why does my partner feel the need for constant sex and when I don't won't sex we argue he says he feels inadem

Question

he feels inadequate and that I don't won't him and the worse part is our sex life is so great

Answer 1

Sound like he's using sex to cover up the way he feels about himself. Suggest that he seeks consing to help him deal with his issues.

Answer 2

We live in a society... that people wonder what is wrong with you if you do not want sex from time to time.

And maybe there is a libido problem.. for that yes you must see a doctor..

However if your partner measures your relationship by sex.. then the problem lies within him. And if he feels inadiquate.. then he needs council. His problem is more than sex. His problem is that he feels anyhting else he has to contribute is not desirable enough for his partner.

Make sure you spend quality time that includes tons of laughter. That you are both sure each others presence and arms feel like home and the best place to be.

Make sure you tell him daily how you enjoy his company and his personality!

Sex is not the base of a relationship... it is the bi-product of a great relationship!

Answer 3

Until we finally accept that men and women are different in their sexual appetites this problem will continue to surface. And just a note for women, men in fact do know that sex and love are different, in fact it is women who have a hard time distinguishing. Humans are mammals first and foremost, which means that no matter what anyone wants to admit, we are animals. Women and men are driven by hormones, but different hormones. Women are driven to think more about sex and who they have sex with, since it could end up in pregnancy. There tends to be a lower sex drive due to that physiological make-up. Men are geared to have sex as many times as possible and also in fact with as many partners as possible. That is the man's contribution to the procreation of the species. A man's sex drive is extremely high fueled by the different hormones that we have.
So now back to you question, as opposed to you stating that he wants constant sex and pointing the finger at him, why is it that you do not want constant sex? Sex is a physical release for most people, it should be extremely pleasurable and it is physically as close as two people can get. So what is it that is causing you not to want to have sex, or not enjoying sex?

Answer 4

Men are like a light switch and is very easy to turn it on and perform. Where women need more time to get into it. Since you stated that sex is great but the timing is off. Try to change the routine that will spice things up for both of you. Sex is a great stress reliever for men and the release is like a dropping a pile of heavy bricks. If he is using sex like this there might be other ways to reduce his stress levels. It sounds like that you have a healthy sexual relationship that just needs some fine tuning. But remember that the male ego is such a fragile thing try talking to him after his stress levels are satisfied and maybe you can compromise on what you and he really need. Good Luck

Answer 5

Men see sex as affection and a way of displaying love. It also sounds like he is using those accusations to get what he wants. He is being a bit of a baby. Maybe some counselling is in order to help him understand how women think, namely you, so he won't think you are just neglecting him when you tell him that sex right this minute needs to wait. he needs to know that you want it to and you aren't just turning it down because you don't love him, or don't enjoy being intimate with him.

Answer 6

Instead of turning him down, find other ways to release his pent up energy. The more you turn him down, the worse off things are. Sex is how men feel intimacy. It has been said that withholding sex from a husband is the same as withholding conversation from a wife. You don't want him to become frustrated and feel inadiquate. It will become a wedge between you.

Answer 7

Many people just don't feel like having sex if they feel too tired or may not confident about something or have health problems or even unsure if can perform well in bed

Sometimes it's wrong timing. IF that's the case I'm afraid you have to make an appointment with him..haha!

Anyway as you said it is great then it's better to find out what makes you don't feel like having it, communicate with him, talk it over and find the resolution together

Good luck!

Answer 8

Well I don't know if its true but I hear that women need to feel loved to have sex and men need to have sex to feel loved, its a horrible generalization but for men again a generalization sex is like a sport that they seem to atttach to there egos perhaps because he thinks you don't love him for that that its something of him that you don't love. Him being the Ego. Not to say women don't have egos oh they do but its different its a lot more narisistic an equilibrium of pride and shame thats easily disrupted.

Answer 9

He probably feels the need because he is a guy and he loves you. My boyfriend is really great. He always has the need as well but with us we have a really strong bond and it's not just sex with us its love. Showing for one another. You should talk to him communication never hurts.

Answer 10

Im the same as you. My girlfriend is constantly wanting sex. We do it about every other day, but she still complains.

The only reason I dont get into it always is because I do most of the work.

But its weird, maybe we should be together!

Answer 11

tell you love him but your not going to always want to have sex. He has to understand you two have two differnent sex drives because your two differnt people.Just make him feel special in other ways, like writing him sweet notes, sending him a card or just kissing him out of the blue the best you have. It sounds like he is insecure with himself.