well ok im in 8th grade and so is my boyfriend well my science teacher always like looks at my chest and butt....my boyfriend has his class with me and he notices it..too.....well i didnt give him a school pic but he has one of me inside his desk....crepy!....adn then yesterday at school...teachers got to pick students to go to their class rooms and he got the first choice and he picked me...I WAS THE FIRST ONE!!!!!....is he a pedofile?....does he have a crush on me?....
2006-12-22 03:54:46 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Teaching
He has a crush and it is creepy, but don't be scared. I really doubt he'll hurt you--he just likes looking at you. It's one of the problems with being beautiful--people treat you differently and sometimes inapproriately. I doubt he'll touch you, and you'll probably get a little help in the grades, so roll with it. If he does something really bad, like patting your butt or something, tell him off or report him to the principal.
Just because you are under 18 doesn't mean you won't be attractive to adults (how attractive he finds you is not really under his control). What is under his control is what he does about it--which should be to keep his hands off and his conversations about the subject he is teaching you. But don't hate him because you are beautiful! Realize that a lot of people, even some who couldn't/shouldn't ever date you, will look at you-just smile or roll your eyes in disgust--it's up to you.
2006-12-22 04:15:17 · answer #1 · answered by wayfaroutthere 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This is something you as a child should not have to worry about at school...which should be a safe place for you at all times. There is really nothing you can do about a glance from a teacher, but if he is gawking or staring at you, that is very inappropriate. I am questioning why he has your picture on his desk, too. Is it the only picture he has on his desk? Are there other students' pictures? If you did not give him the picture, where did he get it? If it is just an extra picture, why did he choose to display it on his desk? All this would make me uncomfortable, too, I think. I would discuss it with your parents and guidance counselor and explain why it makes you feel uncomfortable. Perhaps this is not the first time it has happened with him??? Your counselor should be able to help you know what to do. It does not mean he is a pedophile or that he has a crush on you, but anytime you are feeling uncomfortable about any adult you are forced to be around, you should tell some other adult you trust.
2006-12-22 22:12:46 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Sweetmusic ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He most certainly has a crush on you and someday may take the advances further than just looking! I am a middle school teacher and the previous reply that "we all look because you're cute" doesn't fly...maybe that person has a problem as well. I've been doing this for 26 yrs, have seen many attractive young ladies and that's it...there is a beautiful and supportive wife at home and children I love dearly, why in the world would I jepoardize 16 years?
Best advice, have a discussion with an admin/counselor you can trust about the teacher's behavior you find "uncomfortable". Could be something...could be nothing...be aware and start keeping a written log of events to back up any further problems.
2006-12-22 19:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by thepianoman1457 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you really think there is inappropriate behavior, you need to speak to a grown-up that you can trust.
Don't make accusations, just say there are things that make you uncomfortable and explain what they are. Perhaps with the help of a guidance counselor or V.P. they will either stop him from behaving inappropriately to you or any other student or at the very least, help him understand how his actions may give off the wrong impression.
Whether the behavior is intentional or just random coincidence, the bottom line is you don't feel "safe" and you have a right to be comfortable in your classroom.
2006-12-22 16:04:18 · answer #4 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, it is weird if he is looking at your chest and butt. If he hasn't said or done anything you really don't have much to report to the principal or other authorities. It wouldn't hurt to tell your mom your suspicions, though. If he ever says anything about your looks, your outfits or anything sexual that is something to report. If he touches you, of course you should report that. By the way, I have pictures of my students in my desk right now because the school just gave me the extras. I haven't decided what to do with the extras yet. It might be as innocent as that, but you can't be too sure.
2006-12-22 13:30:26 · answer #5 · answered by caring_funlovingteacher 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask to speak to the school counselor about it. At first don't even mention the teacher's name- you don't want to come across like you're trying to wrongfully accuse anyone. Talk with the counselor about how it makes you uncomfortable and is affecting your ability to concentrate in class. Hopefully the counselor will have the presence of mind to speak candidly with the principal, who will then in turn speak candidly with the teacher.
It's possible you're reading too much into nothing, but with the many news stories of creepy teachers (giving the rest of us a bad name), I wouldn't take my chances. The incident needs to be given attention. Refrain from talking about it with anyone and everyone at school. Handle it maturely and it will be taken seriously. Best wishes!
2006-12-22 22:58:26 · answer #6 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents, they should know what to do. This is inappropriate behavior for a teacher to be staring at you in that way and the picture in his desk IS creepy. You can't classify him a pedophile without proof but you don't want it to get that far and a crush, well sorry a crush is kids stuff and he is not a kid!!!
Tell your parents!!
2006-12-22 12:04:23 · answer #7 · answered by curious ma 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you smart? It's probably harmless and if you are cute he's going to notice. That doesn't mean that it's going to translate into action. I'm a teacher. We all get beautiful students. You can't help noticing, but it doesn't mean anything necessarily. You want to worry when he starts being cruel to you. That's the real tell-tale sign.
2006-12-22 12:00:30 · answer #8 · answered by wilf69 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋