I think i'm fat and ugly...but everyone else doesnt.. Why am I so...negative...about myself?
2006-12-22 03:56:19 · 5 answers · asked by drainingrose 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You need to do things to build up yourself. Focus on making yourself the best person you can be. THe best thing is exercise. Not only will it make you feel better about your body, make you look better but it release happy endorphins that make you feel good. If you notice you feel great after a good workout. THat is why. So start today...not tomorrow.
But I should also add that you should be screened by a Dr. to make sure you aren't suffering from depression.
2006-12-22 04:00:32 · answer #1 · answered by Stiletto ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. Because I don't know your life. But YOU do. Why do you think it is so low?
We begin our lives here on this planet feeling 100% right about ourselves and 100% beautiful. We know we are loved and we expect to be loved. We need to be loved. Self-doubt enters our lives where that need is not met. Not having that need met leads a child to assume "I'm not worthy of love". For some reason, like for example "I'm fat and ugly".
Where in your life has your need to be loved unconditionally (to be made to feel 100% right and beautiful exactly the way you are) not been met?
When you see that YOU were right to need that love... that you were totally worthy of it... that the real reason you didn't get it was not that there was something wrong with YOU but that the people around you were unable to give it to you, for some reason connected with their own lives... then you can have compassion with yourself instead of putting yourself down.
It's not about blaming the others who were unable to give you that love, because even the worst parents do the best they can within the context of their own lives... Allowing all your feelings (anger, sadness, whatever they may be) is healthy though... The most important part is to see that whatever happened or didn't happen was wrong, not you. So that you can see that you are 100% right and 100% beautiful.
2006-12-22 19:21:28 · answer #2 · answered by s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a self indulgent, piteous personality that enjoys hearing how attractive and thin you are on a constant basis by constantly putting yourself down in front of those who you know will only correct you, because no one gives you the attention you really want because you really are just common and not really all that special?
It's possible...
and if you were happy with yourself. You wouldn't need constant reassurance, forced praise or attention.
Just being honest... Not trying to be mean.
So tell me when the smoke stops coming out of your nose and you're done reporting me, just how right I am?
2006-12-22 12:01:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be peer pressure. Could be parental messages. Could be unbelievably intolerant message sent to girls by the media. Could be that only white, thin, wapsy stick chicks are considered beautiful in our society.
We are always our worst critics. This usually fades with age. We tend to accept ourselves physically better when we get older. But most girls have this difficulty in early years.
You're not alone with this problem. Talk to your doctor about it.
2006-12-22 12:00:45 · answer #4 · answered by heathen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you choose to be your little insecure and you need someone to help you lift yourself up off the ground
because from here theres no way but up
2006-12-22 12:04:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋