourself you don't want to let them think you are weak. They seem to have the upper hand when you cry. Its either I cry or I'll let them have it right between the eyes with my fist. Thank God this doesn't happen very often. Nasty thing!
2006-12-22 08:43:47 · answer #7 · answered by angel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It's about the only time I cry. The best advice I can give you is get outside or to the bathroom as quick as you can, because I know it's nearly impossible to stop the tears. And my friends tell me that it can make me look like I'm having a spoiled hissy fit :(
2006-12-22 04:02:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
YES, and I hate it. I get so angry that I get a lump in my throat and tear up. I think part of it is being frustrated and not being able to do something physically (like a man would) to relieve the stress.
2006-12-22 05:07:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No... I don't cry when I am angry... I am just mad as hell and my mind is spinning to find a way to get my revenge.
But I feel like crying... out of frustration... if I am prevented to do anything to get my revenge.
2006-12-22 04:15:53 · answer #10 · answered by Aussies-Online 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋