I think im ugly and fat, but every1 else doesnt. Why am I so negative about myself??
2006-12-22 03:57:25 · 6 answers · asked by drainingrose 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
because you are disconnected from things.
you need yoga, or a body-centered practice to recover.
start taking yoga now to change your ideas.
later take bellydance.
or this did it for me:
www.dancemeditation.org
2006-12-22 04:00:42 · answer #1 · answered by BonesofaTeacher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your self esteem is low because you've fallen in the society trap of categorization, labeling, and status (there are alot more fictitious mind traps) but you need to believe in your Self, love your Self and stand firm. Everyone's perception about fat, ugly, etc have varying degrees of what we call ugly, fat, etc. Some people may have a preference for an ugly person or a fat person. These things are made up by man to pull the wool over your eyes - like credit. But realistically, this is not being realistic. This topic should be called "What is difference of opinion, respect and stay away from the Crab Barrel: Something's always tryin to pull me down." You need not look or act like or measure up or down to any one else to live your life. Dare to be you, dare to be different. GOD didn't put you here on Earth to do what I do. Do you and love it - be happy. Spend your time worrying about progression in your life and how you can contribute to your community, the country, or the world, even perhaps the universe. You are who you are and what you are for a reason. Why care what others think. They have issues also. What makes them better than you? There is no comparable measure to what 's "better". That is only one's opinion sounding convincingly to you to get you to change your mind - aha! a game. You need to do some Self help to understand the psychological aspect of humans. For the most part, they are not very happy with themselves so of course they would not be happy with others. It's all about 'me' instead of all of us. Greed, I've got to have more than you before you take it all syndrome. There is no such thing as competition on this Earth. You don't need to march to the same tune or beat of the drummer. Do your thing. But please get a grip on what's important to life (fat and ugly are not one of those). It takes all kinds of people to make this big ole world go round. No one else can be you so you do your thing and do it well. And if you find a person that teases you because you are fat or ugly, chances they're insecurity level is really out of wack.
However, you can raise your self esteem level if you insist on dwelling in this trap, just think how beautiful and slim you are. I'm sure you've heard the saying "You are what you eat, think, feel, smell, and hear." Because ugly and fat are not definites to live life neither is the choice to "change" your mind about it and how your think about it.
But remember, GOD made all living things good and beautiful. Who are you to say how HE made you was ugly. Acceptance is key. And if you can't accept it still - last resort is to loss the weight and make your heart beautiful. But guarantee, you still will not be satisfied with yourself until you have worked on your inner spirit about who you are. And you'll find out that you have far more on the ball then you ever knew you had.
2006-12-22 14:04:18 · answer #2 · answered by rightbackatcha! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are focused on yourself. Low self esteem is on the same level as self focused. Involve yourself with others and stop looking at yourself. Life is more rewarding when you help others and put yourself last. Remember- what goes around comes around- both good and bad. Spead some goodness to others and it will come back to you. Remember----OTHERS first.
2006-12-22 12:09:04 · answer #3 · answered by northville 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The reason your self-asteam is low is, You think people don't like or accept you the way you are (ie) Like how you look, or your personalate, How people treat you.
""Stop"" thinking about other peoples opinions. Think about what makes you happy and do it. Avoid people who treat you bad and only associate with positive people, and think positively.
2006-12-22 12:23:38 · answer #4 · answered by Navan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you should not be putting your self down like that. You should do something that makes you feel good about yourself. That's how I was feeling but I just keep myself busy. I just joined bally's and I shed pounds and feel great.:).
2006-12-22 12:01:25 · answer #5 · answered by ladij15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Your self-esteem is so low you can't even spell it correctly.
2006-12-22 12:07:42 · answer #6 · answered by sm177y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋